How Are You Feeling Right Now?

[Lady Wolfshead]

I’m sorry, this sounds incredibly frustrating. It’s annoying especially that she’s taken offense and then told you/blamed you in some way. In all likelihood, you probably hit a bit of a nerve in her mind, and in that sense it’s more a thing for her to deal with than your words.

It can definitely be a skill to realise that the problem is in how you’re perceiving the words. Someone on here had replied to a thread of mine and I was incredibly offended by the response. I’d typed out my angry retort and then realised it was far more likely that it was meant well and I’d just interpreted it in a different way.

Thank you for this. And that's awesome you were able to realize the person's response was meant well. Everyone can be over-sensitive including me, and I'm trying to change that and not be so easily offended. It's not easy in the modern world.

 

[Searchingforhope]

Thank you for this. And that's awesome you were able to realize the person's response was meant well. Everyone can be over-sensitive including me, and I'm trying to change that and not be so easily offended. It's not easy in the modern world.

Oh, no it’s definitely not easy. I’m not sure I’ll ever learn to be less offended. But I hope I can learn to catch myself and understand it’s usually about how it makes me feel, rather than how it was intended.

(And also, sometimes people are ****s)

 

[AvidFan]

Sleepy. I've been sleepy all day. Yesterday when I hadn't slept I was full energy, last night I slept for hours and have been barely able to keep my eyes open all day. Hopefully that insomniac irony doesn't kick in where you're sleepy all day and on like a Light bulb as soon as head hits pillow 🤔

 

[MisterBGone]

I am feeling frustrated. I have a fairly wide circle of casual friends (I'm an extrovert and believe me it's part of the territory and doesn't mean I am socially skilled), and one of them has now taken offence to something minor I said about it being hard to find friends or a romantic partner at our age (early 50s) because many people have established social circles or are taken. I was actually speaking to a third person, but this newly-single friend managed to get offended thinking that I am saying all the good men are gone and that SHE will not find someone.

I am now resolved to avoid making any friends in the future who are physically attractive (actually she's gorgeous) because the sense of f*cking entitlement that beautiful people have (especially women, sorry not sorry) is off the charts. She gets asked out almost every week and I was NOT referring to her. So, I should apologize because I was thinking of regular mortals like me finding it hard to make friends or a boyfriend when older (I am married but was speaking generally), but not a Goddess like herself?

Yes I am speaking tongue-in -cheek a bit here. But I am so wishing I were an introvert right now and was happy with just a few close friends. I am so done with people generally. I mean, I get it - I take offence wrongly at times too, but such a general comment and she takes it that personally? F*ck it.

I'm sorry for you terrible experience Lady Wolfshead. I understand that you were in "blowing-off steam," mode here... & so, I'll take that into consideration and keep that in mind for what is about to follow. And I come in peace, by the way! Now it sounds like something of a major miscommunication, if you ask me & add or throw in 'group dynamics,' to the mix. And well, you have a recipe for all sorts & kinds of misunderstandings. I think that if the two of you were to have a heart-to-heart discussion when cooler heads had prevailed, that it would probably solve a lot of ills. (In my estimation...) // Only counterpoint I might suggest, that could or could not, all just depending on your point of view, and your temperament & your overall thoughts & feelings on the subject. . . Is this: that even though; or just because someone has been gifted with the good genes -- when it comes to "looks." That does not automatically necessarily mean that they will have a cake-walk through life. Nor does it come anywhere near close - to solving all of their problems. Maybe one of them, it could be argued! But needless to say, there are quite a few more things which can overwhelm one's plate in life. And I think that, even if you take some time to read back on your initial post as stated here; if you're being completely/or perfectly 'honest,' with yourself--then I don't think you'll absolutely agree with everything that was said. Or if you do, maybe it won't be quite so definitively? . . . Of course, I could be completely reading the situation wrong, and my intent here is certainly not to call you out, or say that you're wrong, or point a finger at you. On the contrary, because I respect & admire you, I wanted to share some insights that may be going on in the heads of others whom you have kind of sort of just all lumped together in one over-generalized sum(p). I know you probably didn't mean to, and that you were perhaps a bit emotionally heated in that given moment. Which is why I wanted to share my thoughts with you, should you find yourself in a simliar or analgous situation in the future. To help you to better understand how things look, and what the view is like - or might be like - from the other side of the fence. By the way, this may have absolutely nothing to do when it comes to your given circumstance with your friend here today. But it may still be applicable, and helpful for you - (&) to you - in the future. Should you decide to store & file-it away in the back of your brain for further reference one day. I hope my tone hasn't come across as negative, or condescending. Certainly not "preaching!" As I am about as calm & neutral as I have ever been when logging in. I wish you good luck with all of this~ :^)

[added slightly after- "the fact..."]

Also: the other problem (from her end) may be this - that you have a husband/or significant other right now, and so sometimes, with some people - that just makes it harder to accept your input, is all. . . (or I guess? I don't really know! Don't listen to me~*).

