Hi all! It’s been a while since I fell off the face of this beautiful forum. I’m so glad I found my way back.
I have come a very long way since the last time I was here. However, there has been an unwanted toxic anchor in my life for the last year and a half. I don’t even know where to start when it comes to this topic.
I am a team lead, and have an associate that causes a hostile work environment, as well as harasses me on a daily basis. I am this person’s manager, and he has deliberately told me that I won’t tell him what to do; it is my job to do so.
Literally every time I try to be his team lead, he pushes back. Then he will go to the office and spend hours telling on me. He has demanded that I be fired for close to a year, but my management constantly tells them there is nothing to fire me for.
He is deliberately making my job harder. He also insists that he is the team lead. It is well known across the store that this jerk is a sexist, racist, ageist, and an overall hostile individual. Many people have told my store manager that he could be active shooter, on multiple occasions. Nothing has ever come of this either.
He stares at me all the time, and leering is against company policy. I have raised many complaints, one of which reached global corporate . There was an investigation with multiple witness testimonies to corroborate my claims, however, nothing resulted.
Due to this lack of success, this individual has become more empowered to harass me. I have witnesses that confirm this intentional infliction of conflict.
My mental health has drastically suffered since October of last year. I have missed so much work due to the emotional distress, and I do not feel safe at all when he is around. I visibly shake in my right hand to the point that people notice and inquire. Multiple people have witnessed this, as well as my drastically affected work performance.
Monday was the day I lost it mentally. His abhorrent behavior has been exacerbated to new lows that I cannot cope with. I broke mentally as he rubbed it in my face that his job wasn’t in jeopardy at this point, and that I wasn’t going to tell him how to do his job.
I do not remember the last time I was that mad. I was sent to my car to “cool off.” I raged like hell after an anxiety meltdown and full blown panic attack. The shaking wouldn’t stop for two days, and my chest was tight, along with exhaustion, mental fatigue, no appetite and constant panic. I have been distressed over this situation for a year, but this was the first time that I dissociated.
Due to this, I visited the ER yesterday, whom gave me Ativan for sedation. This calmed my nerves, but I was in the same state upon awakening. They gave me a Klonopin prescription, which helps, but only for as long as it can.
My nerves feel shot. My psychiatrist and therapist both believe that I need hospitalization. I do not disagree, but a wrench has been thrown into the equation.
There is a meeting on Friday regarding this situation, and I don’t know what will happen. I do not believe that my job is on the line, but I so badly need for him to be terminated, or removed from my department immediately. I cannot heal from this year of harassment as long as he remains.
I do believe that I need to visit a hospital for stabilization, but I feel very strongly that I cannot go until after Friday. Only for myself. I see it pointless to postpone this meeting where I can speak for myself. Why would I want to get treatment, only to have to deal with the situation again, immediately upon my return. I feel strongly that it would negatively affect my healing since the situation would be waiting for me upon return.
My nerves are shot. I feel hopeless and defeated. I plan to go very well prepared to this meeting to prove that he is the true problem.
He has repeatedly lied to my management team about me, and they are aware of his lies by now. Any time I act as his team lead, the rebels in some way.
I am not leaving this position that I worked so hard for, and seriously need right now. This job is covering my therapist and psychiatrist, whom I both adore. I do not want to leave my job. Everything else is great. The rest of my team and myself work well together, and the atmosphere is drastically better on his two days off.
He causes a hostile work environment for my entire team. Everyone around the store avoids him, due to his aggressive and hateful nature. Many people came forward before, after and during the investigation to management about him potentiality of being an active shooter. After many repeated attempts, nothing occurred. This is a slap in the face since we are consistently forced with training about active shooters.
My nerves feel shot, but I must go to this meeting prepared.
The stress and mental anguish has caused an immense amount of pain and wasted time.
If anyone has any advice to offer, it would be much appreciated. I am beyond exhausted from this, and it is so hard to find the energy I need to defend my side through all of this.
Thank you for reading.
I have come a very long way since the last time I was here. However, there has been an unwanted toxic anchor in my life for the last year and a half. I don’t even know where to start when it comes to this topic.
