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How Are You Feeling Right Now?
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i'm actually doing pretty good today despite everything. we had a lot to do yesterday so we ended up cruising while getting stuff done and was on the road 5 1/2 hours. last month my daughter mentioned wanting to go cruising like the old days just her and i. old days meant having fun lol. since it was just us i took a lot of rubber off the tires lol. i had a great time just spending time with my daughter (froggie ). i have never opened up my 64 dodge with her yet so she loved it.
of course the downside is doing stuff raises my pain level and cruising 2 days in a row took it's toll on me. it took a few hours but my pain is finally down to 6 from 9 so that's a good sign lol. i love my daughter more than i can say, even at her age she is daddy's little girl and always will be
mike
of course the downside is doing stuff raises my pain level and cruising 2 days in a row took it's toll on me. it took a few hours but my pain is finally down to 6 from 9 so that's a good sign lol. i love my daughter more than i can say, even at her age she is daddy's little girl and always will be
mike
Sundays are lonely for me but I'm trying to keep in perspective that it's a day just to catch up on small chores like laundry and paying bills. My friend is dropping of homemade soup for me later, I'm so hungry right now. And the kids dishes in the sink and clothes piledin the laundry room is bummin me out a bit, but what else is new.
Questioning moving out across the country to live with my fiance and have to give up my "freedom" to be in someone else's home. He says that's the only way he'll get married, he won't move out here because taxes are like $4000. Higher per year.
On the other hand a fresh start might be good. New job, even though I'd be anxious. There's a lot to it. My adult children live in the home I'm in. It's all very confusing to me.
Questioning moving out across the country to live with my fiance and have to give up my "freedom" to be in someone else's home. He says that's the only way he'll get married, he won't move out here because taxes are like $4000. Higher per year.
On the other hand a fresh start might be good. New job, even though I'd be anxious. There's a lot to it. My adult children live in the home I'm in. It's all very confusing to me.
Mmm... It seems everybody is eating soup these days! And homemade, no less? Campbells, has always been a go-to staple, for me. I even like the condensed kind, or whatever it's called - that you have to add a can of water to... (those are especially good, come winter!) :^)
I'm sorry your kids are so disrespectful living in your own home, but I'm sure they take things for granted, because you are probably just too "nice." I get it, it's sometimes easier to avoid conflict--& especially if you fear the consequences on the other end of a different harder line/or stance, decision. Also hard to do, suddenly "switch," up (gears) like that - if it's not something you've always done. For then they are therefore not accustomed to it, & it will be, or seem totally out of character. They may laugh you out of the room, or not take you seriously.
But that said, you could accomlish the same thing, a break from them & their living arrangement, short of "kicking them out." If you got another place across town/or the city. You know whatever seems reasonable, or feasible. A tiny little studio, or whatever. That achieves the same goal. Maybe have them chip in a little bit, and put that towards your rent? As for the (other) guy you're considering marrying. Maybe easier to manage if you break it down and simply it? First off, and for starters - Do you want to live with him "Period?"
In other words, here / there / anywhere in the Universe? Once you've answered that, then it may seem just a little bit easier to decipher where you want to live. That sounds like more of a logistical problem, in my estimation. The bigger being, the former. . . I do wonder, and this is me just spitting out sounds out loud, so I hope not to offend. How much does someone who potentially is going to be your Spouse, really want to get married to you, if he can't be bothered to upgrade his tax situation? Not a fair question, perhaps & maybe. I don't know the particulars, the details, the accents & what have you. Etc~.
If that amount of money, the difference, would wreck his life, or alter it in such a way that he would have to make too many compromises, or if he just doesn't like where you live. Then I'd suppose those are reasonable things that should be considered, and weighed appropriately, and accordingly. It's just that in my eyes, which are not his, or yours. If I was in that situation, that's not the sort of thing that would put much hindrance into my efforts to get hitched, or whatever, so to speak... Hopefully, I've not over-stepped my bounds, or boundaries. For I am only trying to offer an alternate perspective. Whether or not it is any good, is ultimately up to you, @Lane.
post script: you could make it a whole lot less confusing, or ambiguous if you'd treated them like more grown up adults who should, and need to take care of their own responsibilities (unless they already are, in which case, forgive me - I may not be fully up to speed - but even if they are does that come w/the rent? The right to live like you aren't even there? In your own home, no less?) / Again, all I do is ask the questions. You may decide what is best based on your own judgement, and seasoning to taste. For it is you, who are/or is the 'expert,' on your own life and its surroundings. I will say, from afar, you've got your work cut out for you more than most, given the "supporting actors (or players)," shall we say - in your script of a movie in this ever poor & fading analogy.
pps) I forgot to say, or mention "tomato!" controversial (selection or choice) I know...
