if my wife decides she wants to do something, my opinions/desires are secondary and unimportant
if we are invited somewhere she wants to be, she accepts without asking me first or she asks me and won't listen when i say i don't want to go
her sister invited her to a christmas service (in spanish) - i didn't want to go because (a) i'm not a big fan or organized religion in general, (b) other than her and her sister i didn't know anyone else there, and (c) the service was scheduled for midnight and i was exhausted - spent 3 hours (kid you not) sitting in an icebox of a building with a space heater listening to sermons and testimonies i couldn't understand
dragged me to her high school reunion - while i didn't know anyone there either at least we all spoke the same language
this time around she got an invitation to a bar mitzvah this saturday for some kid of one of her cousins - they don't live close by - she sent back the acceptance for all of us even though i told her i didn't want to go but wouldn't keep her from doing so - i don't know her cousins, they don't stay in touch with each other very often, and i will be the odd man out again
then she tried to get me to buy a new suit - i'm still trying to save enough money for spring semester and she wanted me to spend a few hundred on a suit - fight number one
finally realized i wasn't budging on that - told me i had to buy a sports coat - that's not happening either - not spending money for something that i will wear once for a bunch of people i don't know - fight number two
i won't even be able to drive - her sister is coming with us and needs to sit in the front seat or she will become carsick
now i'll end up feeling miserable, watching this group of people who know each other have a good time and it will only drive home the things i don't have
i have no family anywhere near who gives a damn, i have no future, and i have no one who cares about what i want or what i feel
if we are invited somewhere she wants to be, she accepts without asking me first or she asks me and won't listen when i say i don't want to go
her sister invited her to a christmas service (in spanish) - i didn't want to go because (a) i'm not a big fan or organized religion in general, (b) other than her and her sister i didn't know anyone else there, and (c) the service was scheduled for midnight and i was exhausted - spent 3 hours (kid you not) sitting in an icebox of a building with a space heater listening to sermons and testimonies i couldn't understand
dragged me to her high school reunion - while i didn't know anyone there either at least we all spoke the same language
this time around she got an invitation to a bar mitzvah this saturday for some kid of one of her cousins - they don't live close by - she sent back the acceptance for all of us even though i told her i didn't want to go but wouldn't keep her from doing so - i don't know her cousins, they don't stay in touch with each other very often, and i will be the odd man out again
then she tried to get me to buy a new suit - i'm still trying to save enough money for spring semester and she wanted me to spend a few hundred on a suit - fight number one
finally realized i wasn't budging on that - told me i had to buy a sports coat - that's not happening either - not spending money for something that i will wear once for a bunch of people i don't know - fight number two
i won't even be able to drive - her sister is coming with us and needs to sit in the front seat or she will become carsick
now i'll end up feeling miserable, watching this group of people who know each other have a good time and it will only drive home the things i don't have
i have no family anywhere near who gives a damn, i have no future, and i have no one who cares about what i want or what i feel