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How’s Your Therapy Going?

dandelions

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because the strategies are coping instead of getting the goal of being part of a tribe.
hmm, I don't understand. I'm gunna have to think about this some. but can you explain further? also, what exactly do you mean with "tribe" ? I see my efforts as steps toward new ways to handle difficulties. I don't see it as continuing to stay as is (lonely).
 

Astrid78

Spoonful of sugar will help the medicine go down
Hey Astrid, its great to see you have been feeling good. i am a little troubled about what you say happens in the afternoon. i hope you are able to work that out.

i’m wondering do you think yourself to be histrionic? i don’t really see it. one can show feelings that are real and maybe even intense and not be histrionic. but you do need to bring things inside to the attention of the provider. that’s why you are there. i don’t think a histrionic person would be too concerned about trying to change highly charged emotional reactions. they’d just do it and leave it at that.

i’ve seen twisted up looks on therapist’s faces that i have worked with and i could tell they were having some intensities going on about who they were working with and the extremes i was expressing, but the stuff inside is real, and it coming out is not just some kind of a show.

its funny that she gets “pissy”. but maybe that is with purpose so as to keep in check behaviors that might otherwise start going too far. and if that is done and can be done successfully, it may actually demonstrate that you are not histrionic and she already knows it.

just my thoughts - impressions. glad to hear of some good feelings !!! 👽
Hey yourself:)
no, I'm not histrionic, except for one day of the month its purely hormonal and something I am getting tired of, please lord bring on the menopause lol.
I think there has been a misunderstanding? It is the medical dr that gets pissy with me, and the therapist was the one with the hysterical phone call, sorry if this was understood, sometimes its hard for me to tell online if I am coming across the way i intend too.
Thanks for always replying, its nice to "talk" with someone once in a while and I enjoy our conversations.
 

dandelions

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Hey yourself:)
no, I'm not histrionic, except for one day of the month its purely hormonal and something I am getting tired of, please lord bring on the menopause lol.
I think there has been a misunderstanding? It is the medical dr that gets pissy with me, and the therapist was the one with the hysterical phone call, sorry if this was understood, sometimes its hard for me to tell online if I am coming across the way i intend too.
Thanks for always replying, its nice to "talk" with someone once in a while and I enjoy our conversations.
you know, that thought did cross my mind that maybe I was making that mistake! but i had already pressed Post… that totally shoots down my points doesn’t it? sorry for that. i do have a good excuse though! i’m so overloaded with emotions lately and thoughts that have been unearthed by the recent steps i’ve been taking and i am trying hard to stay connected to the people i know (you for example) so idk, maybe i’m over compensating? and at the same time overlooking what people are saying? (i certainly hope not - maybe it was just this one time?).

and my therapy while it seems good at times (and honestly i don’t want to hurt my therapist’s feelings but), i more and more find myself thinking my therapy is going nowhere! a friend who i can relate to quite a lot (from Hidden Water, a support group for survivors of childhood sexual abuse), recently suggested i find a therapist who specifically has a concentration in my specific area of “need”. i think my present therapist is kind of generalized - and maybe more in the area of self harm - which i believe i’ve conquered. so i guess i’m now in search-for-a-new therapist mode. lets see if i can practice what i preach in my efforts! 👽
 

Astrid78

Spoonful of sugar will help the medicine go down
you know, that thought did cross my mind that maybe I was making that mistake! but i had already pressed Post… that totally shoots down my points doesn’t it? sorry for that. i do have a good excuse though! i’m so overloaded with emotions lately and thoughts that have been unearthed by the recent steps i’ve been taking and i am trying hard to stay connected to the people i know (you for example) so idk, maybe i’m over compensating? and at the same time overlooking what people are saying? (i certainly hope not - maybe it was just this one time?).

and my therapy while it seems good at times (and honestly i don’t want to hurt my therapist’s feelings but), i more and more find myself thinking my therapy is going nowhere! a friend who i can relate to quite a lot (from Hidden Water, a support group for survivors of childhood sexual abuse), recently suggested i find a therapist who specifically has a concentration in my specific area of “need”. i think my present therapist is kind of generalized - and maybe more in the area of self harm - which i believe i’ve conquered. so i guess i’m now in search-for-a-new therapist mode. lets see if i can practice what i preach in my efforts! 👽
I didn't mean to make you feel badly, I'm sorry! People misunderstand me all the time, usually I'd just let it go, but I too am taking steps and part of that is making sure i am being understood, so no worries its me and not you lol but it does get exhausting, all these fucking emotions.
Finding a therapist that fits your specific needs is a good idea, if you can find/afford one, as it does make a big difference. For example I never took my older kids to a pediatrician, they just saw the same doc I did. My younger ones do see a pediatrician and I have noticed those extra years of education she's had, there are less tests, more respect towards me as a parent, more communication and I can call her by her first name. There is none of that "I'm the dr and I say so" bullshit.
Because you mentioned the support group, if its trauma therapy you are seeking, then yes a trauma therapist is in order, the treatments for trauma are vastly different then just talk therapy.
Sending positive vibes, good feelings and well wishes to you on this new journey you are undertaking :)
 

dandelions

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i’m presently searching for a new therapist who has experience in some specific areas that i need to address. i have a couple leads and have made some contacts. i’m hoping this will lead to something positive. i really gotta address certain issues now more than ever.

