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I have been eccentric all my life, I'm 18, senior in high school, exams are up, to be honest I cannot focus on anything, I used to be good at things, but slowly a distraction just took it all away, I fell in love with this guy for 2 years we were together, I loved him and so did he, but, due to a big conflict everything fell apart, he left, I said I don't want to hurt him and said I'll just kill myself because I can't see it going like that, I sent him the final message promising him that I'll be dead and gone, and <mod edit - method> but I'm coward, I'm trapped, I want to be with him, he was a soulmate, but I told him that I'm killing myself, if I don't do it, he will die, if I do, I'll die, I'm trapped, can't see anything, just, have those pills still in my hand, gathered enough courage to try to open up, but you know, it wasn't like normal, it meant everything to me, and to him too, but he's gone, and I should too, but I don't have the courage, I can't see anything
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Hey, listen, like the message I sent you a while ago says you cannot write about methods of killing yourself here. For one, doing what you think you are going to do is not going to kill you so think reasonably here.
How would you feel if someone told you that they were going to kill themselves because you broke up? That's a real shit thing to do to someone. How do you think he's feeling right now with a message saying you are going to kill yourself? Try to think straight about what you can to right now, tonight to be safe.
Can you go to a hospital right now and tell them how you're feeling? Do you live with your parents?
How would you feel if someone told you that they were going to kill themselves because you broke up? That's a real shit thing to do to someone. How do you think he's feeling right now with a message saying you are going to kill yourself? Try to think straight about what you can to right now, tonight to be safe.
Can you go to a hospital right now and tell them how you're feeling? Do you live with your parents?
Hi again,
It's not that you shouldn't post anything but rather that posts have to fall within the rules. Methods of suicide just aren't allowed here nor are timelines (which your post includes both of by saying "I'm going to do <this thing> right now"
You're really free to say just about anything else that's on your mind though. What happened with your boyfriend that made you guys break up?
It's not that you shouldn't post anything but rather that posts have to fall within the rules. Methods of suicide just aren't allowed here nor are timelines (which your post includes both of by saying "I'm going to do <this thing> right now"
You're really free to say just about anything else that's on your mind though. What happened with your boyfriend that made you guys break up?
He asked for some pics, you know, nudes, I resented, it's like we've been together for 2 years LDR, but, my moral upbringing and my being religious, made me, say some words that he now thinks that I believe that he is a pervert. And so he is hurt, I know, maybe, I regret now, I should have valued his being around for so long too, but it came off like I didn't, that hurt him, and he went away, he put just one condition that he will cheat on me if I want to stay, and I'd have to watch him cheat on me, as I cannot quite get that what it needs to KEEP A MAN, idk, he loves me, but this has been going on for 3 days now, and I can't do anything about it, nothing could change his mind
It's like, I want to stay, but if I stay, he will do what he said, and, if I don't stay, I simply won't be able to bear it, without him, living without him, he was the one who helped me a lot, who made me comfortable, he was the only one who understood Me, stood by me, but now, he said not even my tears matter anymore, I simply just can't leave or get over him, and simply just can't ! In these three days, I pleaded him a lot, a lot, but he said, he is firm in his decision, and I may go if I want to, or stick around and watch him cheat on me with many girls
Hi @margs . I'm sorry your boyfriend acted this way with you. This is NOT what you need to do to keep a man, sweetie. This is what you need to keep a bad guy, and you deserve way better than being cheated on, being threatened to be cheated on, or someone who leaves you because you don't want to send him any kind of pictures. You are allowed to say no to anything that you don't want to do. You don't want to be with someone like him, he obviously didn't respect and love you enough to stay with you if you didn't send him some sexual material. A man can refrain from having sex if he's committed to a person he loves, it's not how it works. That is not someone you want to be with your whole life. I'm really sorry, break ups are hard, especially the first one, but you will find a better person for you in the future. 
Okay, so I get that this guy has been around for you. I do. But you deserve more than he's giving you. I'm sorry but no one who cares for you would ask you for something you don't want to do -- and that means sending the photos initially and DEFINITELY not watching him have sex with someone else. That is asinine behavior on his part and he's using you for no good reason. This guy doesn't care about you on the same level as you care about him. (He sounds like a straight up asshole to me, in fact) I know it's hard to lose people in your life -- people come here all the time because of loss. But are you two going to be together forever? Its been 2 years, right? Have you made plans to move and be closer to each other and seal this? (I do realize you are young) If you aren't making solid plans (and I mean SOLID) to be together at this point then I think the time is now to let him do what he wants, which is clearly to have sex with others. He's only using this break up scenario as a means to get it with your "consent".
