Empathy Only (trigger warning i guess) im going to end it

[Dante]

Thank you. Glad you talked to him. Did it help him to feel validated. That you talked to him. ?

My dad and me... lets just say our relationship was significantly strained for several years whilst he was going through the divorce and my sister wasnt talking to him, he put a lot on me, he just kinda clung on and it was kinda emotionally taxing. But I dont know, I think it helped to have someone around.

 

[mimi_]

I think a good therapist is a wakeup call to most, I had a counsellor at university, I was the closest to killing myself then than I have ever been, I was truly broken, and before I shut down (just skipping over that part for now) there was a moment where I actually made my counsellor cry just by talking about how I felt. I will never forget that. I was so surprised that the feeling cut through the numb a bit. Seeing how horrified and broken healthy people can be when exposed to what we carry is validating in a way, and can be the first moment we really realise we arent ok.

i had some moments when people were shocked and sad when i try to talk with them about my problems and it really is shocking. i hope things are getting better for you like i hope it will get better for me

 

[mimi_]

I understand your situation. My father does some things that he shouldn't. I get your mind tricking you. Is there someone you can talk to in real life? I find it helpful to always have someone that I can always text or call when I am feeling really down. Sometimes all you even need is a reminder that you do matter. And that things can get better. But remember that they can only get better if you try. I hope that you are seeing a therapist and that you will slowly work towards recovery after this traumatic experience. You can do this girl!

i actually told about my uncle to my family and they were pissed as hell with my uncle, so i thought they would help me in this but they seemed to forget since they always call him to our house and call him “brother”. they dont even listen when i try to say that i feel extremely uncomfortable with that men around. but i do have some friends and a partner who i can talk with and i frequent therapy and psychiatrist. it really does help talk about this with someone who actually listens to you. i hope your situation with your father gets better thank you!

 

[Waves]

My dad and me... lets just say our relationship was significantly strained for several years whilst he was going through the divorce and my sister wasnt talking to him, he put a lot on me, he just kinda clung on and it was kinda emotionally taxing. But I dont know, I think it helped to have someone around.

I know it did. Glad you did. Saved a soul.

 

[PurpleWolf08]

i actually told about my uncle to my family and they were pissed as hell with my uncle, so i thought they would help me in this but they seemed to forget since they always call him to our house and call him “brother”. they dont even listen when i try to say that i feel extremely uncomfortable with that men around. but i do have some friends and a partner who i can talk with and i frequent therapy and psychiatrist. it really does help talk about this with someone who actually listens to you. i hope your situation with your father gets better thank you!

It is good that you are seeing a therapist and psychiatrist. Is it possible that your family is trying to make what your uncle has done a fantasy? As in they are trying to either ignore it or act like it never happened? I would say that if they continue to do this, you may need to sit down with them and re-explain everything. I know that may be awkward but it may be the only way to get your point across.The other thing that you could do is remove yourself from the uncomfortable scenarios. That way everyone else could be around him if they really feel comfortable doing that. I have found that removing yourself from the presence of the people who either are not listening or are making you uncomfortable tends to make a statement. Actions speak louder than words.

You got this girl!

 

[Dante]

i had some moments when people were shocked and sad when i try to talk with them about my problems and it really is shocking. i hope things are getting better for you like i hope it will get better for me

This year has been a real improvement for me, I found my first massive step forward, hopefully out of the cycle of depression to "ok" back to depression again every few years, and now Im trying to keep up the momentum, but its not easy because I feel like I'm running headfirst through all the crap in my own head I forgot was there.

I wish you good luck in finding and taking your first step towards getting better