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What's the point of living if nobody loves you?
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Face-to-face relationships are good, but having contact with people here is good too. The process of making connections here could help you connect with people in person, too.
What do you think the obstacles are to making connections to people in person? You may be better looking than you think you are, but beyond that, there are plenty of people who aren't especially good-looking who still find a way to connect to other people.
What do you think the obstacles are to making connections to people in person? You may be better looking than you think you are, but beyond that, there are plenty of people who aren't especially good-looking who still find a way to connect to other people.
People who are suicidal very often have some sort of negative delusion that is part of being suicidal. Usually that delusion is that whatever problem you are experiencing can't get better and that suicide is the only option.
The reason for living is not to keep living an unhappy life, but rather to make changes that will allow you to have a life that you feel is worth living.
The first step is to stop being your own worst enemy. The next is to become your own best friend.
I don't know your personal history, what you've been through, or even all of the conditions now that you are suffering, but if you can talk about any kind of treatment methods that you've tried, maybe we can brainstorm a better solution for you than suicide
The reason for living is not to keep living an unhappy life, but rather to make changes that will allow you to have a life that you feel is worth living.
The first step is to stop being your own worst enemy. The next is to become your own best friend.
I don't know your personal history, what you've been through, or even all of the conditions now that you are suffering, but if you can talk about any kind of treatment methods that you've tried, maybe we can brainstorm a better solution for you than suicide
You're alive for yourself, not for anyone else. I know it's hard to be alone, I really do; expecially right now I'm going through a terrible lonely time again, but please remember that this state isn't permanent. If you take your own life you won't ever have the chance to see how it gets better again.
Please take care
Please take care
@May I've been suffering my whole life. Ever since I can remember I was bullied over being ugly. I used to shrug them off. But now that I'm an adult I realize that it wasn't just bullying. Those guys were speaking facts. I'm ugly. I've never, ever been in a relationship. Girls just look at me from a far and turn away. It's impossible to live like this. I have decided that there really is no point in me living anymore. Why bother if I'm only ever gonna be said.
I'm sorry that you've been bullied all your life. I'm sorry that you've suffered so much
Just because something hasn't been so in the past doesn't mean it has to always be that way. You're 20, right? That's still quite young, there are lots of people who have never had relationships at that age. And plenty of people who have never had relationships at that age who go on to have relationships later.
I know it may be hard to try to make changes that make your life better, but it is possible.
I don't know what you actually look like, but what you look like doesn't have to be the be-all and end-all of your life.
You can be loved by someone just the way you are.
Beyond that, the meaning of your life doesn't have to revolve around romantic relationships.
Mean things that people said to you about your appearance were intended to be mean. Then don't necessarily reflect reality. I met a woman once who was told that she was uglier than a dog by guys in her high school. I don't know if she changed at all by the time I saw her, but she was gorgeous, stunning even.
Just because something hasn't been so in the past doesn't mean it has to always be that way. You're 20, right? That's still quite young, there are lots of people who have never had relationships at that age. And plenty of people who have never had relationships at that age who go on to have relationships later.
I know it may be hard to try to make changes that make your life better, but it is possible.
I don't know what you actually look like, but what you look like doesn't have to be the be-all and end-all of your life.
You can be loved by someone just the way you are.
Beyond that, the meaning of your life doesn't have to revolve around romantic relationships.
Mean things that people said to you about your appearance were intended to be mean. Then don't necessarily reflect reality. I met a woman once who was told that she was uglier than a dog by guys in her high school. I don't know if she changed at all by the time I saw her, but she was gorgeous, stunning even.
But it's hard. Hard to live a life like some outcast. It's hard to see my friends go out with their girlfriends and have fun while I can't even get a girl to look at me twice. People say it's OK to be single but I know it's not. And people may be mean, but they do speak the truth. When the same sentiment is displayed by hundred different people, it's better to believe it's the truth. I once asked women on a different site "what it would take for an ugly guy to get your attention?" Almost all the responses were "Nothing. I won't date you if you're ugly." I naively believed that it didn't matter if I was ugly. I don't anymore.
I can sympathize with the original poster. I also feel very ugly and that no women could possibly be attracted to me. It's a terrible feeling to know that great-looking people (who sometimes are very unethical & rude) are never lonely, solely because of their looks. That hurt me the most when my looks were taken away from me. I used to be very confident in my looks (as some posters on here may know), but not anymore. I also have the problem that I feel like nobody would care if I died. I cannot talk to most of my friends about this, and I don't think any of them would care very much if I died. I just think most people are unwilling, incapable, or too selfish to deal with people who are suicidal. I pride myself on not being that way at all, and have helped plenty of depressed people like myself.
Gufestus, do you have any family members that truly care about you? I'm sure that you do. Also, you're so young bro. You are way too young to be thinking about ending your life. When I was 20-years-old, I was s virgin and never had a girlfriend either. Like you, I saw plenty of my friends with their girlfriends yet I didn't have one. But things eventually turned around for me. I thought I'd be so clueless around women, but to my surprise, women actually responded well to me. For instance, one girl commented that I was a great kisser, yet I'd barely kissed anyone before. I know that the same thing can happen for you too. As cliché as it may sound, you are so very young and you do have your whole life ahead of you.
Gufestus, do you have any family members that truly care about you? I'm sure that you do. Also, you're so young bro. You are way too young to be thinking about ending your life. When I was 20-years-old, I was s virgin and never had a girlfriend either. Like you, I saw plenty of my friends with their girlfriends yet I didn't have one. But things eventually turned around for me. I thought I'd be so clueless around women, but to my surprise, women actually responded well to me. For instance, one girl commented that I was a great kisser, yet I'd barely kissed anyone before. I know that the same thing can happen for you too. As cliché as it may sound, you are so very young and you do have your whole life ahead of you.
when you say that you don't like that other people look good and get things that you don't, that's called being envious,it's a very ugly trait in itself. You can have a pity party but I will only see it as something to loath, I'm not going to pour sympathy on people who want this attitude. Life is not just about you. But if it was you still don't respect yourself. It doesn't matter how many people care if you die, cause we all die anyway. It sounds really childish to say 'no one cares and poor me'. This is the most unattractive inappropriate type of attitude you could choose to have. It's irrelevant to any kind of strength or courage or meaning about real life.
I really don't understand how this would help this person to say you are a great kisser. Everyone is different to compare yourself to him and his life is totally inappropriate, it doesn't matter about the age difference you can't look down on someone just cause they are younger, and tell them that things will be different, you don't even know them for starters. It's essentially really rude.[/quote]
I really don't understand how this would help this person to say you are a great kisser. Everyone is different to compare yourself to him and his life is totally inappropriate, it doesn't matter about the age difference you can't look down on someone just cause they are younger, and tell them that things will be different, you don't even know them for starters. It's essentially really rude.[/quote]
"Like if you really want to die just go for it, that's life." Thank you Ralph. I needed that. I realise I'm needy. I know I get envious of other people because I too would like to get good looks and be treated like a human being rather than trash. Thanks for reminding me that could never happen. Sorry I wasted your and everybody else's time. 
Guess it's time to go.
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