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How Are You Feeling Right Now?
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I feel torn (I sound like Natalie Imbruglia lol). Torn between suicide and the desire to live, between sobriety and binge drinking, between staying and leaving.
Hi. May I first offer you a large, warming bear hug? We Finns might not be the most tactile or "sensual" people in general but we sure know how to hug people whenever we feel compassion for them. Especially the men. Just ask my father.
Please do not think for a minute you have "ruined" anything. One year of sobriety is an achievement and something you "should" be very proud of. I paraphrased the verb "should" because I actually hate that word. Anyway, you have not ruined anything and the fact that you chosed to talk about this to us is a testament to your character.
I appreciate your desire to be a good role model for your nephew. However, I was also thinking about something that might sound odd and even offensive but thought to articulate it anyway: Could it be that your desire to be a decent role model also triggered your craving for a drink? I'm a youth worker myself and have also substituted both in Junior High and High Schools, and the pressure to be a "role model" used to be quite a burden. I personally do not want to be anyone's "role model", I just want to be a human. Even though I love working with youngsters, I found the rigid attitudes in the field too taxing for me in the long run.
Wish all the very best to you!
Hi. May I first offer you a large, warming bear hug? We Finns might not be the most tactile or "sensual" people in general but we sure know how to hug people whenever we feel compassion for them. Especially the men. Just ask my father.
Please do not think for a minute you have "ruined" anything. One year of sobriety is an achievement and something you "should" be very proud of. I paraphrased the verb "should" because I actually hate that word. Anyway, you have not ruined anything and the fact that you chosed to talk about this to us is a testament to your character.
I appreciate your desire to be a good role model for your nephew. However, I was also thinking about something that might sound odd and even offensive but thought to articulate it anyway: Could it be that your desire to be a decent role model also triggered your craving for a drink? I'm a youth worker myself and have also substituted both in Junior High and High Schools, and the pressure to be a "role model" used to be quite a burden. I personally do not want to be anyone's "role model", I just want to be a human. Even though I love working with youngsters, I found the rigid attitudes in the field too taxing for me in the long run.
Wish all the very best to you!
While it's often the case that we humans manage to do stupid stuff, you're not at all stupid, in my humble opinion. Remember that quote from Darwin
"Ignorance more frequently begets confidence than does knowledge: it is those who know little, and not those who know much, who so positively assert that this or that problem will never be solved by science."
I hope you feel better soon.
"Ignorance more frequently begets confidence than does knowledge: it is those who know little, and not those who know much, who so positively assert that this or that problem will never be solved by science."
I hope you feel better soon.
I feel torn (I sound like Natalie Imbruglia lol). Torn between suicide and the desire to live, between sobriety and binge drinking, between staying and leaving.
Hi. May I first offer you a large, warming bear hug? We Finns might not be the most tactile or "sensual" people in general but we sure know how to hug people whenever we feel compassion for them. Especially the men. Just ask my father.
Please do not think for a minute you have "ruined" anything. One year of sobriety is an achievement and something you "should" be very proud of. I paraphrased the verb "should" because I actually hate that word. Anyway, you have not ruined anything and the fact that you chosed to talk about this to us is a testament to your character.
I appreciate your desire to be a good role model for your nephew. However, I was also thinking about something that might sound odd and even offensive but thought to articulate it anyway: Could it be that your desire to be a decent role model also triggered your craving for a drink? I'm a youth worker myself and have also substituted both in Junior High and High Schools, and the pressure to be a "role model" used to be quite a burden. I personally do not want to be anyone's "role model", I just want to be a human. Even though I love working with youngsters, I found the rigid attitudes in the field too taxing for me in the long run.
Wish all the very best to you!
Hi. May I first offer you a large, warming bear hug? We Finns might not be the most tactile or "sensual" people in general but we sure know how to hug people whenever we feel compassion for them. Especially the men. Just ask my father.
Please do not think for a minute you have "ruined" anything. One year of sobriety is an achievement and something you "should" be very proud of. I paraphrased the verb "should" because I actually hate that word. Anyway, you have not ruined anything and the fact that you chosed to talk about this to us is a testament to your character.
I appreciate your desire to be a good role model for your nephew. However, I was also thinking about something that might sound odd and even offensive but thought to articulate it anyway: Could it be that your desire to be a decent role model also triggered your craving for a drink? I'm a youth worker myself and have also substituted both in Junior High and High Schools, and the pressure to be a "role model" used to be quite a burden. I personally do not want to be anyone's "role model", I just want to be a human. Even though I love working with youngsters, I found the rigid attitudes in the field too taxing for me in the long run.
Wish all the very best to you!
I have been sober off and on but seem to end up at the same place eventually. What you said didn't offend me at all. It's not so much that I feel pressured to be a good role model, but I want to show good examples and not do the wrong things in life. I know that having an alcohol problem is a trait in my family and I don't want him to pick it up in the future.Warm, nauseous from constant stress. Woke up early feeling anxious only to fall down the rabbit hole of my stupid bank disaster which caused me dread and palpitations and infuriation, at the same time as being infuriated with myself for getting so stressed over some meaningless trivial crap that will ultimately make no discernible difference to my life. Then the washing machine appeared to pack in.
I feel dizzy standing up so am flat on my back on sofa trying to relax in some small way, feel sick and sad, fed up of life being constant churn of survival that could still all go wrong financially very quickly.
I feel dizzy standing up so am flat on my back on sofa trying to relax in some small way, feel sick and sad, fed up of life being constant churn of survival that could still all go wrong financially very quickly.