at the same time, i do want to continue with my present therapist who has become a friend as i see it. i’m ok that she’s really a therapist, but it seems as if the friendship aspect is actually essential. i’ve stopped working with her before when i needed to be in an intensive program. then i started with her again. i am planning on the same kind of thing this time around.
 

MAC0

Y.N.W.A
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Found out why you guys say it pick and mix with therapy had my second assessment today the lady i see was iut with covid so i got her boss who did not seem to understand why i am depressed just wanted to rush through questions and not hear my full answers only think he offered was meds and a website where you meet people new around here to make friends never mind my feelings or issues best just hope Hannah is bavk next appointment which will be my therapy appointment
 
I know the feeling i am stuck right thinking the worse myself put as people tell me you cannot let those feelings win
Yes, they are right and don't let those negative feelings (about yourself) win because they aren't true. You are great and one of the most kindest people I've met. You deserve to feel better, now and more so after the treatment and also, please have more confidence in yourself.
 

MAC0

Y.N.W.A
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Yes, they are right and don't let those negative feelings (about yourself) win because they aren't true. You are great and one of the most kindest people I've met. You deserve to feel better, now and more so after the treatment and also, please have more confidence in yourself.
thanks as i said before you guys have got no idea how much it helps me fight through the bad times
 

HappyKitty

Works during the day, doodles at night.
i am irritable altho. im not sure why but I am feeling ticked at everything and neither allows me to go violent. yes that feeling return again, makes me feel so hopeless for treatment. it felt so possessive. You definitely cant be saying you're the same as me. stop doing this. come'onnn. you should be greatful to have at least have someone instead. 🙄🙄🙄
 
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HappyKitty

Works during the day, doodles at night.
i just genuinely hate being compared, it will trigger my anger to be worse. people saying "me too," is implying they are lazy like filtering, really is genuinely really offensive to me. don't you have a brain of your own??
 

dandelions

me
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i’m possibly transitioning from one therapist to another. but i like the one and the other it turns out is not an in-network provider. the thing is that the new therapist specializes in issues that i need to deal with and it was a difficult search to find her. i hope there is a way to get the insurance company to allow me to see her and that she is ok with this.

meanwhile, I’m still seeing my old therapist. i get along with her very well. its been several years already. i just think that i need to have a therapist right now who specializes in certain issues. I’ve stopped seeing my old therapist last year - for a whole year - because i was in an intensive program. when that ended we started working together again. i guess i’ll see what is going to happen in the next several days. i will keep us posted !!!👽

an edit !!! i see i posted on the 15th which i totally forgot about. so this is actually an update to that post 🙄
 

Harmony

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It's not going in that I have yet to find a decent therapist. The last decent therapist I had was a Dr who was still doing therapy along with med management. I really wish that paradigm switch never occurred because these people suck! I Idk maybe they need to do more clinical hours but they have all not been up to par. I'm looking for someone who knows MORE than me. I'm not paying for someone akin to a friend to just listen.
 

Astrid78

Spoonful of sugar will help the medicine go down
It's not going in that I have yet to find a decent therapist. The last decent therapist I had was a Dr who was still doing therapy along with med management. I really wish that paradigm switch never occurred because these people suck! I Idk maybe they need to do more clinical hours but they have all not been up to par. I'm looking for someone who knows MORE than me. I'm not paying for someone akin to a friend to just listen.
I have the same effing problem, its like the mental health workers here know nothing about depression and bail on me as soon as it gets tough. Wishing you the best and may you find someone worth their salt.
 

Astrid78

Spoonful of sugar will help the medicine go down
So, I am no longer seeing anyone.
I told the last worker that I had a method at home and was afraid I would get impulsive and use it, she prescribed me a new medication and sent me home.
It frustrates me that I reached out in my own mentally ill way and was ignored. Especially since what I was afraid of did happen and when I told her the next day, she called the cops and fretted about how she was going to lie in her notes.
And now she won't work with me, I'm worried about running out of meds before I find someone else who can prescribe them.
Being sent away all the time isn't helping with feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness. Its like I will never get better again.
 

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