If you had everything you wanted, would you be happy?
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I answered this before, when the thread was first started. I have to amend my answer. When I think of happiness, I think of perfection. Those 2 are NOT the same thing. They don't go hand in hand. Everything I said before still holds true. The source of my mental pain is still what it was. Since then it has gotten better though. I've learned to laugh. I've learned to trust (and holy shit is that a big one). Happiness might be achievable, I have to be willing to keep pushing forward to get there.
Drop me off at a petting zoo and I'll be good. I'd be happy just playing with a goat's ears all day... But seriously I think happiness is lack of desire. And I just 'desire' the bad to go away. Many try finding 'happiness' by adding, and I just don't think that way. That makes you worry more about your 'stuff'(and that includes spouse, kids, significant other, etc.) Oh man, but those ears...
I want a lot of things in the way you look at something and say i'd like one. but I already have what I want so if I get something else that's nice but I don't crave it. if I had everything I wanted I wouldn't appreciate what I have and feel a lot worse. if I could have my dream antique car handed to me it wouldn't mean as much as my 64 dodge that I struggle to rebuild. just my opinion. mike
Yes, agreed 100%. And those "ups and downs" mean that in any and every situation, it has its good points and bad points. If you are a millionaire, you have either health problems or relationship problems. If you are good-looking, then you have money problems. So both positives and negatives are found in every situation.
It really doesn’t seem like a person’s external situation has all that much to do with their internal emotional life. I mean, look at Chris Cornell. He was exactly who I wanted to be when I was young: brilliant, rich, famous, good looking, both admired and generally well-liked (which don’t always go together). He had literally everything going for him. And yet he’s dead by his own hand and I’m somehow still here clinging on to life, despite my objectively fucking terrible circumstances.
I've known people with money and nice things. Only they were never happy. In fact, alot of them with money were never truly happy inside. They were bored, took solace in doing drugs. They would leave their suburban mansions and drive thru drug infested slums for drugs. So, I say no. Money and possessions wouldn't make me happy. Friends would.
I think you made a good point, I've pondered Cornell's situation before. I don't really know his life, but his musical style after the 'garden days changed drastically. He and others in music appeared to have it all, but I think he stopped being true to himself and it weighed heavy on him. Plus fame weighs you down when you start to lose what you once had, and people judge you negatively for it. It's tough period, but it's amplified(no pun intended) when you're in the spotlight.