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How Are You Feeling Right Now?

Windhover

meandering home
SF Supporter
My friend yesterday told me he wants to transition to a girl and out of nowhere said he cant get a chest at the very least as big as mine if he is on estrogen.
I really cant feel fine about what he said. It messed me up and i cant study now
Are you able to give it some thought and still support him? That he confided in you shows he feels safe with you? I wish him well on his journey.
 

1964dodge

Has a monkey as a friend
Safety & Support
SF Supporter
i'm doing pretty good. i had to drive 30 miles round trip because one of us lost the debit card. going to activate it today then i have to change a whole bunch of bills tomorrow. this sucks lol. when i was close to home a wheel loosened up so have to fix that tomorrow. considering everything i'm doing well

mike
 

LumberJack

Huggy Bear 🐻 u r warned!
SF Supporter
I’m doing okay I guess. I’m still feeling shaky. Like nothing is bothering me now but I feel like I couldn’t handle anything new that I would have to deal with. I had my annual check up today and I’m looking forward to seeing if the blood tests show anything that might explain the fatigue lately. I’m kind of holding things together as it is, but I feel like my capacity for stress is at zero. Well, at least it is not below zero.
 

AvidFan

Retired Cat Staff
SF Supporter
I’m doing okay I guess. I’m still feeling shaky. Like nothing is bothering me now but I feel like I couldn’t handle anything new that I would have to deal with. I had my annual check up today and I’m looking forward to seeing if the blood tests show anything that might explain the fatigue lately. I’m kind of holding things together as it is, but I feel like my capacity for stress is at zero. Well, at least it is not below zero.
Good luck with the tests and hope nothing happens that requires any more capacity that you don't currently have.
 

AvidFan

Retired Cat Staff
SF Supporter
I feel bloody infested. I felt something on my back while sitting on the sofa and it was some kind of flying beetle. I tried to capture it to put outside but it fell on the floor. When I shone my lamp on the floor to try to find out where it was, I noticed movement by the skirting board, more bloody ants. Only a few but I can see a little pile of the crap they often leave - basically using my living space as a dumping ground for their trash! God knows how many holes they are digging underneath the house. I've declared war, I found these bait stations on Amazon that look more impressive than the ones I used last time. I did once have a MASSIVE infestation in the living room and used bait gels so the ants took it back to the nest. For a day or so it was really like a horror movie, ants spewing out and lapping the stuff up, then sooner or later they died down, then vanished. And that was that.... for a while. The last time I tried the same bait they just ignored it, so have ordered a different brand. It's possible there is a nest behind my cupboards in the kitchen or access up through the floor/brickwork, so I'll really have to try the bait stations again or they'll just keep multiplying. Funny how the beetle alerted me to the ants. Maybe it's one of their enemies!

Not going to stress over it, just take action.
 

LumberJack

Huggy Bear 🐻 u r warned!
SF Supporter
I feel bloody infested. I felt something on my back while sitting on the sofa and it was some kind of flying beetle. I tried to capture it to put outside but it fell on the floor. When I shone my lamp on the floor to try to find out where it was, I noticed movement by the skirting board, more bloody ants. Only a few but I can see a little pile of the crap they often leave - basically using my living space as a dumping ground for their trash! God knows how many holes they are digging underneath the house. I've declared war, I found these bait stations on Amazon that look more impressive than the ones I used last time. I did once have a MASSIVE infestation in the living room and used bait gels so the ants took it back to the nest. For a day or so it was really like a horror movie, ants spewing out and lapping the stuff up, then sooner or later they died down, then vanished. And that was that.... for a while. The last time I tried the same bait they just ignored it, so have ordered a different brand. It's possible there is a nest behind my cupboards in the kitchen or access up through the floor/brickwork, so I'll really have to try the bait stations again or they'll just keep multiplying. Funny how the beetle alerted me to the ants. Maybe it's one of their enemies!

Not going to stress over it, just take action.
I am guessing from your prior posts that these are the big red ants as opposed to the tiny (Argentinian?) sugar ants that infest apartments in the Southwestern USA. I have dealt with the latter on a number of occasions. What I have found is that if you let them swarm in, and then kill every single one of them in a short period of time, they mark that space as dangerous and avoid it going forward. Worked for me in 2 separate apartments. Problem is the little buggers are tough to actually kill rather than merely stun. I found out that sweeping them into a dust pan using a whisk broom and then flushing them down the toilet does the trick, though. It's a lot of work, basically a little battle, but once that's done they don't come back. I felt cruel doing it, but I once found ants in my breakfast cereal, and that meant war. Ultimately it is less cruel because once you send the impression that there is an ant predator at that location, they avoid invading in the first place, which means I kill fewer that way than I would with poison.

IDK if that would work on the ants in your case, but I guess it couldn't hurt to do some online sleuthing to identify the species and find out best ways to eradicate that species. If you have the means a professional exterminator may be able to help. Sometimes I have dealt with exterminators who will only come in and do treatments, but some will also give advice on preventing re-infestation. Hope something in there helps.

