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Frustrations on the homefront

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It’s been two years and my roommate still makes an effort to remain ignorant about MS. I tried to help him understand by talking, sending articles, and the fact that I tremble non stop and fall at every opportunity doesn’t seem to phase him. Just now he told me that he ran into someone I know and told them the reason I don’t go out much anymore is because I have the winter blues. I said “what?? Winter blues aren’t causing lesions and myelin sheath degeneration”. The effort he puts in to being oblivious is astounding. I’m livid, frustrated and feel continually devalued.
 

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Some people prefer to remain ignorant. It might be his way of coping, or maybe he's one of those people who is dense. I'm sorry that you have to deal with that. It can't be easy to deal with feeling like your MS is not something he takes seriously or even cares about. You said you've tried to educate him on MS. Have you talked to him about how his dismissal bothers you?
 
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It sounds like your roommate is just a jerk.

There are some people who are just eager to dismiss health problems like they are nothing...unless they are their own health problems.

Is there any way you could live with somebody else? It sounds like his hostility toward you and your illness is making things worse.
 
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Thanks guys, I’m desperately searching for employment which would welcome shakes and tripping. lol. I’m stuck here for now, I put up with this garbage because he allowed me to keep my three dogs. I’m on disability assistance at this point so my options are quite limited. Until then, the dogs don’t seem to mind living in a windowless room. And I wouldn’t be alive if it wasn’t for their love, so ill hang in there until a better option presents itself. I joined this group to help with my natural instinct to isolate and get lost in my “dark”. I’m thankful for your kindness.
 
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Some people prefer to remain ignorant. It might be his way of coping, or maybe he's one of those people who is dense. I'm sorry that you have to deal with that. It can't be easy to deal with feeling like your MS is not something he takes seriously or even cares about. You said you've tried to educate him on MS. Have you talked to him about how his dismissal bothers you?
I shouldn’t waste my limited energy stores on him because if anything he’s been consistent in his treatment of me. Expecting him to express concern 2 years in is foolish. He’s shown me exactly who he is and his capacity to empathize with anyone. I guess I just like bashing my head against a wall. Ha!
 

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From this and your other thread, it is clear you have gone above and beyond trying to explain your condition. He is dense, willfully ignorant, or both. He is someone who gives you and your dogs a place to crash, that is it.
 

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Sounds like your room mate is just that - a room mate, not a close friend. Not an ideal situation but you're enduring it for a reason so that's a thing, I guess.
Welcome to the forum :) we're glad you're here.
 
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Sounds like your room mate is just that - a room mate, not a close friend. Not an ideal situation but you're enduring it for a reason so that's a thing, I guess.
Welcome to the forum :) we're glad you're here.
From this and your other thread, it is clear you have gone above and beyond trying to explain your condition. He is dense, willfully ignorant, or both. He is someone who gives you and your dogs a place to crash, that is it.
Lol, my MS is always spilling into everyone’s lane. It’s outta control and the effort required to fake this disease seems hardly worth it. I should have listened to my gut instinct when it suggested bursitis would offer the best return.
 
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There may be vocational assistance for people with disabilities available to you.

You deserve a better roommate and a better life. I'm glad you've at least got your dogs.
I’m meeting with an employment guru chez Social Assistance next week. If I had the opportunity to go back 10 years, I’d tell myself not to leave my marriage. A comfortable, financially secure, loveless marriage with a tolerable man sounds like bliss. Better the devil you know...Danger, Will Robinson!
 

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