post your major complaint here

[seabird]

Some people in my life don't seem to care how bad they make me feel. Even when it's brought up to them, they shrug it off like it doesn't matter. Makes me feel really unimportant.

You
are
important. Your feelings are valid and important too. I think in this case they're a lind of red flag. Warning about the people in question.

They have problems.

2 different things.

 

[Witty⭐️Sarcasm🐒]

It's amazing that some people are so far gone that they have less emotional maturity than a toddler. They rant on and on and yell, even when no one is saying anything at all. They threaten to "tell" on you (to who I wonder) when you don't give into their demands, or tell you they will have you kicked out and blame it on you. Whenever I set boundaries and enforce them, that seems to be a trigger and they really get angry. So i have to be the bad guy in their narrative, even when I'm just trying to protect myself.

 

[seabird]

They threaten to "tell" on you (to who I wonder) when you don't give into their demands,

Sounds exactly like what certain people in my family said to me. They set themselves up on a pedestal & are my judge jury & sentence me to ... what I already was anyway.

 

[Inanimate]

Whenever I set boundaries and enforce them, that seems to be a trigger and they really get angry.

That tells you everything, C. They just don’t care to make room for your needs, but they can and will expect more consideration from you because that’s what they’ve come to believe. They’re lashing out because they’re afraid they can’t depend on your empathy.

 

[Witty⭐️Sarcasm🐒]

That tells you everything, C. They just don’t care to make room for your needs, but they can and will expect more consideration from you because that’s what they’ve come to believe. They’re lashing out because they’re afraid they can’t depend on your empathy.

I used to just roll over and let them treat me that way because I was afraid of upsetting them. I'm not really good with conflict. But nowadays I don't care anymore...I know that I need to put myself and my needs first for once.

 

[Witty⭐️Sarcasm🐒]

Not really a complaint, but my mom and nephew both talked about suicide today and I don't know what to do.

 

[Optimistic Goatman]

Not really a complaint, but my mom and nephew both talked about suicide today and I don't know what to do.

What was the context of your nephew talking about suicide? Like was it just a topic he felt like discussing, or did he say it like he actually wanted to do something bad?

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

Just found out that the Spelt bread I bought for my special low-Fodmap diet also has rye flour which is high-Fodmap. I can't believe it!!! Why would they not label it Spelt and rye bread??? A lot of people are on the low Fodmap diet these days for digestive issues. Certain grains like wheat and rye are high in fructans which can cause bloating.

I did buy some spelt flour and ingredients for baking scones so will bake those tomorrow.

 

[FlamingoWrangler]

No help in my area. Not enough doctors, specialists.

 

[Witty⭐️Sarcasm🐒]

What was the context of your nephew talking about suicide? Like was it just a topic he felt like discussing, or did he say it like he actually wanted to do something bad?

He had something that he could use to hurt himself, said he wanted to kill himself, and asked if he should do it or not. So I don't really know what to think or feel at this point.

 

[RCee]

I have 2 managers. One day shift one night shift.
Was talking to the night shift manager and in passing she said “don’t take (day manager) shift if calls you tomorrow” I’m thinking it’s a joke because… well I have taken the shifts before on Sundays. Low and behold I get a text “I’m sick can you cover for me” today.
I ignore it!

then I get another text from coworker reiterating about how there is no cover… again I ignore it.
Than in hour half later get a text from (day manager) I walked out to car and have flat tire blah blah blah…. By this time I have had 3 missed called and 4 texts… I again ignore it .
9 texts later 5 missed called later I get a text
“Sorry to bug you on your day off, I figured it out”.

well of course you figured it out!!
First of all…… I have been sent Ubers from my old manager (diff work) in past when my car wasn’t working, I have taken the bus, I have walked……. So … all of a sudden your car flat tire is more important than your sickness… not to mention I was forwarded the night before you were going to call out.
In past I would have taken the shift . People need to realize that just because life happens does not excuse you from your duties. I would have been fired if I said oh my car isn’t working I can’t come in! Like wtf?!
And out of everyone that works there there is no one in position to take your role at work. That’s not my problem. I make $19 an hour man! I deserve my days off. It’s been a busy holiday season! This weekend I was …still am looking forward to.
Also to add
If your a manager and can’t get ahold of anyone to cover a shift, then you call your boss. If your boss his/her cares about true business to run and be profitable and needs you to be there to do so. He /she will figure it out. They will call you an Uber and pay for it or come down themselves. Anything!!!
This happens a lot! This was planned.
She should be ashamed to bother me like this. I barely get two days off in a row. Granted I don’t always work full 8 hours but I work laborious hours.
In this industry you can be overworked and fast if you do full shift consistently. That’s when accidents happen.
Just because I am the only other person who is trusted and is seasoned… doesn’t mean job security. It doesn’t mean you can count on me for going above and beyond my station. Respect me and my time! I will continue to do my shit 💯

 

[Angie]

My teeth hurt. It hurts to eat.

Just another brick in the wall.

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

My teeth hurt. It hurts to eat.

Just another brick in the wall.

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

Major complaint: Anyone "religious" who treats other people like shit and judges them. Every decent person on this Earth carries the Divine within them and deserves respect and kindness, no matter their age or gender or looks or sexual orientation or creed or lack of creed.

 

[Optimistic Goatman]

He had something that he could use to hurt himself, said he wanted to kill himself, and asked if he should do it or not. So I don't really know what to think or feel at this point.

If he's at that point, i'd say you need to act on that. He needs professional help, a proper support network in place, intervention methods. If i were you, i'd either be trying to convince his mum to go speak to a doctor about this and get help, or i'd be taking him there myself. And i think it can go a long way to have someone like you there that he knows he can talk to, who he knows gets it. So i'd also be making sure he was aware that i fully understood where he's at right now, and that he could come to me any time to talk things out or even just to feel heard.

 

[Waves]

Some people in my life don't seem to care how bad they make me feel. Even when it's brought up to them, they shrug it off like it doesn't matter. Makes me feel really unimportant.

I understand. I can’t get over how mean people are now. They tell me I am worthless. Not a good person. They outright ignore and ditch. They ate children that never were civilized well.

 

[Witty⭐️Sarcasm🐒]

If he's at that point, i'd say you need to act on that. He needs professional help, a proper support network in place, intervention methods. If i were you, i'd either be trying to convince his mum to go speak to a doctor about this and get help, or i'd be taking him there myself. And i think it can go a long way to have someone like you there that he knows he can talk to, who he knows gets it. So i'd also be making sure he was aware that i fully understood where he's at right now, and that he could come to me any time to talk things out or even just to feel heard.

He's been seeing a therapist for years now. I told my sister she needs to let them know what he's been saying so that hopefully they can give him the help he needs.

 

[Witty⭐️Sarcasm🐒]

I understand. I can’t get over how mean people are now. They tell me I am worthless. Not a good person. They outright ignore and ditch. They ate children that never were civilized well.

You're not worthless or a bad person. It sounds more like they are for saying those things to you.

 

[Dante]

The human psyche is such a mess. I made a major personal breakthrough 2 years ago and I'm still trying to figure out what it means :P

 

[cymbele]

Not a major complaint but a major headache changing my name back to my maiden name. I didn't want to do this until I retired but then decided it made no difference. What a crapload of work. First I did this when i got married. Then I had to do it when I simply wanted my maiden name as part of my married name - one thing that my husband was upset about. Now I have to do it again. Bah humbug. I'm never going to change it again. Even if I ever fall in love and that may not happen so that is a good thing. But the thing that is good is that I won't cringe when I hear my ex hubby's name as my own.