Oh on the beetle - there is a specific species of beetle that impersonates the pheromones of ants so that it can enter the hive and then proceeds to feed on the ants inside. This might mean that ants and beetles may have a general prey/predator relationship, but really there are so very many different types of beetles that the mind boggles. According to the last time I checked, Beetles actually outweigh humans in total biomass on the planet. If you take into account food crops and animals, however, humans come out as the most resource-intensive on the planet. I don't know why I felt the need to share that, but one of my hobbies is packing in useless information so I hope it was interesting.
 
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LumberJack

Huggy Bear 🐻 u r warned!
SF Supporter
i'm doing pretty good. i had to drive 30 miles round trip because one of us lost the debit card. going to activate it today then i have to change a whole bunch of bills tomorrow. this sucks lol. when i was close to home a wheel loosened up so have to fix that tomorrow. considering everything i'm doing well

mike
sounds like a royal pain. At least you were close to home when the car started to misbehave. I had a splash shield come loose on my car recently and it was over 2 hours waiting for a tow truck to arrive.
 

Windhover

meandering home
SF Supporter
Oh on the beetle - there is a specific species of beetle that impersonates the pheromones of ants so that it can enter the hive and then proceeds to feed on the ants inside. This might mean that ants and beetles may have a general prey/predator relationship, but really there are so very many different types of beetles that the mind boggles. According to the last time I checked, Beetles actually outweigh humans in total biomass on the planet. If you take into account food crops and animals, however, humans come out as the most resource-intensive on the planet. I don't know why I felt the need to share that, but one of my hobbies is packing in useless information so I hope it was interesting.
This is good to read, and not useless, because it helps people know how to deal with critters and not use poison. I have a big thing about avoiding any use of poison. Thanks for posting this.
 

AvidFan

Retired Cat Staff
SF Supporter
I am guessing from your prior posts that these are the big red ants as opposed to the tiny (Argentinian?) sugar ants that infest apartments in the Southwestern USA. I have dealt with the latter on a number of occasions. What I have found is that if you let them swarm in, and then kill every single one of them in a short period of time, they mark that space as dangerous and avoid it going forward. Worked for me in 2 separate apartments. Problem is the little buggers are tough to actually kill rather than merely stun. I found out that sweeping them into a dust pan using a whisk broom and then flushing them down the toilet does the trick, though. It's a lot of work, basically a little battle, but once that's done they don't come back. I felt cruel doing it, but I once found ants in my breakfast cereal, and that meant war. Ultimately it is less cruel because once you send the impression that there is an ant predator at that location, they avoid invading in the first place, which means I kill fewer that way than I would with poison.

IDK if that would work on the ants in your case, but I guess it couldn't hurt to do some online sleuthing to identify the species and find out best ways to eradicate that species. If you have the means a professional exterminator may be able to help. Sometimes I have dealt with exterminators who will only come in and do treatments, but some will also give advice on preventing re-infestation. Hope something in there helps.

Oh on the beetle - there is a specific species of beetle that impersonates the pheromones of ants so that it can enter the hive and then proceeds to feed on the ants inside. This might mean that ants and beetles may have a general prey/predator relationship, but really there are so very many different types of beetles that the mind boggles. According to the last time I checked, Beetles actually outweigh humans in total biomass on the planet. If you take into account food crops and animals, however, humans come out as the most resource-intensive on the planet. I don't know why I felt the need to share that, but one of my hobbies is packing in useless information so I hope it was interesting.
Thanks that was very interesting! They are not so exciting, merely common UK black garden ants. It's hard to figure out what's going on. When my parents' house got attacked once, it was easy to detect the trail backwards from the jam jar on the counter all the way back to their nest about 20 yards from the back door. In my case they're not actually coming in for food, there's no trace of them near food, they just surface at various places around the house to deposit frass piles. Basically they are literally coming up for air and leaving their shit all over my house. Today I learned a new word - "frass" - and also that there is actually a market for this stuff.

Voila! The ants and I are going into business, I'll get them to mass produce the shit 😂😂😂

On a serious note, it's a tricky one as they're not simply going after food and they generally keep surfacing a few times every summer from a different place in the house. Probably an occupational hazard of having a house built in 1873!
 

LumberJack

Huggy Bear 🐻 u r warned!
SF Supporter
I’m feeling both anxious and depressed. It’s like being too hot and too cold at the same time, which is also happening. I feel cold so I put on some sweats, but then I feel overly warm and so I switch back to shorts and repeat.

I feel that I need someone to reassure me that the world is not ending and that I’m like able. Because even though for the most part I get along with people, the ones who I don’t, really dislike me or I am irritated by them. Which leads me to question whether I am being a jerk or not. I certainly don’t mean to, but I know I can be short with people who seem to not be listening to me.
 

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