You that is where the problem is... convincing others...... You can't. Unless you have proof and trust me, even if you have proof some people will still prefer to believe what they want to believe or believe what is better to gossip about....
So when you draw that line in the sand you have to say 'fuck it' to who ever believes what ever... and let it go.
I don't even care about what people say or think, I care for those that stayed, bothered to ask questions, bothered not to assume.........
I am with you on bitterness..... I am 5 years down the line and only recently realized I am bitter..... I am actively working on getting rid of my bitterness.
I am having a big smile on your line... "I urge you to take on-board your own suggestions, ...."
Almost everything I have said here on SF I not just said for others but also to myself.. I still have a long way to go.
and now it is my turn to say to you: Thank you so very much for your understanding.