Okay I admit the title is clickbait. I've had over five years of therapy and I believe it gave me the ability to live a functional life - to go to school, get married, work a job.... But I do wonder about its limitations. I mean, I was abused mentally and emotionally for a good portion of the 19 years before I left my mother's house. I won't go into details but it was tremendously damaging. The abuse combined with my religious upbringing convinced me I was a bad person who deserved to go to Hell and that I was selfish (a word I had heard applied to myself thousands of times, since I was old enough to understand words) and unacceptable in every way.
But here's the thing - I don't just want to work a 9-5 job. I want to write good stories and books. And writing digs into your soul and exposes all those dark secrets, awkwardness and deficiencies. Can therapy REALLY make me so whole as a human being that I can be fully creative? And yes, I know that many famous writers came from tough backgrounds, but I'm talking about overcoming directed personal attacks on a daily basis. Words used as swords - so how can I trust words now? Also, it's been shown that writing (from journaling to fiction writing) does actually have some mental benefit. However, the only way to know whether abuse will hamper creativity is to compare how many successful writers there are from backgrounds of child abuse COMPARED to how many people from the same backgrounds do not succeed. And then in turn compare that to writers from decent backgrounds. Those statistics don't exist. Same applies to writers with depression. It's not the fact that there are many writers with depression that's important. It's how severe it is, how many succeed compared to failing, and how many succeed compared to those who are more mentally healthy.
And I fully realize that none of this really shows whether or not *I* will succeed, but it couldn't hurt for me to see myself as deeply lovable and worthy, in order to allow me to take risks like approaching an agent or publisher. I feel like in order to see myself like that, I pretty much have to see EVERYONE as lovable and worthy, because my mind won't accept that I might actually be better than anyone else, except maybe someone who tortures animals or abuses children because I don't do those things. So yeah... everyone is lovable and worthy. A fairly simple concept. So what did therapy do for me again?
I admit it's late here and I'm rambling. But my whole life, even with therapy, I have suffered from deep feelings of shame and failure. I'm just not sure the well of creativity in me hasn't been affected in some way that's beyond repair. If only I just wanted to have a job like most people, accumulate material possessions and retire rich. Look good on Facebook. But no, I want a deeper life.
But here's the thing - I don't just want to work a 9-5 job. I want to write good stories and books. And writing digs into your soul and exposes all those dark secrets, awkwardness and deficiencies. Can therapy REALLY make me so whole as a human being that I can be fully creative? And yes, I know that many famous writers came from tough backgrounds, but I'm talking about overcoming directed personal attacks on a daily basis. Words used as swords - so how can I trust words now? Also, it's been shown that writing (from journaling to fiction writing) does actually have some mental benefit. However, the only way to know whether abuse will hamper creativity is to compare how many successful writers there are from backgrounds of child abuse COMPARED to how many people from the same backgrounds do not succeed. And then in turn compare that to writers from decent backgrounds. Those statistics don't exist. Same applies to writers with depression. It's not the fact that there are many writers with depression that's important. It's how severe it is, how many succeed compared to failing, and how many succeed compared to those who are more mentally healthy.
And I fully realize that none of this really shows whether or not *I* will succeed, but it couldn't hurt for me to see myself as deeply lovable and worthy, in order to allow me to take risks like approaching an agent or publisher. I feel like in order to see myself like that, I pretty much have to see EVERYONE as lovable and worthy, because my mind won't accept that I might actually be better than anyone else, except maybe someone who tortures animals or abuses children because I don't do those things. So yeah... everyone is lovable and worthy. A fairly simple concept. So what did therapy do for me again?
I admit it's late here and I'm rambling. But my whole life, even with therapy, I have suffered from deep feelings of shame and failure. I'm just not sure the well of creativity in me hasn't been affected in some way that's beyond repair. If only I just wanted to have a job like most people, accumulate material possessions and retire rich. Look good on Facebook. But no, I want a deeper life.
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