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I am feeling frustrated. I have a fairly wide circle of casual friends (I'm an extrovert and believe me it's part of the territory and doesn't mean I am socially skilled), and one of them has now taken offence to something minor I said about it being hard to find friends or a romantic partner at our age (early 50s) because many people have established social circles or are taken. I was actually speaking to a third person, but this newly-single friend managed to get offended thinking that I am saying all the good men are gone and that SHE will not find someone.
I’m sorry, this sounds incredibly frustrating. It’s annoying especially that she’s taken offense and then told you/blamed you in some way. In all likelihood, you probably hit a bit of a nerve in her mind, and in that sense it’s more a thing for her to deal with than your words.

It can definitely be a skill to realise that the problem is in how you’re perceiving the words. Someone on here had replied to a thread of mine and I was incredibly offended by the response. I’d typed out my angry retort and then realised it was far more likely that it was meant well and I’d just interpreted it in a different way.
 

Lane

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I am feeling frustrated. I have a fairly wide circle of casual friends (I'm an extrovert and believe me it's part of the territory and doesn't mean I am socially skilled), and one of them has now taken offence to something minor I said about it being hard to find friends or a romantic partner at our age (early 50s) because many people have established social circles or are taken. I was actually speaking to a third person, but this newly-single friend managed to get offended thinking that I am saying all the good men are gone and that SHE will not find someone.

I am now resolved to avoid making any friends in the future who are physically attractive (actually she's gorgeous) because the sense of f*cking entitlement that beautiful people have (especially women, sorry not sorry) is off the charts. She gets asked out almost every week and I was NOT referring to her. So, I should apologize because I was thinking of regular mortals like me finding it hard to make friends or a boyfriend when older (I am married but was speaking generally), but not a Goddess like herself?

Yes I am speaking tongue-in -cheek a bit here. But I am so wishing I were an introvert right now and was happy with just a few close friends. I am so done with people generally. I mean, I get it - I take offence wrongly at times too, but such a general comment and she takes it that personally? F*ck it. *rant:mad:
Ugh, it sounds like she's used to being the center of attention. Plus she's been used to that her whole life if she is beautiful. Spoiled brat! Hope you feel better @Lady Wolfshead. *console
 

1964dodge

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I get triggered (or annoyed at the very least) when I hear or read the word "together", because there really isn't such a thing as together, from my experience. More like "I", always.

Also, I live in a quiet village but there's probably a bar/resto somewhere near our home coz I could hear someone or some band singing. It kinda triggers me too coz I used to go those places when I was a teen and several times for the last decade, but now I could not see myself enjoying that experience anymore.
i agree in part that there is a lot of " i " in todays society. there is also a lot of together. sometimes it's hard to find that feeling but it is possible. maybe you could try to go to that bar and maybe you can meet new people

mike....*hug*shake
 

Lane

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I slept in most of the day, which isn't unusual for a Sunday. But I have to get dressed because I need to get something to eat, maybe pasta. My daughter and son are going to a black tie dinner and I'm looking forward to seeing them dressed. I also never met my daughter, 20, boyfriend, age 30. Maybe one day. I hope everyone here's doing as well as possible.
 

1964dodge

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I'm not in a good way right now. First there was the insomnia, a really bad one, but I got up and tried to make the best of it. All seems a bit of a blur but I have been trying to occupy myself from 6am. Somehow in the midst of this I've managed to tear my meniscal cartilage in my "good" knee. I don't know exactly how I did it, but it's likely when I was squatting down to do some random task and that's when it must have gone. Ouch, was quiet until a few hours later when suddenly the pain is flaring up. This is when I feel really vulnerable, alone in the house , a prisoner, nowhere to go, nobody to call round and help me and suddenly helpless. I rely on the running to help my mental health but that's gone in the blink of an eye... Now I'm immobile and sleep deprived wondering "What next?" At least I have enough painkillers to kill a horse 🤷‍♂️ I can put weight on it and the pain is intermittent so am hoping it's not very serious and just more of an annoyance. At least I have nowhere to go until Wednesday and I have a remote job. And not like I was going to move much from the sofa anyway today with Survivor and Doctor Who on!
i hope the knee heals quickly

mike.....*hug*console*shake
 
Ugh, it sounds like she's used to being the center of attention. Plus she's been used to that her whole life if she is beautiful. Spoiled brat! Hope you feel better @Lady Wolfshead. *console
I thank you a thousand times for this response Lane. You get it. *stars*hugThis same friend has dated so many jerks because she chooses them based on their looks. But I know better than to point that out - and as I said my initial comment was not even about her. She is a good person in many ways but you're right she is spoiled in that arena.
 
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