my thoughts on relationships

[Atreides]

I thought it would be good to get out my thoughts and feelings about relationships.

I fucking hate the experience of being in a relationship. I hate everything about it. It fucking sucks so much. There is literally nothing good about it at all. What it ends up being every single time is me working really hard to be who this other person wants me to be, I have no room to be myself, and I am completely miserable. I just do not want that in my life anymore. I have decided that I am not going through that experience ever again. I understand that there is a possibility that I could one day meet someone that respects me as a person. That could actually happen. But is that worth going through all the women I would have to go through to get to that person? No it is not. Deciding to never be in a relationship is probably the best decision I've ever made in my life. It makes me so much happier.

Anyways those are my thoughts. And it was very therapeutic to get that out. Feel free to respond with your thoughts.

 

[charlietgirl]

Be free and happy. Or unfree and happy. Whatever works for you. Just be happy, said the man.

 

[Atreides]

Be free and happy. Or unfree and happy. Whatever works for you. Just be happy, said the man.

I'm coming to understand that life is short and the best thing to do is enjoy it as much as i can while it lasts. And it's also best to completely avoid things that will prevent that from happening.

 

[Gard]

I thought it would be good to get out my thoughts and feelings about relationships.

I fucking hate the experience of being in a relationship. I hate everything about it. It fucking sucks so much. There is literally nothing good about it at all. What it ends up being every single time is me working really hard to be who this other person wants me to be, I have no room to be myself, and I am completely miserable. I just do not want that in my life anymore. I have decided that I am not going through that experience ever again. I understand that there is a possibility that I could one day meet someone that respects me as a person. That could actually happen. But is that worth going through all the women I would have to go through to get to that person? No it is not. Deciding to never be in a relationship is probably the best decision I've ever made in my life. It makes me so much happier.

Anyways those are my thoughts. And it was very therapeutic to get that out. Feel free to respond with your thoughts.

There's nothing stopping you from simply talking to women without getting into a relationship with them. I've stopped looking for relationships. If it happens one day, it will be an experience; if not, it will also be an experience.

 

[Atreides]

There's nothing stopping you from simply talking to women without getting into a relationship with them. I've stopped looking for relationships. If it happens one day, it will be an experience; if not, it will also be an experience.

Oh yeah talking to women is cool. I don't mean to shut women out my life. Just the relationship part.

 

[1Lefty]

I think being single, or not in a relationship is a valid choice that works for a lot of people
I followed that for something like 12 years.
I'm happily in a relationship now, but we began as friends, not seeking romance, but one developed.
Good luck

peace

 

[Dexter0126]

Relationships are so hard because finding someone who can deal with my mental illnesses seems to be impossible. Hell my last relationship was with a therapist (not my therapist) and even she couldn’t handle it. I’ve ruined every relationship I’ve ever been in. I miss having someone in my life but they always end the same and the pain isn’t worth it.

 

[Gard]

Relationships are so hard because finding someone who can deal with my mental illnesses seems to be impossible. Hell my last relationship was with a therapist (not my therapist) and even she couldn’t handle it. I’ve ruined every relationship I’ve ever been in. I miss having someone in my life but they always end the same and the pain isn’t worth it.

Try not to tell anyone about your mental problems. If you seem normal to them, it's your relationship

 

[Gonz]

I thought it would be good to get out my thoughts and feelings about relationships.

I fucking hate the experience of being in a relationship. I hate everything about it. It fucking sucks so much. There is literally nothing good about it at all. What it ends up being every single time is me working really hard to be who this other person wants me to be, I have no room to be myself, and I am completely miserable. I just do not want that in my life anymore. I have decided that I am not going through that experience ever again. I understand that there is a possibility that I could one day meet someone that respects me as a person. That could actually happen. But is that worth going through all the women I would have to go through to get to that person? No it is not. Deciding to never be in a relationship is probably the best decision I've ever made in my life. It makes me so much happier.

Anyways those are my thoughts. And it was very therapeutic to get that out. Feel free to respond with your thoughts.

I agree wholeheartedly. The search, the attempts just aren’t worth it. I was beyond lucky with Jessica, and the way we ended up together (a very long-term friendship first, so we knew in advance whether we’d be a good match) is the only way of getting with someone I’d consider, now that I know how much better it is.

Maybe be open to it if it happens that way?

I liked being part of a couple. A lot. But it’s just not worth being someone I’m not.