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no reason to live

Discussion in 'Help Me! I Need to Talk to Someone.' started by JDot, Apr 26, 2017.

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  1. JDot

    JDot Well-Known Member

    I don't have any goals in my life. I'm not passionate about anything. My therapist says I'm stuck in my isolated bubble. For the past ten years I've been telling myself "I'll be dead soon so nothing matters". I'm stuck in this mindset and don't see myself getting out. I just see things getting worse as I get older. I just don't see that I really have a reason to be here.
  2. PaladinofKnights

    PaladinofKnights SF Supporter

    Yo it might suck a bit but if ur at that point man ya jus gotta force yourself into things, get out there, try more stuff. Even if ya don't want to. I promise you that alone will help.
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  3. may71

    may71 Well-Known Member

    Sorry to hear that you are going through this JDot

    It's possible to go from where you are now to feeling like you do have a reason to be here, because other people have done that before.

    What's the best kind of help I can give to you right now?
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  4. Innocent Forever

    Innocent Forever Go as long as you can. And then take another step. Chat Pro SF Supporter

    Sending hugs and strength your way....
    What would be a reason for you to be here? Like, giving to others? Proving it's possible? I don't know. Those are the only two I can think of. What would be a reason for YOU.
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  5. JDot

    JDot Well-Known Member

    Making a difference in other peoples lives would be a reason
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  6. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    You sure make a difference to my life, thank you for being there for me in my time of need. You are a very special person to me, I would be devastated if you were no longer around. Your little niece and your sister need you too. You have a million and one reasons to keep living. So stay alive and share all of that education and life experience you have :)
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  7. brknsilence

    brknsilence "Keep Moving Forward"-Meet The Robinsons movie

    We need you here. So sorry you're struggling. We're here for you.

    Can this reason be a motivation for you to keep going?
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  8. DrownedFishOnFire

    DrownedFishOnFire Seeing is Believing Forum Pro SF Supporter

    Just knowing you for a bit here, I like you around the forums. Cant imagine your presence in the outside world being different than in here being well liked by many. Give yourself a chance, take baby steps if needed! Many Goals are only temporary and everchanging so no need to fault yourself for not having one yet.

    Big Hugs sent your way.
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  9. gell

    gell New Member

    You're making a great difference for those around you already. With everyday you're here you do make this world a better place. No good thing you do is wasted, it all contributes to a world that is without a doubt better than the version without you. So hold on, and let all the people here who love you and appreciate you support you too.
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  10. JDot

    JDot Well-Known Member

    thank you everyone for the replies. sometimes it's hard to believe in yourself. but it's easier to believe in someone else. and sometimes that's just what you need is someone to believe in you. thank you.
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  11. brknsilence

    brknsilence "Keep Moving Forward"-Meet The Robinsons movie

    We believe in you :) you can do this :) we are here every step of the way :) never alone
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  12. Innocent Forever

    Innocent Forever Go as long as you can. And then take another step. Chat Pro SF Supporter

    We all believe in you. Sending strength and hope your way.
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  13. Miss Invisible

    Miss Invisible Well-Known Member

  14. Miss Invisible

    Miss Invisible Well-Known Member

    Hi JDot,
    Just meeting you now. But I don't have alot friends and sometimes finding what you're passionate about doesn’t take thought or alot of theraputic scruity in that area. Let your body and mind relax, it will come to you. Life is not a race and you ARE worthy of life. Feel free to contact me if you wish. I have faith in you.
  15. memyselfand1

    memyselfand1 Well-Known Member

    Perhaps give yourself small goals in your phone every day to work towards

    Get up from bed at 8am - set alarm clock
    make breakfast - you can log what you eat on your mobile
    Get washed and dressed
    fed fido etc
    do laundry and other housework
    buy shopping
    switch on radio
    go for a walk in the morning

    if you work, then schedule your work in calendar
    write notes before meetings
    check my emails - personal and work

    if you don't work
    register yourself on cv library
    create cv,
    send cv to potential employers

    Television/leisure actvities/resting leave to 6pm
    Rward yourself for everything positive you do, so your brain learns its okay to be positive, i get a good incentive. My fave drama is on netflix., I feel good i had a good day. it's about being productive with yourself
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  16. annotaine

    annotaine Well-Known Member

    What helped me was thinking of what I thought the best type of person to become was. Then I started studying everything I could about how to develop those qualities. This helped a lot because it gave me many road mark goals to apply myself toward. When I started meeting them, it gave me joy in accomplishment. Also, the process of thinking about the qualities a best person has, along with the process of applying effort to develop those qualities revealed a lot of the best activities I have ever done. You are wonderful. You hang in there like a champ and you are more than welcome to message me directly. Take the best care of yourself!
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  17. Coeur Brise

    Coeur Brise Well-Known Member

    I am also struggling with thoughts of ending my life. I am backed into a corner at work and home. I can empathize with your feelings of things getting worse, but people obviously love and care about you. Like you, I need to find a way to climb out of the rabbit hole. Many people have suggested volunteering, a hobby, and accomplishing small goals. Helping people seems to be the key. Getting out of your own head. Doing things like that are incredibly difficult when you are feeling this way. I know so well. I don't want to tell my story here, I just wanted you o know that someone else feels this way too. You are not alone. keep fighting and try some of the excellent suggestions some very wise and caring people have posted here for you. If you would like to message me directly, please feel free!
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