What is attractive to gay men?

[Kayetan]

I never thought of that, but I've never been in the situation of a girl hitting on me, so I really don't know what my reaction would be. I am certain however, that I wouldn't have been so affected if it was a girl, just for the fact of society's acceptance of that being normal.

 

[ybt]

No offense to women in general, but there seems to be alot of very hurt men who are tired of manipulative, mind-game playing women in this world. Alot of women think that they can keep on getting away with hurting men's emotions, because they think that men are so desperate to have sex with a woman, that men will put up with it, or cheat with another woman. Alot of men aren't cheating anymore. They are giving up on women. Either they purchase elaborate sex toys, such as the real doll, or they experiment with other men, knowing it is less likely another man will emotionally hurt them. Not to say that another man won't hurt them, though it is less likely to occur, especially if the other man has been hurt in the past by women also.

In your situation, Kayetan, I'm not surprised that so many guys are flirting with you. I doubt all of them are totally gay either. Most likely, many of them are fed up with women and are seeking for something less destructive to their emotional well-being. There are alot of men who want love, not just sex, and apparently, are wanting to find it with you. Don't be discouraged. It is complimentary that you are being flirted with by these guys. Remember, they aren't just a gender, they are people who want love. The issue now is, what you want. If you want love and can be comfortable being with guys, then go for it. If you can only see yourself with a woman, then take the chance with women, and hopefully you won't be hurt. There are good women in this world, just beware of the evilness.

I find this wrong and an incredible generalization. Obviously you're speaking from your personal experiences, I'm not going to put it down or denounce that. And it also leans way too much to one side, it gives off the air that all women are evil manipulative whatever. From MY experience there are far more manipulative men than women, and I think that's a global truth, but that's just a theory with no studies to back it up. Not that people do studies about that anyway. Whoever does has a very boring job and should probably consider a new one.

You also can't judge sexualities. Unless you know these people personally, you don't know whether they tried experimenting or are truly gay, or whatever. In any case, I'm a believer in the fact that sexuality is determined from birth, and that you don't become gay because no woman would 'take you'. You can try experimenting, but ultimately, if you're heterosexual, you'll remain heterosexual, you won't turn homosexual because of bad experiences.