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One example as to why I say I’m overwhelmed . . .

sn00pywriter

Well-Known Member
#1
Part of this is not a typical day but breaking it down, it's an example of overwhelmness.

Tomorrow I leave for Florida. My BFF invited me down because she thinks I need a break. I have already checked into my flight online. I will take public transport tomorrow morning (flight is in mid-morning and I’ve allotted enough time to get there.)


I have 211 pages to proofread that are due by tomorrow. I’ve done about 50 or so.
We were supposed to have pot roast for dinner tonight. My well-meaning husband made up a monthly meal list and noted that we had two pieces of pork loin in the freezer that we need to use up.
That pot roast will take maybe half an hour to prepare and an hour and a quarter to cook. To have dinner on the table by 5 or 5:30, I'd have to start dinner by at least 3:30.
I see my counselor at 1:00. (I plan to take my computer and hole up either at Starbucks or McDonald’s to finish up my proofing.)
It takes around a half hour to get there and back.
I thought about grocery shopping today but if I have 211 pages to proofread, shopping will cut into the proofreading time.
I have to pack tonight.
And get to sleep at a decent hour because I will have to get up by at least 5:00 a.m. to get to our public transport by about 6:00 a.m. to catch a plane that leaves a little after 10 a.m.
The pot roast is also seven pounds.
It is not fully thawed.
It will not fit into any of my pans to brown before I put it in the crock pot or the oven, and I can't cut it up because it's not fully thawed.
And I also would have to peel the potatoes and slice the carrots to go with the pot roast.
It will not fit into our slow cooker, and I'd also have to brown it and cut it up before I put it into the slow cooker, and it will take 10-12 hours to cook in the slow cooker!
And I also don't know how long it's going to take to proofread the 211 pages.
And I also can't predict from day to day how many pages I'm going to get and how long they will take to proofread.
And I also need to shower, dress, make the bed, and keep up on laundry.
Because I'm at home when our son is, I'm the one he goes to when he has something he wants to show someone. That interrupts my "flow" at times.
My workload often keeps me from keeping on top of laundry, dishes, and other things; when they all pile up, I feel even more overwhelmed. The stuff like the dishes and laundry needs to be done DAILY (laundry sorted, washed, dried, folded, and put away).
I need help with managing all of it.
And my husband, with the meal list, thinks he's helping but I don't think he takes into account how long meals take to plan, prepare, and serve!
I forgot to mention that my son, when I wrote this, was LOUDLY humming and talking along with a favorite show!
 
#2
I'm sorry you've got so much on your plate. I hope things will work out.

Some airlines allow a free or low-fee schedule change. An extra day or two to work things out sounds like it would solve a lot of trouble, especially if your friend can be flexible.

There's no reason why you've got to make the pork now. If it was in the freezer, it could have stayed there for a few more months. Now that it's partially thawed, it will probably have to made soon, but not before you go. How long will you be in Florida?

Is your husband capable of cooking the pork for himself while you're gone?

When you're dealing with overwhelming demands, one obvious strategy is to cut out anything that's either not important or can be put off. The pork is probably the first thing to go.

Putting off the proof reading would be ideal, but I'm assuming that's not an option (i.e., there's no one to cover for you, and it's a hard deadline). What time tomorrow is it due? So for example, if you could proofread in the airport or while you're on the plane, that might help (assuming this is an electronic doc you can send from anywhere).

My workload often keeps me from keeping on top of laundry, dishes, and other things; when they all pile up, I feel even more overwhelmed. The stuff like the dishes and laundry needs to be done DAILY (laundry sorted, washed, dried, folded, and put away).
I don't know how helpful your husband is, but if he so inclined, now would be a good time for him to be helpful.

And get to sleep at a decent hour because I will have to get up by at least 5:00 a.m. to get to our public transport by about 6:00 a.m. to catch a plane that leaves a little after 10 a.m.
If you take a shower tonight rather than in the morning, that would give you some extra time to sleep. If you can get a ride or use a ride sharing service, that would also save you some time. I'm not sure how busy your airport is, but if it's not busy you might be able to get there more like 8:30.

I think sometimes you can print a boarding pass before you get to the airport, which might save you some time. If all you've got is carry on luggage, that might help too. If you know the drill with the max liquids in a clear one quart bag, it's easy to just whip that out before you go through the scanner.
 

sn00pywriter

Well-Known Member
#3
I was able to check in online. I’ve also had a session with my counselor. Now I’m at Starbucks proofing. I texted husband giving options for dinner (the pork is not among them. 🙂)

I have not packed but I have a packing list and it’s a matter of getting everything in. I’m taking a carry on and CPAP.

Proofing is a hard deadline, tomorrow noon … at which time I will be in Florida so work has to be done tonight.

Husband will drop me at the train station on his way to work and I will ride to the airport. He’ll drop me off around six a.m. Plane leaves around 10 a.m or so.

Really, the biggest thing is finishing work, eating, and packing. I may have this under control better than I think.
 

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