& if they don't like it, they can leave! ;D (says the guy who can't say no to & gets "bullied," by his cat!) hah hah
I'm sorry your kids are so disrespectful living in your own home, but I'm sure they take things for granted, because you are probably just too "nice." I get it, it's sometimes easier to avoid conflict--& especially if you fear the consequences on the other end of a different harder line/or stance, decision. Also hard to do, suddenly "switch," up (gears) like that - if it's not something you've always done. For then they are therefore not accustomed to it, & it will be, or seem totally out of character. They may laugh you out of the room, or not take you seriously.
But that said, you could accomlish the same thing, a break from them & their living arrangement, short of "kicking them out." If you got another place across town/or the city. You know whatever seems reasonable, or feasible. A tiny little studio, or whatever. That achieves the same goal. Maybe have them chip in a little bit, and put that towards your rent? As for the (other) guy you're considering marrying. Maybe easier to manage if you break it down and simply it? First off, and for starters - Do you want to live with him "Period?"
In other words, here / there / anywhere in the Universe? Once you've answered that, then it may seem just a little bit easier to decipher where you want to live. That sounds like more of a logistical problem, in my estimation. The bigger being, the former. . . I do wonder, and this is me just spitting out sounds out loud, so I hope not to offend. How much does someone who potentially is going to be your Spouse, really want to get married to you, if he can't be bothered to upgrade his tax situation? Not a fair question, perhaps & maybe. I don't know the particulars, the details, the accents & what have you. Etc~.
If that amount of money, the difference, would wreck his life, or alter it in such a way that he would have to make too many compromises, or if he just doesn't like where you live. Then I'd suppose those are reasonable things that should be considered, and weighed appropriately, and accordingly. It's just that in my eyes, which are not his, or yours. If I was in that situation, that's not the sort of thing that would put much hindrance into my efforts to get hitched, or whatever, so to speak... Hopefully, I've not over-stepped my bounds, or boundaries. For I am only trying to offer an alternate perspective. Whether or not it is any good, is ultimately up to you, @Lane.
post script: you could make it a whole lot less confusing, or ambiguous if you'd treated them like more grown up adults who should, and need to take care of their own responsibilities (unless they already are, in which case, forgive me - I may not be fully up to speed - but even if they are does that come w/the rent? The right to live like you aren't even there? In your own home, no less?) / Again, all I do is ask the questions. You may decide what is best based on your own judgement, and seasoning to taste. For it is you, who are/or is the 'expert,' on your own life and its surroundings. I will say, from afar, you've got your work cut out for you more than most, given the "supporting actors (or players)," shall we say - in your script of a movie in this ever poor & fading analogy.
pps) I forgot to say, or mention "tomato!" controversial (selection or choice) I know...
& if they don't like it, they can leave! ;D (says the guy who can't say no to & gets "bullied," by his cat!) hah hah
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Thanks for your reply @MisterBGone. Alot of what you wrote rings true. I do still have questions to ask myself. It was very kind of you to take the time to respond.
I watched a live online sermon at Bryn Athyn Cathedral this morning. It went well, except for the fact that Catholics seem to think Jesus was God. He never claimed to be nor did he want to be praised. He was very humble. And he is the Lord's Son, our Savior.. .while God is His father, and He is One. Christ is not God. That part bothered me. Other than that, it was a beautiful service. Not sure I liked all the singing, though. I'm not much of a singer. I prefer to praise God a bit differently, that is, in my own unique ways, which I hope please our Lord God.
Also my family flat out pissed me off today. Their worldviews, shallowness, selfishness, and greed absolutely blows my fucking mind. I told my mother the truth about how she makes me feel. Chances are, it went in one ear and out the other. However, I hope it really makes her think, "Have I done something wrong? Was I selfish? Insulting? Neglectful? Hurtful? Inconsiderate?"
YES. You were.
Also my family flat out pissed me off today. Their worldviews, shallowness, selfishness, and greed absolutely blows my fucking mind. I told my mother the truth about how she makes me feel. Chances are, it went in one ear and out the other. However, I hope it really makes her think, "Have I done something wrong? Was I selfish? Insulting? Neglectful? Hurtful? Inconsiderate?"
YES. You were.
