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MisterBGone

MisterBGone

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puffymilk said:
Have done my interview preparation. Making sure that I am ready for the interview tomorrow. I don't know why but I still feel empty and I feel like I'm not really looking forward to it. Usually I'd be pretty excited but this time idk
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Probably because a lot is riding on it, and then also, the state of how you are feeling now, perhaps or maybe as in more in comparison to times before. I know that, for me, generally speaking--when it greater states of, "fragility" or feeling 'fragile.' I usually have to try & work pretty-hard, to check all of that stuff at the door, or (leave it) out in the car. Before I go & head in for or to the interview. So that I can be be able, and available, not show them an untrue version of myself. But also, to be able to try & give them a taste, or a sense of the flavor of whatever it is I can bring to the table. Because, often times it seems, at least for the more remedial jobs or positions with which I have held. They mostly or mainly, much or what they may be wanting to check out & (to ) see. . . is this: IF- or ARE You someone with whom they'd want to work with? Do they want to work with you? Do they find you likable. Or do you give them some reason to pause, and say, "wait a second, red lights abound!" (don't/or let's not cross...) kind of a thing~ mindset or think/ing :) best wishes & im' sure you'll do fine. You are no whefre near in the states of sommem of my more severe~ // depressions & anxieties mindelss this/these/& thats~* ;) hah! :D peace out.
 
Tor

Tor

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#104,486
JMG said:
Hey Tor, I know we haven’t talked much here but I just wanted to say I’m really sorry you’re having to deal with something like this. I can’t really relate since I have (thankfully) never been sexually harassed and probably never would be anyway (you have to be at least somewhat “attractive” to have that happen I think) but I still absolutely empathize with you. It seems like it would be quite a stressful kind of thing to have to deal with, and it is definitely not “right” at all.

I’m curious, have you tried saying directly to the person who is harassing you that you don’t appreciate being spoken to in that manner? I realize it can be very difficult to say something TO the person themselves about it, especially in an effective/assertive kind of way, but anyway maybe you have already tried that I’m not sure. I don’t understand why companies ever have ANY tolerance for such a thing as that happening really, but hopefully one day it will no longer be a thing that is ever happening in any job, ever.

I know you said you need the job and I’m not sure what field you are in but if you’ve been fighting it for a year now and it’s still happening then perhaps it might be time to seriously consider a new place of work, with a company who will respect your need for being treated in a decent and respectful kind of way. What Mike (1964dodge) recommended about writing down those incidents when they happen is also a great suggestion imo so if you are really preferring not to change jobs then that might be a helpful thing to do as well.

I wish you a lot of luck that it will be resolved soon so you can feel better about going to work each day again. Workplace sexual harassment is definitely a big problem, it might not be much comfort but you are definitely not alone in having to deal with that.
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Hey @JMG,

sorry for the late response. I have reach corporate with my complaints, but things keep being swept under the rug. It is so exhausting to discuss, but I find myself doing it daily.

Idk if it’s my ego or what, but I feel hard headed over keeping my job. I know it’s not worth the stress and heath issues, but I can’t stop fighting this.

I truly appreciate you kind words of support and encouragement. Sending hugs to you
 
JMG

JMG

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#104,495
Tor said:
Hey @JMG,

sorry for the late response. I have reach corporate with my complaints, but things keep being swept under the rug. It is so exhausting to discuss, but I find myself doing it daily.

Idk if it’s my ego or what, but I feel hard headed over keeping my job. I know it’s not worth the stress and heath issues, but I can’t stop fighting this.

I truly appreciate you kind words of support and encouragement. Sending hugs to you
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You’re so welcome @Tor and lol no worries at all about reply time! There have been many times where I’ve typed out as thoughtful of a reply as I could to people over the years and never had ANY kind of response to it at all, ever. So better late than never I say! :)

I’m really sorry to hear about how you’ve contacted corporate about your situation and that it keeps getting swept under the rug, I really hope it will get resolved for you soon. I would imagine it is exhausting to keep discussing and that if it were me I would be feeling like “ok, no more talking about it how about something just be DONE about it please” so ya I get that. I’m not sure what else to say except to offer my compassion and empathy to you about the situation. I hope it gives you at least some small comfort. I understand about not wanting to quit the job despite how it is causing you stress like that too. Even when we are doing something “for the right reason” sometimes our mind can still be stubborn and be like “no, we can’t quit” and things like that.

You’re so welcome for what I said though, and I’m really glad you found what I said to be kind and encouraging :) Thank you again for replying and for those sweet hugs, sending big hugs back to you too :) *hug*brohug
 
JMG

JMG

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This is a post for everyone in here, just wanting you all to know that while I may not very often “reply to each individual post” here, I do read many of them and care a lot. Whether it is about suffering/stress/worry/pain of some kind or whatever else, or when people say they are having an ok, good, or great day, I feel glad for those who are feeling good and empathize with all those who are struggling in some way.

I wish the best for everyone here, always. Just really wanted to say that, and also to offer lots of big hugs to any/all who are wanting/needing them :) *hug*hug*grouphug2
 
JMG

JMG

Pink Sponge Autumn horse 💖🧽🌞🐴
#104,498
#104,498
Oops ok I know I’ve already done a few posts “in a row” in here, but realized I didn’t do one saying anything about how “I” am feeling right now lol. Well as usual I am feeling a lot of things. Partly worried about various uncertainties about things in my life (and also in the world, I try not to go too “far” with my worry about that though of course since I know it could easily go on forever).

I am also feeling some more positive things too like relaxed since I have my sweet kitty sleeping here beside me right now. I’m so grateful for her, having her as a part of my life, that I have a place to live and that I had a yummy dinner earlier. In an hour or so I will be having a yummy smoothie for my dessert so I’m also feeling “anticipation” about that :)

Feeling a bit “stressed” too, cos of probably going out tomorrow (I avoid that as much as I can these days) and that my sleeping has gotten a bit messed up yet again. Gonna try to fix it tonight.
 
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