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How Are You Feeling Right Now?

Windhover

meandering home
SF Supporter
Sadly we are not robots. I wish I was every day. Sometimes knowing these things makes it harder.
I hope your day improves. I hope you can find a way to feel happier :)
Thank you @Lestat. I hope your day is a fine one tomorrow. I hear you about the wish to be robotic. Robots don't feel. Our short little lives are filled with trauma and tumultuous messes of feelings which certainly seem to be there just so we hurt a lot.
 

From_Venus

Well-Known Member
I do not know the full story, but if you are having a bad time maybe it is good to be where you are? I know these places are hard as I have been in a few myself. It is good you have the internet though. I didn't the last time. I hope you can have a week like you did before and things can feel that way again for you. Keep fighting :) you can do it because you did it before!
ty *hug
 
Thank you @Lestat. I hope your day is a fine one tomorrow. I hear you about the wish to be robotic. Robots don't feel. Our short little lives are filled with trauma and tumultuous messes of feelings which certainly seem to be there just so we hurt a lot.
I think about this a lot. My only positive thing I can say is that we can love and be loved. When it's good it's amazing.

Though the current me feels like that'll never happen again. But I'm pretty negative right now so I can't be trusted with these thoughts. I hope my future self proves me wrong.
 

Lane

SF Pro
SF Supporter
I think I am in the middle stages of grief. Looking to move on but still stuck in the past. When I look at moving on I realise I have nowhere to move to. I am so used to being in a relationship that I dont know how else to exist. I look at myself now and I am much older and why would anyone want to be with me? But I have no idea how to be on my own.
I am told this is normal. Maybe so, maybe I am still in denial. Maybe I am scared of being out of denial... God I hope not.
I want to turn to drink and drugs but that has never helped me in the long run... but I am not good at looking after myself right now.
Thanks for sharing Lestat. It is scary to be on your own. I didn't even know how to write a check years ago when I was married and with a man who told me that I'd never make it on my own. There are ways to make it, it may seem daunting. But now, my fiance, years later lives 2000 miles away and while I'm lonely I enjoy the time in my own at times with no one to tell me when to eat, go to bed, what to do.

It is hard at an older age to find someone but it is possible. However, I believe that you have to be comfortable in your own skin first. I don't deal with my loneliness that well and turn to weed often, almost daily but figure it's harmless. I don't recommend it. But there are other things to do to enjoy being independent or combat the feeling of being alone. Going to a movie or out to eat or even a bar area some of the things I do as I've gotten older. I'll take a class at the local art center. I'm sorry if I'm overstepping with advice. But, I know it's important to make yourself content if possible.

Please pm me if you ever want to chat. *console
 

Windhover

meandering home
SF Supporter
I think about this a lot. My only positive thing I can say is that we can love and be loved. When it's good it's amazing.

Though the current me feels like that'll never happen again. But I'm pretty negative right now so I can't be trusted with these thoughts. I hope my future self proves me wrong.
In my weird brain I try to process throught the negative,at least the best I can. I guess it does help to be an over-thinker sometimesl Try to turn the negative feeling or attitude around in my mind, while taking a look at it, keeping a cool head. As though I was helping a friend. Loneliness is often at fault.
We're built on from a human who lived 20,000 years ago or more, and we're meant to have people, partners, a little group of some sort. When they are not there, we can feel as though a sadness becomes the main feeling. But there are things we can do to get past that and build support and a decent life.

I hope you are okay.
 
In my weird brain I try to process throught the negative,at least the best I can. I guess it does help to be an over-thinker sometimesl Try to turn the negative feeling or attitude around in my mind, while taking a look at it, keeping a cool head. As though I was helping a friend. Loneliness is often at fault.
We're built on from a human who lived 20,000 years ago or more, and we're meant to have people, partners, a little group of some sort. When they are not there, we can feel as though a sadness becomes the main feeling. But there are things we can do to get past that and build support and a decent life.

I hope you are okay.
Wow. We are both on the same journey and thought process. I was talking about this just yesterday with someone. I think we're probably going through very similar things too.
It's tough, I kinda know I'm not thinking correctly but the loss is so strong and overwhelming. The only way I've found to make it easier is to talk and distract myself.

I hope you can keep going with this. You're doing great 👍🏻 happy to talk anytime.
 

AvidFan

Retired Cat Staff
SF Supporter
I didn't have a bad day. After not sleeping and having nightmares I'd lost one of my jobs altogether, I got up to a nice enough message from a manager, but requesting more information about the project I deleted myself from. Not heard anything back yet but we work in different time zones. Weirdly, although I deleted the actual project for myself, I still got others' work on it to process, so I've done that all day, earned a small fortune, and treated myself to the tastiest Indian takeaway I think I've ever had, so am quite full and content at the moment. My other work is also going genuinely insane, it's going to be a blur until Christmas, I will have earned that break. Maybe I'll even get my high paying project back, who knows. At least I've not been fired completely, which was in my nightmares!
 

LumberJack

Huggy Bear 🐻 u r warned!
SF Supporter
I wish I was dead. There’s nothing left for me here. Only grief, failure, and disappointment. I’m shit at everything a human is supposed to be. I can’t run a relationship, although I’m terribly lonely. I must be a real jerk since no one wants to be around me. I’m probably going to end up drinking myself to death, and maybe I will be better off then. FTW
 

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