Omg I’m studying in Mc Donald and there is this little girl with looong dark blond hair I can’t take my eyes off. If my child won’t look like that I don’t want a child at all. 
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My first niece was like that when she was little, except her hair was raven black. She wanted to keep it long and was usually just above her waist. Complete strangers would come up to fawn over her in public.
Wow, I didn’t know you are in Singapore! I have not visited, but I think I will once I have enough money saved up to travel again.
32 C is about 90 F, which is warm but not terrible for me. We don’t have much humidity, though, and I am guessing it’s quite humid there. Humidity makes it feel very much hotter than the same temperature in a dry climate; so much so that I will find myself an air conditioner to sit in front of and stay there until dusk, lol! So, hope you find a way to cool off and not have to take so many showers!
32 C is about 90 F, which is warm but not terrible for me. We don’t have much humidity, though, and I am guessing it’s quite humid there. Humidity makes it feel very much hotter than the same temperature in a dry climate; so much so that I will find myself an air conditioner to sit in front of and stay there until dusk, lol! So, hope you find a way to cool off and not have to take so many showers!
I hope you don’t mind me saying this, but it sounds like emotional abuse to me. When a man pulls a victim act with his partner, he is putting the other in the wrong, and layering guilt on top.
I don’t think he is self aware, so might not be doing it on purpose. It’s still unhealthy behavior that hurts both of you. You didn’t deserve that and I am sad that it continues to affect you. I can relate, not with a relationship, but same damage.
I don’t think he is self aware, so might not be doing it on purpose. It’s still unhealthy behavior that hurts both of you. You didn’t deserve that and I am sad that it continues to affect you. I can relate, not with a relationship, but same damage.
You do not in any way come across as a bad person. Or combative or argumentative, There is nothing wrong with being assertive. Sounds like he is taking advantage of the situation you are in now, hold your ground, without entering into a power struggle.. It sounds likes he knows you are willing to talk. Remember you need to be both equals to one another. You are in my experience a good person.
I have broken out in very itchy stress hives, so that's new and really affecting me mentally. Tomorrow I have to go back to my old house and grab some things quickly and I am dreading it, I know it will trigger me deeply and I'm scared for the few hours I'll have to be alone afterwards until I can speak to my therapist. I'm considering if I need to be inpatient. I hate myself so much.
However it comes about, we want you to be safe, and comfortable as possible so you can heal @maybeicanheal .
Thank you for, so to speak, saying it out loud. @LumberJack I hope you heal from all damage. I hope I do as well.
Well, I can relate. My brain is frequently changing directions rapidly, like my mind is a streaming service and someone else is changing the channel every few seconds.
I could share what helps me mitigate this if you are interested. Keep in mind that the key word is mitigate as opposed to a solution. I don’t think it ever really stops except for rare moments that happen unexpectedly. I’m sort of guessing you likely have a similar flavor of neurodivergence as I do. The way you described it is recognizable to me.
I could share what helps me mitigate this if you are interested. Keep in mind that the key word is mitigate as opposed to a solution. I don’t think it ever really stops except for rare moments that happen unexpectedly. I’m sort of guessing you likely have a similar flavor of neurodivergence as I do. The way you described it is recognizable to me.
Everyone who ends up at the inpatient level of care will have a unique experience, but the vast majority of inpatient encounters are more like jail than hospital. Mine was literally re-traumatizing, and I am still suffering now, 15 months later.
If you are considering inpatient care, please, please, please do your homework ahead of time, as in reading reviews from past patients, and don’t believe a thing they say prior to intake. Their priority is profit and they will do nothing for the patients that reduce their margins. Not all are this bad, but I was amazed after the fact to find out that the vast majority of facilities are miserable for patients.
If you are considering inpatient care, please, please, please do your homework ahead of time, as in reading reviews from past patients, and don’t believe a thing they say prior to intake. Their priority is profit and they will do nothing for the patients that reduce their margins. Not all are this bad, but I was amazed after the fact to find out that the vast majority of facilities are miserable for patients.
And it can turn into an endless replaying of possible variants that will never happen. It's sad.
My brain finds variations where I need to completely abandon morality. Simply because other people have acted to me as if they had abandoned morality. But I can't do that. Even if it's necessary for my survival.
I was tired one day, too. And then I became fierce. And nobody liked it. And then they made me guilty. Now I'm dealing with my anger and guilt
Sometimes stopping to think is all I want to do. I understand and sympathize with you
I hope it works out for all of us. For now, I'm stuck on exactly what the end result should be. I don't really like what my brain is telling me.
It's familiar, and it's sad. I sympathize with you.
My brain finds variations where I need to completely abandon morality. Simply because other people have acted to me as if they had abandoned morality. But I can't do that. Even if it's necessary for my survival.
I was tired one day, too. And then I became fierce. And nobody liked it. And then they made me guilty. Now I'm dealing with my anger and guilt
Sometimes stopping to think is all I want to do. I understand and sympathize with you
I hope it works out for all of us. For now, I'm stuck on exactly what the end result should be. I don't really like what my brain is telling me.
It's familiar, and it's sad. I sympathize with you.
was tired one day, too. And then I became fierce. And nobody liked it. And then they made me guilty. Now I'm dealing with my anger and guilt
From what I've gathered about the book @Inastorm mentioned, a philosophical solution is to realise we can detach from and get above our guilt, thereby freeing up a lot of physical and emotional energy. I may add a contemplative exploration on this to my mindfulness and mediation, and see what happens. : )
sore and achy. There's only so much pain i can stand. Maybe I can talke a couple more over the counter pain meds. Also i've let go of my upset at the upstairs neighbor. I just wish they'd sleep at night so I can. I have an appt tomorrow and I wanted to feel good enough. I have a couple pain pills I have to save for the ride there and back.
