Long story short, my mother is and always has been useless in all areas. I went to her for help in a pinch and she agreed. As soon as I got there though, she started complaining about really inexpensive stuff she couldn't afford, making it obvious she couldn't actually give the help she agreed to give. I'm guessing maybe she expected to get the moral points for saying yes, then hoped I'd respond to her complaints by letting her off the hook? But I don't play games so I just let her know what day we needed the help and never heard back. (I also know the uselessness of assumptions, I just really have no clear idea what to think.)
It's been two months. I don't want her in my life, we've already been through many versions of trying to make it work. But it seems like a healthy person might actually have an honest discussion? I don't know if I should just let it rest or attempt "healthy" closure? I really have no idea what healthy relationships even look like, I just feel like we're letting it lie in passive aggressive territory.
What would you do??
It's been two months. I don't want her in my life, we've already been through many versions of trying to make it work. But it seems like a healthy person might actually have an honest discussion? I don't know if I should just let it rest or attempt "healthy" closure? I really have no idea what healthy relationships even look like, I just feel like we're letting it lie in passive aggressive territory.
What would you do??