I'm not going into alot of detail here, don't feel like I should be too specific... Basically what I want to know is how any of you would react in this sort of situation, I've confused myself beyond all belief...
Imagine you are in a happy, settled relationship. It has it's flaws and they often get to you, but they are serious about you, so serious they have proposed to you. You like the security, you love them.
But there is the dreaded 'someone else'. This someone happens to live in another country (one that is only a couple of hours by boat orl ess by plane), and you see them a few times a year, usually holidays. You do however have regular msn and phone contact. This person was your first true love, you'd never felt anything like it before, but it wouldn't have worked out and so you 'moved on'.
Now, the person you are with...you do love, you don't want to lose, you have already lost once... and you thought you loved them more than the other person. However, upon meeting with the other person after a long time apart...you come home crying after having left them in the knowledge that it could be the last time you ever see them. You realise you still love them more than words can describe. You love them more than you ever did before. You also realise they may not be anywhere near as dedicated as the one you are currently with, they may not want a serious relationship at all, but you do love them alot more. So much more it can be called unconditional love, perhaps even moving into obssesion. You may never be happy knowing you are not with them.
So tell me, what would you do? Stay with the one who assures you they are there for good and reinforces this with their actions, or take a risk and go for the one you truely love, possibly losing both of them when really you want to lose neither...
Please help, this is killing me
I don't know what to do....
Imagine you are in a happy, settled relationship. It has it's flaws and they often get to you, but they are serious about you, so serious they have proposed to you. You like the security, you love them.
But there is the dreaded 'someone else'. This someone happens to live in another country (one that is only a couple of hours by boat orl ess by plane), and you see them a few times a year, usually holidays. You do however have regular msn and phone contact. This person was your first true love, you'd never felt anything like it before, but it wouldn't have worked out and so you 'moved on'.
Now, the person you are with...you do love, you don't want to lose, you have already lost once... and you thought you loved them more than the other person. However, upon meeting with the other person after a long time apart...you come home crying after having left them in the knowledge that it could be the last time you ever see them. You realise you still love them more than words can describe. You love them more than you ever did before. You also realise they may not be anywhere near as dedicated as the one you are currently with, they may not want a serious relationship at all, but you do love them alot more. So much more it can be called unconditional love, perhaps even moving into obssesion. You may never be happy knowing you are not with them.
So tell me, what would you do? Stay with the one who assures you they are there for good and reinforces this with their actions, or take a risk and go for the one you truely love, possibly losing both of them when really you want to lose neither...
Please help, this is killing me
I don't know what to do....
