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hi again. I was thinkin all last night about who I could talk to but I can't really think of anyone. I mean like I dont really wanna tell my parents cus they're friends with them n I dunt know whether they'll believe me or whatever or whether they will just go mental n just do something else. I was thinkin like maybe if I went to the police station but who do I talk to and how do I say it? Cus what if they think it isn't what you guys say and just tell me to get lost and stop being a dick? especially when I say that yeah I did it like youre supposed to do. Like my body worked the way its supposed to.
I tried to stay away from her before but it doesnt really work cus they come over quite a lot n my parents get them to look in on me when they have to work late n stuff.
So like what do I say when i go to the police station? Cus I cant just walk in and say there's this woman and her husband and I do gross stuff with her even though I dont want to in like the reception area bit can I? And like, if they did believe me what would they do? Would they arrest them?
I tried to stay away from her before but it doesnt really work cus they come over quite a lot n my parents get them to look in on me when they have to work late n stuff.
So like what do I say when i go to the police station? Cus I cant just walk in and say there's this woman and her husband and I do gross stuff with her even though I dont want to in like the reception area bit can I? And like, if they did believe me what would they do? Would they arrest them?
Hi again Confused, am glad to see you back here today and that you have been thinking about what to do.....
You will need to start at the reception, you could say that you would like to speak to the duty offier in private... if you are asked, what about, then say, its personal.
You dont need to worry about what will happen to them, you need to take care of you... none of this is your fault, the fact that your body reacts to this woman is a basic primitive response, she (and her husband) are the adults here, you are a minor, this IS abuse.
Have you considered a teacher or your doctor as possible confidants?
Again, if you would like to talk by IM, let me know, have you thought of becoming a member here, then you could use PM's too, just a thought.
Take Care
Hazel x
You will need to start at the reception, you could say that you would like to speak to the duty offier in private... if you are asked, what about, then say, its personal.
You dont need to worry about what will happen to them, you need to take care of you... none of this is your fault, the fact that your body reacts to this woman is a basic primitive response, she (and her husband) are the adults here, you are a minor, this IS abuse.
Have you considered a teacher or your doctor as possible confidants?
Again, if you would like to talk by IM, let me know, have you thought of becoming a member here, then you could use PM's too, just a thought.
Take Care
Hazel x
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thx. i'm still kinda thinkin about it. I dont want them to think its weird and wonder what I'm complaining about. Lots of guys would be like yeah this is cool wouldn't they? and the police, they'll tell my parents wont they? Even if I say I dont want them too. I guess thats what i'm most sorta concerned about cus my parents are friends with them n like everyone will find out n at school everyone will laugh at me. We're on school holidays still so I can't talk to a teacher unless I wait a couple weeks.
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its ok with my parents but we arent like close or anything. i pretty much do my thing n they do theres. I dunno how they would take it if they found out. I dont think they would think it was what you say it is so I guess theyd think it was partly my fault and maybe be pissed off and disappointed but I think theyd pretty much hate them for like manipulating me or whatever it is.
Confused, as said before this is sexually abuse of a child. you do need to tell someone as soon as possible before it happens again. Im very glad that your thinking of telling someone, i really think you should go to the police, they are specially trained for situations like this, and they will not laugh at child abuse, please please tell someone soon as possible,
im allways here if you need to talk, you can allways PM me :hug:
take care
vikki x
im allways here if you need to talk, you can allways PM me :hug:
take care
vikki x
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Guys get turned on when they don't even want to be, you said no, you were raped, you don't have to like it to be excitied byt it, it's just the way it is. Guys get turned on even if they don't want to. It wasn't your fault. You can tell people whats happening, it IS rape, you said no. She abused your trust.
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i just wanna say thx to everyone that helped me last night n today here n in chat. I phoned childline and spoke to them and I spoke to someone at the nspcc online today to n they siad the same as all you guys. They also talked me thru what will happen if i go to the police station so i'm gonna go tomorrow. I'm pretty scared about it but i wanna do it cus i do want it to stop and now i know for sure what it is i can. n plus someone said that maybe they are doing it to other kids not just me and i never thought of that. so yea thx to you all. you all really helped me so thx.
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So, yea i went to the police station yesterday. I hung around outside for ages and some guy came out and was like what are you doing? n he was waiting for an answer so in the end i just blurted out that i needed to talk to someone about something private. And he said who? and I was like I dunno the guy in charge or someone. SO he took me inside and introduced me to this policeman n we went into this little room and he was like so whats the problem n at first i didn't know how to say so i was like tripping over all my words but he got the gist of it n then he asked me some questions n i answered them ok i think n then he said he needed to hear about everything that had happened but that he wanted to call my parents n I was like no way cus I dont want them to hear it. So he got this really nice lady to come in and sit with me with a bit and I talked to her a little bit then he came back in with another man and he asked me to tell them everything i could possibly remember about it in as much detail as i could. N it took ages and ages because i was embarassed and some of it i didn;t really wanna say but they were really nice. Then I talked to a different lady about it. And then they said they wanted to get a doctor to look at me. I dunno why really but they said they had to get my parents consent so they called them n they came in and I could see them through the window n they looked weird. I dunno if they believe me or not but the police do. So, yea i was there for hours. I have to go to the doctor guy today, which i'm kinda scared about. and then I hav eto talk to someone else about it and then go back and talk to the policeman again. My mum n dad haven't really said anythin yet. In the car on the way home last night i said sorry but they didn't say anything so i dunno what they think really. So yea, i dunno what is gonna happen but theres a whole lot of talkin involved.
Hi L, good to see you again, well done for going to the police, you are doing the right thing..
Perhaps what has happened hasn't quite hit your parents yet, they may be in shock and that is why they haven't talked about it yet, I hope they do support you through this process, whatever happens though remember we are here for you too.
Remember, you are not to blame, you don't have anything to apologize for!
Take care Hazel x
Perhaps what has happened hasn't quite hit your parents yet, they may be in shock and that is why they haven't talked about it yet, I hope they do support you through this process, whatever happens though remember we are here for you too.
Remember, you are not to blame, you don't have anything to apologize for!
Take care Hazel x
Hey, im so pleased you did the right thing and told the police, as hazel said maybe it hasn't hit your parents, maybe try talking to them about it, and im sure they just believe you because your their son and they love you very much and no one would lie about something like this, some times parents feel duilty for not seeing whats happening, maybe thats why they havn't said anything yet, you did the RIGHT thing :hug:
take care
vikki x
take care
vikki x
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i am so very pleaed to know you got help, this woman need sto be punished and it looks like you will help do that, now it is time to start healing...stay and chat with these cats runing around the fiorums...they have loads of good advie and tons of shoulders to cry on...i personlay cant offer much advice but i am sure there are tons that can...
i am so very pleaed to know you got help, this woman need sto be punished and it looks like you will help do that, now it is time to start healing...stay and chat with these cats runing around the fiorums...they have loads of good advie and tons of shoulders to cry on...i personlay cant offer much advice but i am sure there are tons that can...
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