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

I'm sorry for you terrible experience Lady Wolfshead. I understand that you were in "blowing-off steam," mode here... & so, I'll take that into consideration and keep that in mind for what is about to follow. And I come in peace, by the way! Now it sounds like something of a major miscommunication, if you ask me & add or throw in 'group dynamics,' to the mix. And well, you have a recipe for all sorts & kinds of misunderstandings. I think that if the two of you were to have a heart-to-heart discussion when cooler heads had prevailed, that it would probably solve a lot of ills. (In my estimation...) // Only counterpoint I might suggest, that could or could not, all just depending on your point of view, and your temperament & your overall thoughts & feelings on the subject. . . Is this: that even though; or just because someone has been gifted with the good genes -- when it comes to "looks." That does not automatically necessarily mean that they will have a cake-walk through life. Nor does it come anywhere near close - to solving all of their problems. Maybe one of them, it could be argued! But needless to say, there are quite a few more things which can overwhelm one's plate in life. And I think that, even if you take some time to read back on your initial post as stated here; if you're being completely/or perfectly 'honest,' with yourself--then I don't think you'll absolutely agree with everything that was said. Or if you do, maybe it won't be quite so definitively? . . . Of course, I could be completely reading the situation wrong, and my intent here is certainly not to call you out, or say that you're wrong, or point a finger at you. On the contrary, because I respect & admire you, I wanted to share some insights that may be going on in the heads of others whom you have kind of sort of just all lumped together in one over-generalized sum(p). I know you probably didn't mean to, and that you were perhaps a bit emotionally heated in that given moment. Which is why I wanted to share my thoughts with you, should you find yourself in a simliar or analgous situation in the future. To help you to better understand how things look, and what the view is like - or might be like - from the other side of the fence. By the way, this may have absolutely nothing to do when it comes to your given circumstance with your friend here today. But it may still be applicable, and helpful for you - (&) to you - in the future. Should you decide to store & file-it away in the back of your brain for further reference one day. I hope my tone hasn't come across as negative, or condescending. Certainly not "preaching!" As I am about as calm & neutral as I have ever been when logging in. I wish you good luck with all of this~ :^)

[added slightly after- "the fact..."]

Also: the other problem (from her end) may be this - that you have a husband/or significant other right now, and so sometimes, with some people - that just makes it harder to accept your input, is all. . . (or I guess? I don't really know! Don't listen to me~*).

Thanks for your feedback.

 

[KM76710]

Oh, no it’s definitely not easy. I’m not sure I’ll ever learn to be less offended. But I hope I can learn to catch myself and understand it’s usually about how it makes me feel, rather than how it was intended.

(And also, sometimes people are ****s)

I know I may fall into the bit of something coming across wrongly. I take into consideration with me my use of the understood slang and vernacular and how things get phrased here, especially with how many people are from all across the world. I do give benefit of the doubt if the person has a decency past towards others and say to myself, just probably a cultural difference between us and go from that.

 

[Waves]

Trying not to be self pitying while also being angry with being me. I am my own worst enemy. I know we need to work at making our lives. But may I say that when I run out of energy pushing a Boulder uphill all alone, it does get lonely and difficult and anxiety provoking. Sorry to be this way.

 

[HappyKitty]

I hope I wont be too tired- I'm occupied in between work, this week is apt week and next week is energy test week, sth abt the hearteuuu.... Quite I guess I hope the fatigue wont be so long when I pause and not forcing myself, same time I guess I try my best not to get too upset abt not completing task.... Its kinda crazy... I keep wanting to make up to what making me disappointed. Most of my friends are on holiday, I look forward to spend more time with cuzzie... Her bday coming soon and end of year. 😺✨

 

[HappyKitty]

conflicted abt whether or not what to feel that me and my cousin are hiting golden age. she spend good bday this year with me, i look forward to return that... shes turning 25 this month while im turning 30 next year and nobody is believing it...😂

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

Feeling good. Simplifying my life.

 

[Lane]

Trying not to be self pitying while also being angry with being me. I am my own worst enemy. I know we need to work at making our lives. But may I say that when I run out of energy pushing a Boulder uphill all alone, it does get lonely and difficult and anxiety provoking. Sorry to be this way.

It's not easy, especially when you don't feel like trying. I used to like taking long walks in the park. I'm just not up to it anymore and worry about my physical health as a result. But wouldn't it be be better if there were someone to go with? And I've tried Waves. Only to be given excuses by the 2 friends I do have. So, no need to apologize. It's not easy. And you don't deserve it.

 

[AvidFan]

Bit tired, felt like I'd been hit by a truck when I woke up. Taking it easy today then need to survive this week. A week today should be my last commute into the office for 3 weeks. Still working from home up to 22nd or so, but once the commuting is over I will be a relieved person. Then plenty of rest over the holidays with food and cake and book and box set binges.

 

[Bergerac]

Hope I have someone to talk to soon, who will genuinely listen.

 

[Bergerac]

Another job done for the day; pray it bears fruit. x

 

[Lane]

I found out someone from college passed away unexpectedly. My instant reaction was why not me. Do I value my life that little? In all honesty I do suffer from depression, stress, anxiety, ill stop there, ha but I don't really want to die. My life is far from perfect but it's mine.

 

[Lane]

Bit tired, felt like I'd been hit by a truck when I woke up. Taking it easy today then need to survive this week. A week today should be my last commute into the office for 3 weeks. Still working from home up to 22nd or so, but once the commuting is over I will be a relieved person. Then plenty of rest over the holidays with food and cake and book and box set binges.

Hugs for the first part of your post and to the latter.

 

[Lane]

Another job done for the day; pray it bears fruit. x

I bet you did a great job @Bergerac

 

[Bergerac]

I bet you did a great job @Bergerac

Thanks for the support

 

[Searchingforhope]

Hope I have someone to talk to soon, who will genuinely listen.

 

[Searchingforhope]

I accidentally had a little too much to drink at a dinner tonight. I’m exhausted. I’ve got another social event tomorrow. I would rather just sleep.