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AvidFan

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Flummoxed! I completed my new job assessment, find it harder than I expected. I always overthink things and try to look out for trick questions, so am not sure how I did. Apparently this company just ghost you if you're not successful. Seems par for the course these days! Well I think I've done enough for one day!
 

AvidFan

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Annoyed. After submitting the test I realised I'd got one of the things wrong as my hearing is a bit rubbish. Maybe they have things not as dependent on hearing? Maybe the whole thing was a bad idea.
 
Frustrated with myself because i still don't drive and trying to find a way to work when my ride goes on her week long vacation next month.

Kind of feel like others see those who need rides and find something valid in their reasoning for not driving, yet when it comes to me, they feel there should be no excuse. i just get told the same damn things, "you need to" "just go do it" "stop relying on others" "think of the freedom you'll have"....

if it was so easy i would have done it by now. If it wasn't so difficult for me to get out of my head and those memories, i would have done it by now. Of course i want that freedom. But that freedom also carried a terrifying weight with my depression. Maybe it's just an excuse for myself? My reasonings feel justifiable even if others don't understand them.

i just feel disappointed in myself.
Sorry you feel this way! I have managed to avoid learning to drive at all into my 50s and will regard it as an achievement if I never do. The amount of people I know who've had cars stolen/break down/constant problems, makes me glad not to have that burden. I always hear people talking about the cost, and when I see people stuck in traffic and I get off the bus to walk, I feel relieved I'm not stuck in this lump of metal! As for finding a place to park in the middle of a confusing one way system....or the hassle if you bump into someone else's vehicle.... It would feel more of a weight than a freedom to me! Of course there are downsides like the crazy people on public transport - and of course worse if there is no public transport. Do what's right for you!
I read these with great interest. I am convinced that one way to help people be healthier and spend less is to have good public transit. My friend who stayed in Europe for months said that many cities have such good transit that you wait for no more than 5 minutes at a bus stop. In addition many cities are designed to be walkable. I've lived in a few places where everything is within easy walking distance and it is blissful.

For most of my life I lived in a city with decent public transit (not good, but decent). I've only owned a car for 3 years out of the last 30, and belonged to a car co-op (where you book one as needed, but you pay) for 20 years along with taking buses.

Also I worked for years in car insurance claims talking to people who'd had accidents. Very stressful even if nobody gets hurt.

The bottom line is that excellent public transit + walkability is far superior to driving. However, most places don't have excellent public transit.

In my current city, which is the only place we could afford to buy a place with no mortgage (since my husband can no longer work and my income is less), we will need to buy a car.
 

AvidFan

Retired Cat Staff
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I'm feeling stupid. Thinking of another question I will have got wrong on my job assessment. I just don't seem to have the aptitude to do anything else except what I do, so I'll just have to hope it doesn't get screwed by AI, as I'd probably get shelf stacking wrong if I could even get a job doing that. It's amazing that I have several degrees in the top percentage/distinction but when it comes to everything else I have an IQ of zero. I can't actually do IQ tests, my brain implodes looking at the stupid patterns and says "what is the point of this?". I only seem able to solve a problem if I'm emotionally invested in some way. I already know I flunked the test because I don't think like most people. Hopefully I'll have enough work until I can retire doing what I do, I do it well enough, now kicking myself for wasting my day off with some pipe dream about another job and some extra income. While I was stuck in this test the person I mentioned the other day phone and said he could meet, but I had no way of saving my progress so I had to decline. So I could have gone out for a coffee instead of wasting my time and energy on this thing.
 

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I FEEL AWESOME!!! I just quit my soul-sucking job in the company where I worked for 22 years in various call centres. In the last few years the job had grown especially bad due to micro-managing and time scrutiny. Even the high pay wasn't worth it.
I'm really happy for you :)
 
I wish I could be of help here or anywhere. If I like your post it also means a hug.. or I can try to understand.

I'm feeling rather useless as I can't help my younger son the way he wants it, but I've done so much that if I keep helping he wont get on his feet.
*console The situation with your son sounds difficult. You might want to consult a professional counselor or therapist if you haven't done so already.
 

AvidFan

Retired Cat Staff
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I wish I could be of help here or anywhere. If I like your post it also means a hug.. or I can try to understand.

I'm feeling rather useless as I can't help my younger son the way he wants it, but I've done so much that if I keep helping he wont get on his feet.
Thank you, you were the only person who liked one of my posts above and it made a difference. It's weird how the mind works, but that small acknowledgment makes a difference. I try to like as many posts as possible - it doesn't mean I like that the person is feeling bad, just that I am acknowledging it when I don't have much energy to do much else. Thank you. You helped me today ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š
 

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