I am a team lead, and have an associate that causes a hostile work environment, as well as harasses me on a daily basis. I am this person’s manager, and he has deliberately told me that I won’t tell him what to do; it is my job to do so.
Literally every time I try to be his team lead, he pushes back. Then he will go to the office and spend hours telling on me. He has demanded that I be fired for close to a year, but my management constantly tells them there is nothing to fire me for.
He is deliberately making my job harder. He also insists that he is the team lead. It is well known across the store that this jerk is a sexist, racist, ageist, and an overall hostile individual. Many people have told my store manager that he could be active shooter, on multiple occasions. Nothing has ever come of this either.
He stares at me all the time, and leering is against company policy. I have raised many complaints, one of which reached global corporate . There was an investigation with multiple witness testimonies to corroborate my claims, however, nothing resulted.
Due to this lack of success, this individual has become more empowered to harass me. I have witnesses that confirm this intentional infliction of conflict.
My mental health has drastically suffered since October of last year. I have missed so much work due to the emotional distress, and I do not feel safe at all when he is around. I visibly shake in my right hand to the point that people notice and inquire. Multiple people have witnessed this, as well as my drastically affected work performance.
Monday was the day I lost it mentally. His abhorrent behavior has been exacerbated to new lows that I cannot cope with. I broke mentally as he rubbed it in my face that his job wasn’t in jeopardy at this point, and that I wasn’t going to tell him how to do his job.
I do not remember the last time I was that mad. I was sent to my car to “cool off.” I raged like hell after an anxiety meltdown and full blown panic attack. The shaking wouldn’t stop for two days, and my chest was tight, along with exhaustion, mental fatigue, no appetite and constant panic. I have been distressed over this situation for a year, but this was the first time that I dissociated.
Due to this, I visited the ER yesterday, whom gave me Ativan for sedation. This calmed my nerves, but I was in the same state upon awakening. They gave me a Klonopin prescription, which helps, but only for as long as it can.
My nerves feel shot. My psychiatrist and therapist both believe that I need hospitalization. I do not disagree, but a wrench has been thrown into the equation.
There is a meeting on Friday regarding this situation, and I don’t know what will happen. I do not believe that my job is on the line, but I so badly need for him to be terminated, or removed from my department immediately. I cannot heal from this year of harassment as long as he remains.
I do believe that I need to visit a hospital for stabilization, but I feel very strongly that I cannot go until after Friday. Only for myself. I see it pointless to postpone this meeting where I can speak for myself. Why would I want to get treatment, only to have to deal with the situation again, immediately upon my return. I feel strongly that it would negatively affect my healing since the situation would be waiting for me upon return.
My nerves are shot. I feel hopeless and defeated. I plan to go very well prepared to this meeting to prove that he is the true problem.
He has repeatedly lied to my management team about me, and they are aware of his lies by now. Any time I act as his team lead, the rebels in some way.
I am not leaving this position that I worked so hard for, and seriously need right now. This job is covering my therapist and psychiatrist, whom I both adore. I do not want to leave my job. Everything else is great. The rest of my team and myself work well together, and the atmosphere is drastically better on his two days off.
He causes a hostile work environment for my entire team. Everyone around the store avoids him, due to his aggressive and hateful nature. Many people came forward before, after and during the investigation to management about him potentiality of being an active shooter. After many repeated attempts, nothing occurred. This is a slap in the face since we are consistently forced with training about active shooters.
My nerves feel shot, but I must go to this meeting prepared.
The stress and mental anguish has caused an immense amount of pain and wasted time.
If anyone has any advice to offer, it would be much appreciated. I am beyond exhausted from this, and it is so hard to find the energy I need to defend my side through all of this.
Thank you for reading.
Peace~ mrb. post: yes, I do realize you may ghave to take a step side ways or even down, in a transition to another that will not be the same sort of dream job that you have committed so much towards & for. But what other opportunities, or options are available, and have been given to you, given everyone's seemingly lack of interest, or ability & willingness th3n, to ehllp you?? ;/ ok i gott a go i can't type straight . . :/