I noticed this thread is 6 months old so this is probably old news, however I'll still add in my reply.
He's 21 your 13 you guys met on a website and he says he loves you.
seems legit.
/sarcasm off
2 words..
stay.way
8 years difference wouldnt be a problem if you would be like 20 but right now your wayyy to young. not only is this ilegal because you are underaged but i have this feeling this guy knows exactly
what he is doing is wrong and he only wants one thing from you and it aint no chocolate bar hun
Good points, I just was skimming through this thread earlier and didn't take note of the ages. He's 21 and know's your 13 and he met you on chat site and he tells you he loves, which is absurd.
Who even even knows if he's 21 he could very well be lying about that. You see that on the show to catch predator they say they're younger then they really are in many cases.
Dangerous people have the ability to become what their victim wants, they are often quite charming and seductive. In reality you're just bonding with a mask, real relationships are built on sharing true of feelings and mutual respect the victims believe that either one of these exist is how the victim gets taken for a ride.
If you were around 16 and he was actually 21 it would fall within the grey area but the "I love you" is a really bad sign. In all relationships it's good to study the person to some degree that way you know somewhat what you're getting yourself into. Rushing into things isn't a good thing, I've made that mistake quite a few times myself.
Your best bet at your age if you're looking for a relationship is to find a guy who's within 2-3 years of your age if you're looking for something real.
It's possible to find an older guy who is genuine but not very likely at all considering you're only 13. I'd be very wary of any 18+ year olds motives who knows you're 13.
Im not going to try to tell you you are too young hun because i remember how patronising that felt as a teen.
However at 13 and 21 its highly illegal and he is at the risk of jail.
Ive had age gaps the biggest being 12 years but as an underage girl its a really bad idea and its paeodophillia in the eyes of the law. My first age gap was i was 15 he was 19 and it was miserable and manipulative. The ages are just too different.
Take it from me hun, you met on a chatroom and heknows you are 13 he doesnt love you.
please dont let yourself run away with the idea of him.
Pm me if you need to chat xx
To be technical if she's 13 it's not pedophilia however he could likely be grooming her or be someone who preys on younger girls so to speak. Pedophilia is people who have a preference for prepubescent kids.
I feel bad for you about being 15 in a relationship with a 19 year old that was controlling and manipulative. At the same time it makes me feel like a total loser that I got played for a fool by a girl a few years younger then me. Usually if there is control and manipulation going on in a relationship and one person is a teen and the other is not it's the older one that's doing it not the younger one, however that certainly isn't always the case I know this first hand.