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How Are You Feeling Right Now?
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A bit sad (and I'm not sure why??), I think? I don't know what got into me, but I looked my ex up on Google this afternoon and I saw something that made me sad, and that shouldn't make me sad? Oh I don't know. I should stop. I really think I'd be okay after all these years, but no, not really. And I don't like it.
Have you tried working through this with a therapist before, or in the past? And if so, was it so long ago, that a "refresher," wouldn't hurt? Forgetting now & off the top of, it that (or therapy) is not something that is an option on the table for you now and currently in this moment! 
Ok, well if it's something you find recurring again & in the future over time. It might be one thing that can give you some help with overcoming this. Again, should it even be deemed necessary. Yes, we can understand for ourselves logically how or why a thing should be. Such as that situation with which you've described. However, sometimes how we behave, or think, and feel etc. Experience these emotions can trigger other things, I guess is what I'm trying to say. So if you're finding it hard to escape this and stay on the closure path (for instance, I don't know if things were left . . . for good / or in a good place -- where you could, for the most part ~outside of this last/little detour of course; which could have only been brought about, or come about due to other circumstantial & environmental effects-- but if these emotions and feels, hard as they were or whatever - are in fact, in stead more of the 'unresolved,' variety, and were therefore as opposed to being more perfectly fine & all that, with how things ended and they had transpired in the aftermath. For coping mechanism purposes you stuffed all of these, or all of this, down inside of you or yourself deeply. And now, just given convenience of time & place, or whatever else luxury wise, it is rearing its head or boiling back again to the surface. If it is more this, or even in part this, such that as I said you have a difficult time getting it to go away successfully and for good. Then that's where a little help can come in handy. Not saying it would. Guaranteed & 100%. But it sounds like you are not there yet, so this is just one more reference for worst case scenarios then, somewhere on down the line. Which hopefully, is a place you won't ever visit, if all goes well, or as is expected and planned.
I'm upset with myself. I don't know how to make sense of it. I'm looking forward to going back where I vacationed twice but part of me feels guilty because of my 2 sons. One is doing pretty well for himself, the younger, no, he's depressed. I'm not sure I can leave without regret, yet he is at an age to be working and I've tried everything I can think of. I'm not a professional, I've told him to seek help, I've forced him to hospital, nothing works to get him to get off his rear. Working makes a person feel better. I know, because once i was given my disability, I was angry. I said I wanted to work or I'll end up worse. It's too late now I tried hairstyling 3 times after I was put on disability, and it's too hard. I do hurt. My bones hurt. Yet I feel horrible to enjoy myself.... even though he's at the point he wont listen to anyone. I regret things I've done and said, there's nothing I can do to change it. I'm also upset I don't have the attention span to help anyone out here, so I read shorter posts... self criticism isn't helping me. I cancelled a membership for writing a book. Everyone was writing similar things in a memoir and it was too similar and yes, triggering.
sometimes we have to practice a little tough love with our children. it hurts us more than it hurts them but there usually comes a time we have to make them stand on their own 2 feet. the only other option is so bad we don't like to think about it. you will probably pass on before your child so if you keep helping them , they will be alone and unable to take care of themself when your time comes. of course once in a while you can do little things like get some groceries etc. , but you will feel much better once your son flies from the nest .
i understand how you feel about disability. when i became disabled i was very deptressed for a long time.
mike.....
i understand how you feel about disability. when i became disabled i was very deptressed for a long time.
mike.....
sometimes we have to practice a little tough love with our children. it hurts us more than it hurts them but there usually comes a time we have to make them stand on their own 2 feet. the only other option is so bad we don't like to think about it. you will probably pass on before your child so if you keep helping them , they will be alone and unable to take care of themself when your time comes. of course once in a while you can do little things like get some groceries etc. , but you will feel much better once your son flies from the nest .
i understand how you feel about disability. when i became disabled i was very deptressed for a long time.
mike.....
i understand how you feel about disability. when i became disabled i was very deptressed for a long time.
mike.....
I hate myself sometimes because I really know I'm not smart or helpful, I had always wanted to be useful to people. And i wonder sometimes if I didn't make some people's lives worse with what I said. I liked working in nursing homes, a long time ago, at least I cared a lot back then. I still do it's just not having a job that gives me a purpose.
I know you would understand about how being on disability doesn't make us feel good, but at least my dad said once, before he died, that after all I had been through, he believed I deserved it. If we cant work we cant work, simple as that. Thanks for your reply, it helps a lot and I hope you have as good a night as you can
