Hello guys! This is my first time posting something not as a story, so I'm just talking out of personal experiences, I just experienced another breakup following my story #3 in which i was talking about a girl i was in a relationship with (We just broke up 4 hours ago and she blocked me for the first time so I'm guessing that's it)
But anyway, this thread is not directed to her nor to anyone in specific this is me just stating what I've learned from my intimate interactions with the opposite sex (women in my case)
Now before I say anything, I'm not generalizing, I'm not directing this to ALL WOMEN I'm just stating how odd relationships have been for me.
Getting right to it, my first actual relationship was with a girl who I don't think loved me nor I loved her, It was online and It was a long distanced one I never saw her she never saw me and I was too young so I don't think I should babble much about this, I'll move on to relationship #2,
I met a girl and we clicked pretty fast, we spent days talking, we texted 15 texts per minute and this is how most of my relationships begin tbh! Me and another person clicking so well, we get to know each other more and i get attached and they (probably) got temporarily attached to me as well and it goes official.
But when i look back at things, It feels like I'm always the one in control when a relationship starts, I'm the one calling shots, I'm never hurt and my partner is always pleasing me even when we fight it's not ugly.
BUT when time passes, after a while, after a few fights, when i get too attached probably, when i start actually caring for someone, it kind of changes, its not the same as before.
Even when they say they love me it doesn't feel like it.
Do you ever get that vibe that it's just not there anymore? Even if they say they love you, It's just not the same as it was first? You don't feel that love aura from them anymore. Am i imagining this or is it real?
It happened with that relationship #2 i stated, she left me with no explanation whatsoever until i finally reached her and she said it wasn't comfortable to talk to me anymore and that was when i picked up the pieces and just walked away.
Relationship #3 was literally the same! This is why the post won't go longer beyond this point, I'd literally be repeating myself, In the beginning, I'm the one in control because I don't care much, then gradually, i start caring, i get attached and i show so much love and attention i swear to you guys I'm such a passionate lover and when i care for someone i'm ready to give them the world.
Then she changed, I was getting hurt over and over until the whole thing ended badly.
Now jumping to the girl i broke up with 4 hours ago, I won't repeat myself just read the above, STILL AT FIRST I WAS THE ONE CALLING THE SHOTS.
Question is, why do people hate me when i start loving them deeply?
Am i too much? Is my love intolerable?
Please don't give me textbook answers that i just didn't find the right one yet, because if no one can give a valid answer, then you, yes YOU reader, i wrote on the thread title that this would open your mind, here it is:
Everyone advised me, everyone told me to not go too deep, don't do this, and i ignored them until my mom told me that there's no point telling me anything and that i need to go through this so that i'd learn that one SHOULD NOT and NEVER give people too much and she told me:
"Givers should be wary of their limits because takers don't have any"
So, here you go, if you don't want to get your heartbroken, start to ice that little heart of yours and never show anyone how much you love them if it's that deep, or AT LEAST give them JUST AS MUCH as they're giving you, you need to be really careful doing this because i (based on what i stated above) ruined my relationships by getting caught up and forgetting my limits so i end up spoiling it by giving too much i guess?
Yeah being a good person has a huge cost nowadays, not just relationships wise, you get my point, got any contrary thoughts? Has anyone actually loved someone that deep and gotten just as much back? Comment if you did I'll be watching this thread i can't sleep anyways.
But anyway, this thread is not directed to her nor to anyone in specific this is me just stating what I've learned from my intimate interactions with the opposite sex (women in my case)
Now before I say anything, I'm not generalizing, I'm not directing this to ALL WOMEN I'm just stating how odd relationships have been for me.
Getting right to it, my first actual relationship was with a girl who I don't think loved me nor I loved her, It was online and It was a long distanced one I never saw her she never saw me and I was too young so I don't think I should babble much about this, I'll move on to relationship #2,
I met a girl and we clicked pretty fast, we spent days talking, we texted 15 texts per minute and this is how most of my relationships begin tbh! Me and another person clicking so well, we get to know each other more and i get attached and they (probably) got temporarily attached to me as well and it goes official.
But when i look back at things, It feels like I'm always the one in control when a relationship starts, I'm the one calling shots, I'm never hurt and my partner is always pleasing me even when we fight it's not ugly.
BUT when time passes, after a while, after a few fights, when i get too attached probably, when i start actually caring for someone, it kind of changes, its not the same as before.
Even when they say they love me it doesn't feel like it.
Do you ever get that vibe that it's just not there anymore? Even if they say they love you, It's just not the same as it was first? You don't feel that love aura from them anymore. Am i imagining this or is it real?
It happened with that relationship #2 i stated, she left me with no explanation whatsoever until i finally reached her and she said it wasn't comfortable to talk to me anymore and that was when i picked up the pieces and just walked away.
Relationship #3 was literally the same! This is why the post won't go longer beyond this point, I'd literally be repeating myself, In the beginning, I'm the one in control because I don't care much, then gradually, i start caring, i get attached and i show so much love and attention i swear to you guys I'm such a passionate lover and when i care for someone i'm ready to give them the world.
Then she changed, I was getting hurt over and over until the whole thing ended badly.
Now jumping to the girl i broke up with 4 hours ago, I won't repeat myself just read the above, STILL AT FIRST I WAS THE ONE CALLING THE SHOTS.
Question is, why do people hate me when i start loving them deeply?
Am i too much? Is my love intolerable?
Please don't give me textbook answers that i just didn't find the right one yet, because if no one can give a valid answer, then you, yes YOU reader, i wrote on the thread title that this would open your mind, here it is:
Everyone advised me, everyone told me to not go too deep, don't do this, and i ignored them until my mom told me that there's no point telling me anything and that i need to go through this so that i'd learn that one SHOULD NOT and NEVER give people too much and she told me:
"Givers should be wary of their limits because takers don't have any"
So, here you go, if you don't want to get your heartbroken, start to ice that little heart of yours and never show anyone how much you love them if it's that deep, or AT LEAST give them JUST AS MUCH as they're giving you, you need to be really careful doing this because i (based on what i stated above) ruined my relationships by getting caught up and forgetting my limits so i end up spoiling it by giving too much i guess?
Yeah being a good person has a huge cost nowadays, not just relationships wise, you get my point, got any contrary thoughts? Has anyone actually loved someone that deep and gotten just as much back? Comment if you did I'll be watching this thread i can't sleep anyways.
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