Loneliness is literally killing me...
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I don't think that's true. I think you could improve your chances of finding a partner if you try some different approaches. It's definitely not the case that you have zero chance of finding a partner.
You've got a lot going for you. You're still relatively young, you've got a job, and apparently girls think you're cute. That's a lot. If you can improve your approach to finding a partner you might get better results.
I wonder if you would like to post a thread like "How do I find a girlfriend?" on the practical advice forum.
You've got a lot going for you. You're still relatively young, you've got a job, and apparently girls think you're cute. That's a lot. If you can improve your approach to finding a partner you might get better results.
I wonder if you would like to post a thread like "How do I find a girlfriend?" on the practical advice forum.
I dont know why you keep saying to change the approach. What other approaches are there? Also, Im not a normal guy looking for what its considered normal, so trying normal approaches wont work. And that stuff about "look for someone with your same interests". First, I dont have interests, and also men and women have different interests, most ppl dont meet each other this way.
Also I dont have a lot going on. In fact, Im extra depressed cause Im looking for apartments finally leave my shitty one and everything is extremely expensive. I can only get a 200k 30 year mortgage... And any decent apartment starts at 250-300k. Below 200k there arent almost any, or are complete shit... I just want to cry. I dont see a future for me. I hate where I live and I cant take it.
Also I dont have a lot going on. In fact, Im extra depressed cause Im looking for apartments finally leave my shitty one and everything is extremely expensive. I can only get a 200k 30 year mortgage... And any decent apartment starts at 250-300k. Below 200k there arent almost any, or are complete shit... I just want to cry. I dont see a future for me. I hate where I live and I cant take it.
You might want to post in the practical advice forum and see if members, especially women, have some insight into how you could do things differently.
You may need to do things differently than other people do, but that doesn't mean that you can't modify your approach.
Firstly, I'd say women usually need some time to warm up to a man they've met online before being ready to meet in person. So arranging to meet after only a day or two is probably not going to go well.
I think the way you're communicating is also setting you up for failure. I think what you've said is that you'll typically list every mental health diagnosis that you've got, and then also add that no woman would every want you, and that you've never been with a woman before. I understand that you feel the need to be honest, but it's tough to convince anyone to give you a chance if you only encourage negative expectations.
You may need to do things differently than other people do, but that doesn't mean that you can't modify your approach.
Firstly, I'd say women usually need some time to warm up to a man they've met online before being ready to meet in person. So arranging to meet after only a day or two is probably not going to go well.
I think the way you're communicating is also setting you up for failure. I think what you've said is that you'll typically list every mental health diagnosis that you've got, and then also add that no woman would every want you, and that you've never been with a woman before. I understand that you feel the need to be honest, but it's tough to convince anyone to give you a chance if you only encourage negative expectations.
im so lonely... i have been crying for a while... yesterday i talked with several girls and they all rejected me... and i was at the same time overwhelmed by so much social interaction and feeling extremely lonely...
nobody wants me...
i have a lot of love to give and i need a lot of love... but nobody wants me...
there is no point in keep living...
i also read how other ppl love each other, how much... and it drivers further inside and twists the knife of pain...
nobody wants me...
nobody wants me...
i have a lot of love to give and i need a lot of love... but nobody wants me...
there is no point in keep living...
i also read how other ppl love each other, how much... and it drivers further inside and twists the knife of pain...
nobody wants me...
Im so tired... I made several posts in reddit and Im so tired of the incomprehension... So tired of being said the same shit over and over again. I dont have normal needs, I cant fucking play the dating game, I need to feel loved for what I am, not for some fucking thing that its not me. i cant pretend and i dont want to
And I cant change either. And therapists dont work on me.
Im so tired of everything...
All I have is fucking reddit... And even if i find someone, shes always far away and busy studying or with a life wherever she lives, so its not possible... And what can I offer? Not money, not a good apartment... Just myself... And nobody wants me...
And I cant change either. And therapists dont work on me.
Im so tired of everything...
All I have is fucking reddit... And even if i find someone, shes always far away and busy studying or with a life wherever she lives, so its not possible... And what can I offer? Not money, not a good apartment... Just myself... And nobody wants me...
ghosting is very very fucked up. i feel you my brother.
you've said also about dating advices which hide you. We're shouldnt be ashamed to be broken. Refusing to show our is scar is the real shame. We, our bodies, our histories.... We are the things we've made into and showing a real scar is fucking difficult and freakin terrifying. I do think you're in the right path. Try to lower your expectations about stuff you can't control, maybe it will help (it helped me with gals)
you've said also about dating advices which hide you. We're shouldnt be ashamed to be broken. Refusing to show our is scar is the real shame. We, our bodies, our histories.... We are the things we've made into and showing a real scar is fucking difficult and freakin terrifying. I do think you're in the right path. Try to lower your expectations about stuff you can't control, maybe it will help (it helped me with gals)
I have something to say about this from personal experience: we never know how fucked up some couples are. Its better to stay in a path which you KNOW its for you then idealize other people relationships.
I know it hurts because Im suffering in a similar way since my SO left me. In the end it should be easy, we shouldnt be trying to much, should be natural for both involved.
worm regards
I know it hurts because Im suffering in a similar way since my SO left me. In the end it should be easy, we shouldnt be trying to much, should be natural for both involved.
worm regards
I just read a post from a girl that said he told his bf that she wanted to kill herself and her bf just left her on read and told her he was going to eat... This is not the first time I have read something similar, where the partner just doesnt give a shit...
YET they still love those awful partners and dont want to leave them...
But nobody wants me...
YET they still love those awful partners and dont want to leave them...
But nobody wants me...