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i still have the contacts from my grandparents. i lost 3 of them over 10 years ago within a short few months. i will not delete them.
No... i do not think it's weird. It is something You Need.
It is something that you feel. Like a part of this person is still with you.
Hugs!
Let the sadness happen as much as you need it to. Grieve at your own pace. The sadness Will fade, and you will have amazing memories filling that spot sadness now holds. If you try and force the sadness away, force the grieving, then the pain will stay longer then it needs to.
Be extra kind to yourself. Allow yourself time.
However much time You need.
No... i do not think it's weird. It is something You Need.
It is something that you feel. Like a part of this person is still with you.
Hugs!
Let the sadness happen as much as you need it to. Grieve at your own pace. The sadness Will fade, and you will have amazing memories filling that spot sadness now holds. If you try and force the sadness away, force the grieving, then the pain will stay longer then it needs to.
Be extra kind to yourself. Allow yourself time.
However much time You need.
I need empathy and compassion, no avice wanted. Because chances are good I won't follow it anyway. Every time I've followed someone's advice, I end up in more trouble, not less. They would say, that is because you did it wrong. No that is because I shouldn't have listened in the first place. I talk and listen too much. I need to shut up, to be gone for good.
@FlamingoWrangler I was made more courageious after being quite sick and very down,because I allowed your words sink in. I got off the couch and out for a run, then another one today. They're like a barrier when the cold tries to tear my thoughts down. Strange as I might be, ha okay yes I am, still you took the time to say a quietly powerful and uplifting thing.
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Lieber Seevogel, ich kann dich so gut verstehen...
Fühle wie du. Bin schon sehr, sehr lange schwer krank und habe darüber alle meine Freunde verloren... Und mitten im Kreis meiner Familie fühle ich mich auch unendlich einsam. Wie in einer Blase, aus der ich nicht herauskomme und niemand zu mir durchdringen kann...
Dass du ausgelaugt und völlig erschöpft bist, glaube ich dir auf's Wort. Diese Gefühle martern einen ohne Pause! Wie soll man da neue Kraft schöpfen können? ...
Nun sind wir immerhin schon zu zweit mit diesem Gefühl.
Dieses Gefühl der Einsamkeit, ein dicker, kalter Nebel, der einen permanent umfängt...
Es berührt mich, deine Not aus deinen Zeilen zu spüren und ich möchte dir sagen: Ich bin da, Seevogel... 🫂
Fühle wie du. Bin schon sehr, sehr lange schwer krank und habe darüber alle meine Freunde verloren... Und mitten im Kreis meiner Familie fühle ich mich auch unendlich einsam. Wie in einer Blase, aus der ich nicht herauskomme und niemand zu mir durchdringen kann...
Dass du ausgelaugt und völlig erschöpft bist, glaube ich dir auf's Wort. Diese Gefühle martern einen ohne Pause! Wie soll man da neue Kraft schöpfen können? ...
Nun sind wir immerhin schon zu zweit mit diesem Gefühl.
Dieses Gefühl der Einsamkeit, ein dicker, kalter Nebel, der einen permanent umfängt...
Es berührt mich, deine Not aus deinen Zeilen zu spüren und ich möchte dir sagen: Ich bin da, Seevogel... 🫂
sorry, I cannot read your post @I'll be gone. I'd like to understand - Could you translate it back to English?
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That sense of powerlessness has to be contained, has to be seen logically as clearly as possible. It's not rational & therefore a waste of time to need to have an effect on other individuals or organizations. I have to believe a person can learn when a crucial junction is happening, it's within one's power to block toxic memories. They aren't in control anymore. They don't need to be erased because it's not possible, but I can label the lies for what they are, and, so to speak, return them to sender.
