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My mom taken away
- Thread starter Mandy1
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hi im back,im coping just about.at times its very hard,i miss mom so much,which is understandable.it is only normal but im making every effort i can too keep going,i still need help though and im getting it from my family and friends and the people i trust most,and in a way thats every one that i meet,please try to do as i do and keep trying ask for help from every resource that you can. please dont give in or give uo x
Thanx Kirsty Ann,to be honest Im not sure right now.I have a inner strength I was born with yet Im struggling really bad,I just cant visage christmas day without her.Midnight on christmas eve stroke christmas day we would be like a pair of kids and open a few presents not able too stave off the excitment,oh god I miss her so much,and me being me,who knows what I will do next,probably hit the bottle and let all this crap wash over me.Oh and nevermind seems too be a catchphrase I have adopted !!! Nevermind......
You should try and surround yourself with people that understand too . . .
if christmas was a big deal then i'm sure your mother would want you to continue for that to be the case irregardless of whether she is there or not . . . she deserved the christmas that she has given you so many times.
It would be so difficult but the first time for events such as christmas are gonna be the hardest, you can pull through :hug:
if christmas was a big deal then i'm sure your mother would want you to continue for that to be the case irregardless of whether she is there or not . . . she deserved the christmas that she has given you so many times.
It would be so difficult but the first time for events such as christmas are gonna be the hardest, you can pull through :hug:
hello amanda i know what your going through here i lost my mum 5 yrears ago 2 days after my bday and 5 days before christmas,it hasnt got any easier for me because she was the reason everyone put things aside and got on together,this year nopne of us are getting together but i have a new family now!people who are wonderful and caring we call them SF and there going to get me through xmas,so please dont hit the bottle,hit the keyboard.i will be here xmas day hoping others will pop in and say hi or help me through so i can help them through,please feel free with no obligation to come here by anymeans
sf, skype, msn, or even phone just to talk about things we all need reassurance someones around
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sf, skype, msn, or even phone just to talk about things we all need reassurance someones around
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I too am sorry you are suffering so greatly YOur mom sounds like a fun person to have been around. She would not want you sad not on Christmas or anyday
I too hope you have grief councilling in place or therapist who you can make an appt with before Christmas comes just to get you in a strong state.
Have a plan okay have it ready and follow it. Go stay with other family members do not be alone. Have crisis number in hand just in case you need to call for support they have help me so much. Come here as well for support okay but don't be alone Your mom will always be there with you she will be in memories and in your heart. Open the present at midnight okay follow that tradition and let the tears fall grieving is important but then remember how happy you were and try to feel that happiness as well.
take care Mandy and please continue to reach out okay for the support yu will need.
I too hope you have grief councilling in place or therapist who you can make an appt with before Christmas comes just to get you in a strong state.
Have a plan okay have it ready and follow it. Go stay with other family members do not be alone. Have crisis number in hand just in case you need to call for support they have help me so much. Come here as well for support okay but don't be alone Your mom will always be there with you she will be in memories and in your heart. Open the present at midnight okay follow that tradition and let the tears fall grieving is important but then remember how happy you were and try to feel that happiness as well.
take care Mandy and please continue to reach out okay for the support yu will need.
Thanx for your help,right now I dont think I can do it.Ive tried,maybe too hard,I dont know anymore.Ive prided myself on telling the truth,being a good honest and decent daughter,Now both my mother and father,the two people who gave me life are gone,My mothers and fathers family seem too hate me and I do not know why,I DID NOT ASK TOO BE BORN.Now they are gone I am alone.I am tempted too make excuses for my half family but theres no excuse for there behaviour,especially towards me.Betty and Albert fell in love thats all,they had me and for some reason they have made me suffer ever since,Ive given up my adult life too be there for the family,that is the ones I grew up with,Ive looked after them all,and all they have done for me is SH*T on me from a great height!!!!!!! Im hurting and they am no where too be found,even though they live within a 5 mile radius.They have hurt there mother and my father and I have no regrets rubbing there nose in it,because at the end of the day THE TRUTH HURTS,them not me.......
No matter how hard I try I just dont think I can face christmas.I know its still early days and this is my first christmas without my mom but its getting harder every day,and too top it all Im moving house next week,moving from the home I shared with my mom,having too pack all my things and theres all moms aswell,Its too much.........
Your right it is very hard to do these things on your own. Do you have a friend that can help you anyone in the community even I hope you booked some help from you therapist just to talk and get coping skills to deal with all this. we are here as well if you need us. See if you can get relative to at least pack up your moms belongings take care
Suppose I am too stubborn these days too ask for help,especially from my family,they have hurt me big time,and as for therapists and whatever I would rather employ a chocolate fire guard too help,I have had some rather nasty experiences with the mental health system where I live,no disrespect too some of the individuals I have met but as a whole the whole system stinks.So Guess,well I know Im on my own,and I might get down about it all yet I think Im better off that way,nevermind,suppose theres no fool like a old fool.....
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