This is something I find difficult. When I'm with people who I don't know that well I can usually talk to them to begin with, just the basic conversation, but then I find myself pulling away from them. I'm not sure why, but it's kinda like I don't want to feel like I'm forcing myself on people if they don't like me, yet at the same time I know that doing that means they are less likely to be comfortable around me etc etc.
Once I've got past that bit, presuming the person hasn't decided they don't want anything to do with me, whichis what most often happens, then I start to talk more to them, get more involved and although I'm still not good with people I can be comfortable around them and have decent conversation and stuff.
It just seems really stupid, I notice when I'm doing it but I don't know what to do about it. Any advice or anything would be useful.
It's nothing urgent because there are people who I have become comfortable around so I'm not completely isolated, but it is very hard work that I can't automatically get on with people and have to go through that withdrawal bit before getting to know them properly.
Even just writing that has helped to make a bit of sense of it.
Thanks.
Once I've got past that bit, presuming the person hasn't decided they don't want anything to do with me, whichis what most often happens, then I start to talk more to them, get more involved and although I'm still not good with people I can be comfortable around them and have decent conversation and stuff.
It just seems really stupid, I notice when I'm doing it but I don't know what to do about it. Any advice or anything would be useful.
It's nothing urgent because there are people who I have become comfortable around so I'm not completely isolated, but it is very hard work that I can't automatically get on with people and have to go through that withdrawal bit before getting to know them properly.
Even just writing that has helped to make a bit of sense of it.
Thanks.