You would utterly hate me, then. If I'm not actively practicing mindful listening* then I tend to interrupt people left and right.
I really, really try not to do it, but my brain works too fast and sometimes I finish people's sentences for them. I think it's doing them a service at the time, insofar as I saved them the effort of spelling out the whole thing, but in hindsight I feel like I've been an A-hole.
I do know it's a problem, and I even appreciate it when someone I know says something to the effect of, "Goddammit would you just let me finish!!" That specific wording has only been once, but I really needed it. I would rather get direct, unvarnished feedback in real time rather than unwittingly have my audience getting increasingly irritated over time but not saying anything.
Well, what "people" say usually only applies to normies. It blew my mind when I found out that actually most people think about suicide once or twice in their entire lives, as opposed to all day every day. You can readily spot this by the keyword, "just," as in "just think positive," "just do something enjoyable," or my personal favorite, "just decide to be happy!"
When you're struggling with something like suicide, there is no "Just" doing anything. It's like expecting someone with a broken leg to just walk it off, because that's how the involved normie dealt with their sprained ankle that one time. Unfortunately we have an invisible disability and not everyone can put themselves in our shoes for all sorts of different reasons.
* - mindful listening is really just stopping everything else you are doing and listening to the speaker with full attention, and no analysis or judgement. This can be powerful for relationship building, but yeah sometimes I need a verbal smack to the upside of the head - to remind me to listen as opposed to merely impatiently waiting for my turn to speak.
I really, really try not to do it, but my brain works too fast and sometimes I finish people's sentences for them. I think it's doing them a service at the time, insofar as I saved them the effort of spelling out the whole thing, but in hindsight I feel like I've been an A-hole.
I do know it's a problem, and I even appreciate it when someone I know says something to the effect of, "Goddammit would you just let me finish!!" That specific wording has only been once, but I really needed it. I would rather get direct, unvarnished feedback in real time rather than unwittingly have my audience getting increasingly irritated over time but not saying anything.
Well, what "people" say usually only applies to normies. It blew my mind when I found out that actually most people think about suicide once or twice in their entire lives, as opposed to all day every day. You can readily spot this by the keyword, "just," as in "just think positive," "just do something enjoyable," or my personal favorite, "just decide to be happy!"
When you're struggling with something like suicide, there is no "Just" doing anything. It's like expecting someone with a broken leg to just walk it off, because that's how the involved normie dealt with their sprained ankle that one time. Unfortunately we have an invisible disability and not everyone can put themselves in our shoes for all sorts of different reasons.
* - mindful listening is really just stopping everything else you are doing and listening to the speaker with full attention, and no analysis or judgement. This can be powerful for relationship building, but yeah sometimes I need a verbal smack to the upside of the head - to remind me to listen as opposed to merely impatiently waiting for my turn to speak.
