-
IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT: Please read THIS THREAD about a rebrand for SF.
How Are You Feeling Right Now?
- Thread starter UNREGISTERED0000
- Start date
Very alone... No matter who i talk to or try and help or be there for...
It's nearly impossible to ask people for help when you don't know what kind of help you want... let alone need. i no not have the energy or desire to try and figure it out either. So i guess i am SOL till i can figure out how to change that. Extremely pessimistic right now... however this time... not apologizing for it... because it wouldn't be true.
i am Not sorry.
It's nearly impossible to ask people for help when you don't know what kind of help you want... let alone need. i no not have the energy or desire to try and figure it out either. So i guess i am SOL till i can figure out how to change that. Extremely pessimistic right now... however this time... not apologizing for it... because it wouldn't be true.
i am Not sorry.
🫂🫂I'll give you some hugs....
good to see you around hope you are well
That is funny Lumberjack - I am originally from Germany, which I left some 30 years ago. Hope you went to Bavaria! But just to say - it has a downside too: I had to work in places like Kosovo, Afghanistan, Chad, South Sudan, Central African Republic, Burkina, Myanmar, Sudan.. all in war and unrest. And it made me sick to death. Full of pity as well.
One small story: I was in Ouga, saw a woman with two children searching for something to eat in the dump. I was in tears and invited them to eat. My hotel did not want to let them enter - so I said, If I can't invite them, I leave. I ordered a nice meal and while I went to the toilet the hotel threw them out (they just packed their food in plastic...). This world is sick, egoistic, materialistic, without love... and at the very end of my career it broke me, What was once nice, interesting an adventure became a sickness, And it took me two years to get more or less out of this. This is one of the reasons why I am here.
One small story: I was in Ouga, saw a woman with two children searching for something to eat in the dump. I was in tears and invited them to eat. My hotel did not want to let them enter - so I said, If I can't invite them, I leave. I ordered a nice meal and while I went to the toilet the hotel threw them out (they just packed their food in plastic...). This world is sick, egoistic, materialistic, without love... and at the very end of my career it broke me, What was once nice, interesting an adventure became a sickness, And it took me two years to get more or less out of this. This is one of the reasons why I am here.
Severely anxious. Have messaged roofer who fixed some slates a few years ago. I'm as anxious about what he's going to say as last time he said I might need a re-roof but his repairs seem to have held. I've not been in any position to fund that kind of thing, I might be able to borrow the cash now but it'll put me deep into debt again and only been out of that for a year or so. Financial issues never stop. On pins waiting to see if my message blue ticks. Only just found the conversation from last time when I went to add a roofer to my contacts and already had the number 🤦♂️ Could have messaged last week but didn't realise but I thought he looked familiar. Also, trying to stay sane enough as I've got late work stuff to do today and not sure I am anywhere near up to it - but can't afford to cancel and lose work so am feeling pretty trapped 😢
Oh FFS, the roofer is away for the next week, like the 2 others who even got back to me. The funny thing is my anxiety told me this would happen. Use every technique you like, such as "where is the evidence for that"? Well it's in black and white text in my emails and on my phone. This is just fucked up. How the fuck are you supposed to get home repairs done when seemingly everyone who can do it is away or doesn't get back to you? Then you end up scraping the barrel and could end up with some rogue trader. Fuck, fuck, fuck.
Never trust someone who says "all needs to be replaced" or "you need a new roof". This is just a way to make you pay more than you should. Repairs are cheaper. You have internet access - why don't you offer the job - and give it to the cheapest who gives you a guarantee for 3 years? Small ads? I heard in the US you have millions of refugees, who know how to work and are quite cheap. So you do something good - and he does as well.
I'm in the UK. There are plenty of accounts of people found that way who bodge the job and offer a guarantee - but enforcing that in the UK is impossible without a long court battle. Also it's not unheard of for people to go up and cause more damage so they can charge you to fix it! There are plenty of vetting sites but the consensus is the people on there pay for the listing and manipulate the reviews system. The guy who said new roof said he only does repairs and repaired it, and it's held up till now. Didn't push anything on me, just the advice to think about it, next door did have to reroof a few years ago, it is a thing with these older houses 😒
As it is the previous roofer has given me his mate's number who has responded quickly and said he'll come and look. I daren't get my hopes up but it's a tiny bit of progress. Worst case I will get the other one to come next week or maybe this one will help.
This is why I have a maintenance contract for heating, plumbing and electrics, it costs a bit but at least they have complaints procedure and have fixed every issue I've had for 20 years. First time I called someone out to my boiler he buggered around with it for half an hour, said he couldn't fix it, but that will be £60. That was in 2003! I wrote a cheque as he was big and had a wrench with him. I thought never again!
As it is the previous roofer has given me his mate's number who has responded quickly and said he'll come and look. I daren't get my hopes up but it's a tiny bit of progress. Worst case I will get the other one to come next week or maybe this one will help.
This is why I have a maintenance contract for heating, plumbing and electrics, it costs a bit but at least they have complaints procedure and have fixed every issue I've had for 20 years. First time I called someone out to my boiler he buggered around with it for half an hour, said he couldn't fix it, but that will be £60. That was in 2003! I wrote a cheque as he was big and had a wrench with him. I thought never again!