Long-distance relationships.

[Evael]

Hello. I haven't visited this website in a while, but I have recently come across something and want some advice.

Recently, I met a girl online, who has since become romantically attracted to me. We are relatively close - in terms of how well we've come to know eachother, at least. Physically, we are far apart, I am from the UK and she is from elsewhere. A separate country; separate continent, even.

Of course, this means we will be unable to see each other most of the time. She claims she would be able to come over for two weeks every two months. However, outside of these visits, we would be vastly separated.

I have never been in a relationship before, or have any experience with this kind of thing at all. I have heavy doubts it could work either way if it came down to that. However, in the rare event we were to become this close, how likely would the long distance between us negatively affect our theoretical relationship?

I'm 19 and she's 18, in case this information will be of any use.

 

[Gonz]

I can’t say how things are likely to go for you, as this is highly dependent on the individuals involved. But I’ll just say that a long distance relationship requires an even greater level of trust and commitment than usual. After the newness of the relationship wears off, it can be hard to make the other a priority if they are not physically present.

It can work, there are some people who make it work. I guess you just have to ask yourself if you think that you, and she, will be able to put in the extra effort it’ll require.

 

[Daphna]

I can’t say how things are likely to go for you, as this is highly dependent on the individuals involved. But I’ll just say that a long distance relationship requires an even greater level of trust and commitment than usual. After the newness of the relationship wears off, it can be hard to make the other a priority if they are not physically present.

It can work, there are some people who make it work. I guess you just have to ask yourself if you think that you, and she, will be able to put in the extra effort it’ll require.

Agreed. I actually have a friend and this works for him and his girlfriend. It does take more effort but they make it work.

 

[Kraken]

Personally, people online are very different from the people they are in person. It is sometimes difficult to really know the person unless you meet. Do you feel the relationship is complete without being close, or something is missing or not quite right?

 

[johnDoen]

Hello. I haven't visited this website in a while, but I have recently come across something and want some advice.

Recently, I met a girl online, who has since become romantically attracted to me. We are relatively close - in terms of how well we've come to know eachother, at least. Physically, we are far apart, I am from the UK and she is from elsewhere. A separate country; separate continent, even.

Of course, this means we will be unable to see each other most of the time. She claims she would be able to come over for two weeks every two months. However, outside of these visits, we would be vastly separated.

I have never been in a relationship before, or have any experience with this kind of thing at all. I have heavy doubts it could work either way if it came down to that. However, in the rare event we were to become this close, how likely would the long distance between us negatively affect our theoretical relationship?

I'm 19 and she's 18, in case this information will be of any use.

I've never been in any relationship to begin with, so I don't think I have anything practical to advise.

Well, sometimes I've read about some happy long-distance relationships on the news. Overall, it's about frequent online meetings to understand each others more and eventually some dates in real life, probably not really possible with an ongoing pandemic and not everyone is vaccinated.

That information is useful for legal reasons.

 

[IzzyBella]

I've been in a long distance relationship with someone from Australia (I'm from the United States) for over a year now, due to COVID we've actually never met face to face but he's more important to me than anyone else. I say go for it, the fact that you wouldn't be able to see her as often makes those moments all the more precious.