List some of your's if like or feel free to comment on mine.
Impulsiveness(anger and behavioral control) was more on an issue when when I was younger. I even had lack of empathy for others, I had much to learn and I changed as a person as I had different experiences.
Honesty; I'm a very honest person by nature you would think this is a good trait but in many cases it's not.
altruistic; the opposite of psychopathic; too honest, too fair, too empathetic.
Naivety; I had quite limited social experience in large part due to my health problems and some mistakes I had make. Due to others mistreating me I became easier to manipulate and control. Naive people finds it too hard to accept the idea that some people are cunning, devious and ruthless or is "in denial" if he or she is being victimized. I had been overly naive and in denial about how I was being victimized. Like with sociopaths and psychopaths you often don't know what's up until it's too late and the damage has been done.
low self-confidence; self-doubting, lacking in confidence and assertiveness, likely to go on the defensive too easily. This fits in too me I wasn't assertive enough which means I was able to be manipulated and controlled easier.
Dependent; I was emotionally dependent on someone when I was only being vitimized. Due to the isolation due to my health issues I had a lack of experience. Except for one GF who I totally regretted my actions when I was 17 I hadn't had a legitimate relationship. I didn't want to make any of the same mistakes as I was burdened with guilt, and regret.
Addictive personality; I got into drugs and alcohol basically when I turned 13. Combined with the fact the decision making part of your brain isn't fully developed until you reach 25 you don't know what you're doing to yourself. I never really drank much at all but when I drank I'd often consume a lot. It's been close to 2 years since I've drank.
Health issues; I've had much more then my share which people can't relate to since they only know what it's like being in their own body. Mostly physical health issues but some anxiety as well. Someone may look on the outside and say I'm lazy or whatever but since they can't relate to my health problems it's a totally unfair statement.
Being too immature; Having impaired judgment. This ties in with not going with gut instinct, this allowed me to be victimized much easier combined with my other traits or faults. Dangerous women and men for that matter, work off the fact that you think "maybe I'm wrong" and that just allows them to take advantage of you.
Being too lonely; again this makes it more easy to be take advantage of because you're craving human contact you're willing to accept contact from a psychopath or a sociopath.
Getting involved with the wrong crowd in junior high. Is an issue of mine not necessarily a fault per say but I thought I'd add that in.
Then their also social factors. Like people harming me and me harming others when I was a minor. People attribute my actions to stable character traits. When in reality if you're a minor you have a lot of growing up to do, their is also the context of the situation.
People being vindictive and going after "street justice" or revenge. Basically me being the social scapegoat because in their opinion I was the cause of "trouble". This meant people had no qualms about victimizing be because they felt i had deserved it.
Social influence comes into play on this if you like or really like someone and they have a beef with me then you will have no qualms about being cruel.
Anyways maybe you can use your imagination why some of these traits,faults and circumstances would interact with each other and cause someone issues.
Impulsiveness(anger and behavioral control) was more on an issue when when I was younger. I even had lack of empathy for others, I had much to learn and I changed as a person as I had different experiences.
Honesty; I'm a very honest person by nature you would think this is a good trait but in many cases it's not.
altruistic; the opposite of psychopathic; too honest, too fair, too empathetic.
Naivety; I had quite limited social experience in large part due to my health problems and some mistakes I had make. Due to others mistreating me I became easier to manipulate and control. Naive people finds it too hard to accept the idea that some people are cunning, devious and ruthless or is "in denial" if he or she is being victimized. I had been overly naive and in denial about how I was being victimized. Like with sociopaths and psychopaths you often don't know what's up until it's too late and the damage has been done.
low self-confidence; self-doubting, lacking in confidence and assertiveness, likely to go on the defensive too easily. This fits in too me I wasn't assertive enough which means I was able to be manipulated and controlled easier.
Dependent; I was emotionally dependent on someone when I was only being vitimized. Due to the isolation due to my health issues I had a lack of experience. Except for one GF who I totally regretted my actions when I was 17 I hadn't had a legitimate relationship. I didn't want to make any of the same mistakes as I was burdened with guilt, and regret.
Addictive personality; I got into drugs and alcohol basically when I turned 13. Combined with the fact the decision making part of your brain isn't fully developed until you reach 25 you don't know what you're doing to yourself. I never really drank much at all but when I drank I'd often consume a lot. It's been close to 2 years since I've drank.
Health issues; I've had much more then my share which people can't relate to since they only know what it's like being in their own body. Mostly physical health issues but some anxiety as well. Someone may look on the outside and say I'm lazy or whatever but since they can't relate to my health problems it's a totally unfair statement.
Being too immature; Having impaired judgment. This ties in with not going with gut instinct, this allowed me to be victimized much easier combined with my other traits or faults. Dangerous women and men for that matter, work off the fact that you think "maybe I'm wrong" and that just allows them to take advantage of you.
Being too lonely; again this makes it more easy to be take advantage of because you're craving human contact you're willing to accept contact from a psychopath or a sociopath.
Getting involved with the wrong crowd in junior high. Is an issue of mine not necessarily a fault per say but I thought I'd add that in.
Then their also social factors. Like people harming me and me harming others when I was a minor. People attribute my actions to stable character traits. When in reality if you're a minor you have a lot of growing up to do, their is also the context of the situation.
People being vindictive and going after "street justice" or revenge. Basically me being the social scapegoat because in their opinion I was the cause of "trouble". This meant people had no qualms about victimizing be because they felt i had deserved it.
Social influence comes into play on this if you like or really like someone and they have a beef with me then you will have no qualms about being cruel.
Anyways maybe you can use your imagination why some of these traits,faults and circumstances would interact with each other and cause someone issues.
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