Hi all,
I have been in some kind of purgatory space of depression lately. After a brush with death in october, I am no longer actively suicidal and do not really see it as an option. I am also not feeling better or honestly, seeing any point to recover. But what do you do after "failing to off yourself" but also failing to live? Seeking tips, tricks and advice on attempting to find the point!
Short backstory to why I feel depressed; I have had recurring depressions for at least 15 years, some worse than others, but no less than once a year. Sometimes when life gets tough, but sometimes when all is fine. I feel suicidal even when I am not depressed too, at least once a month. I obvioulsy do have some problems in my life, being involountarily childless and unemployed at 32, plentyfold sexual assault and incest survivor, child of an abusive alcoholic, bullied at school, former pill popper and general self destructive person, however I sincerely do not think that is what I am depressed about anymore, if you would believe that.
I feel that what I have is not a chemical imbalance or any destructive patterns. I feel that what I am dealing with is an existential crisis. I do not know my purpose, I have no goals or dreams, I see no greater good in me staying alive, without me the world would be better or at least indifferent as a whole. Most of my feelings are related to big-picture-stuff, philosophical questions. My life is, and has been, very difficult. When I debate life in my own head, I am having a hard time finding the point to all of this suffering. I do not know why we all are fighting so hard to stay alive when so much in this world is painful and broken.
I don´t know how to start any kind of journey towards recovery. The thing is, a journey needs a goal, and I have none. Motivation, meaning and a sense of purpose is missing from my life. I still have all the signs and behaviours of depression; apetite-problems, sleeping issues, lack of energy, ghost-pains, brainfog, dark thoughts etc. I feel like I am stuck in the middle between living and dying. Either one requires an active desicion on my part. Can anybody relate to this, or is it just wierd? If you know what I mean, how did you get past it?
Somehow I get forgetful between episodes, and do not remember how I got out last time. I feel like it is time to make a desicion, I can´t just float along like this anymore. I feel like either desicion would be better than this directionless, pointless, and numb nothingness. I need some advice on how to find some meaning, and I do understand that purpose is very personal but I would really love to hear what you find meaning in.
Your personal purpose may not be mine, but I am very much interested in learning how you figured out what yours is!
I have been in some kind of purgatory space of depression lately. After a brush with death in october, I am no longer actively suicidal and do not really see it as an option. I am also not feeling better or honestly, seeing any point to recover. But what do you do after "failing to off yourself" but also failing to live? Seeking tips, tricks and advice on attempting to find the point!
Short backstory to why I feel depressed; I have had recurring depressions for at least 15 years, some worse than others, but no less than once a year. Sometimes when life gets tough, but sometimes when all is fine. I feel suicidal even when I am not depressed too, at least once a month. I obvioulsy do have some problems in my life, being involountarily childless and unemployed at 32, plentyfold sexual assault and incest survivor, child of an abusive alcoholic, bullied at school, former pill popper and general self destructive person, however I sincerely do not think that is what I am depressed about anymore, if you would believe that.
I feel that what I have is not a chemical imbalance or any destructive patterns. I feel that what I am dealing with is an existential crisis. I do not know my purpose, I have no goals or dreams, I see no greater good in me staying alive, without me the world would be better or at least indifferent as a whole. Most of my feelings are related to big-picture-stuff, philosophical questions. My life is, and has been, very difficult. When I debate life in my own head, I am having a hard time finding the point to all of this suffering. I do not know why we all are fighting so hard to stay alive when so much in this world is painful and broken.
I don´t know how to start any kind of journey towards recovery. The thing is, a journey needs a goal, and I have none. Motivation, meaning and a sense of purpose is missing from my life. I still have all the signs and behaviours of depression; apetite-problems, sleeping issues, lack of energy, ghost-pains, brainfog, dark thoughts etc. I feel like I am stuck in the middle between living and dying. Either one requires an active desicion on my part. Can anybody relate to this, or is it just wierd? If you know what I mean, how did you get past it?
Somehow I get forgetful between episodes, and do not remember how I got out last time. I feel like it is time to make a desicion, I can´t just float along like this anymore. I feel like either desicion would be better than this directionless, pointless, and numb nothingness. I need some advice on how to find some meaning, and I do understand that purpose is very personal but I would really love to hear what you find meaning in.
Your personal purpose may not be mine, but I am very much interested in learning how you figured out what yours is!