This guy is not the only guy out there. Who you are with at 18 is nearly never the person you're going to end up with forever, you know?
This guy is not the only guy out there. Who you are with at 18 is nearly never the person you're going to end up with forever, you know?
He sounds like a liar. 
Forcing his girlfriend to send him nudes is not a behaviour of a good man, sweetie. This is sexual abuse.
He's not the only one who will TRULY understand you. If he did, he would never have asked something like that from you, or rather, he would have dropped it the minute you said you didn't want to. Again, this is NOT okay!
Forcing his girlfriend to send him nudes is not a behaviour of a good man, sweetie. This is sexual abuse. He's not the only one who will TRULY understand you. If he did, he would never have asked something like that from you, or rather, he would have dropped it the minute you said you didn't want to. Again, this is NOT okay!
I'm enraged by this guys behavior. I can't even get past it actually.
yes I realize this is not my thread.
yes I realize this is not my thread.
He had been abused by his father in the past, still his father beats him up for no reason and is really toxic to him, his mother passed away when he was 10, he had had many relationships in the past but they were the ones to cheat on him, when I met him, he used to drink heavily, and was going through a serious vocal cord damage that even lost his voice for a long time, he is living in pain, and so was i, I live with my parents but they never never ever took me seriously, it's all, pressure from all side, we were peaceful, everything was peaceful, he used to call me a soulmate, even said after it that all he wanted to see in that pic is that I was confident (few days ago I told him I'm very insecure of my body), and he said that it's the reason why he asked me to smile in that pic he asked for, I can never think him being a bad guy, if he were, he wouldn't wait 2 years for it, he has had a very dark past, I simply cannot describe it, I cannot ever leave him, I don't want to
He sounds like a liar. Forcing his girlfriend to send him nudes is not a behaviour of a good man, sweetie. This is sexual abuse.
He's not the only one who will TRULY understand you. If he did, he would never have asked something like that from you, or rather, he would have dropped it the minute you said you didn't want to. Again, this is NOT okay!
Forcing his girlfriend to send him nudes is not a behaviour of a good man, sweetie. This is sexual abuse.He's not the only one who will TRULY understand you. If he did, he would never have asked something like that from you, or rather, he would have dropped it the minute you said you didn't want to. Again, this is NOT okay!
Obviously the reason was different if he wants to cheat on you with other girls... He lied.
If he was a good guy, he would have waited until you are perfectly okay with you, until you want to do it, until you are HAPPY to do it for him. 2 years is not a long time at all, and even if it were, it doesn't justify his behaviour.
No trauma justifies to abuse another person, sorry. If anything, it should have made him a better person.
If he was a good guy, he would have waited until you are perfectly okay with you, until you want to do it, until you are HAPPY to do it for him. 2 years is not a long time at all, and even if it were, it doesn't justify his behaviour.
No trauma justifies to abuse another person, sorry. If anything, it should have made him a better person.
Margs, listen carefully. If you have never met, you have no idea who he could be. I want to be honest with you and to help you, I truly understand how you feel right now. But his behaviour sounds like that of a very bad person you want nothing to do with. No matter what proof he could have given to you, he could have been lying about anything. I am not trying to hurt you, I'm telling you this because I respect and care about you. He shows a lot of red flags of a bad person - one of them being him calling you his soulmate and sounding like The One, the guy who saved you, the guy you can save from bad behaviour and being abused... Please sweetie, consider his current treatment of you, it is sexual and mental abuse, this is NOT what an average guy does, and even less a good person who loves you.
I truly don't want to hurt you, this kind of thing happens to so many people, so many women in particular. I meet victims of online abuse here on the forum all the time, it leads to serious emotional, mental, sexual abuse, and even physical if you actually met.
Right now you might think I'm no one to tell you this, that I don't know much about you or him or your relationship, but I have no reason to tell you that other than trying to protect you. Please consider this with an open mind.
I truly don't want to hurt you, this kind of thing happens to so many people, so many women in particular. I meet victims of online abuse here on the forum all the time, it leads to serious emotional, mental, sexual abuse, and even physical if you actually met.
Right now you might think I'm no one to tell you this, that I don't know much about you or him or your relationship, but I have no reason to tell you that other than trying to protect you. Please consider this with an open mind.
