social anxiety
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I was first dignosed with SA at the age of 13, but i was showing signs throughout my childhood, ive always been an anxious stressy person, always fuelled in social situations. Its the route cause of ALL my issues. I hate the fact that i cnat work/function in daily life because of it. I have left jobs everytime because of it. I was agoraphobic at 15.. i was put on seroxat which helped for a while. Ive been up n down ever since coming off the seroxat at 16-17. Then i developed an eating disorder..
My OCD tendencies control the anxieties fuelled around SA. It all sounds pretty textbook- wish it was so simple.
I hate the blushing, i avoid so much cos of the fear of blushing. I even fear blushing infront of my friends/family. Something they will never know.
No words can describe the impact this has on my life, i am a hermit again, just eat all day and throw up. I wonder if it will ever go away, if not, i dont think i could live with the stress and anxieties, i cant hide away forever and the thought of facing my fears is all too distressing.
My OCD tendencies control the anxieties fuelled around SA. It all sounds pretty textbook- wish it was so simple.
I hate the blushing, i avoid so much cos of the fear of blushing. I even fear blushing infront of my friends/family. Something they will never know.
No words can describe the impact this has on my life, i am a hermit again, just eat all day and throw up. I wonder if it will ever go away, if not, i dont think i could live with the stress and anxieties, i cant hide away forever and the thought of facing my fears is all too distressing.
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I tend to love people with SA. Sorry if this sounds weird to anyone, it's just that I've found shy people to be really good friends. The most rewarding experience is being there for someone who is in pain, and then seeing them open up again and show their true personality once they feel comfortable with you.
Hi Shicky, I too suffer from social anxiety. Well, actually what I have now could be more accurately described as avoidant personality disorder, which was brought on by years of depression and social anxiety.
I haven't worked in almost 10 months, I have no friends and I rarely ever leave my house unless it's absolutely necessary. I'm 22 now.
I haven't worked in almost 10 months, I have no friends and I rarely ever leave my house unless it's absolutely necessary. I'm 22 now.
I unfortunately have this horrible thing call social anxiety. I am in college right now and it is really affecting me negatively. My living situation is really screwed up right now and I know it is my fault. Sometimes I wonder if I should have just continued to live at home and commute to college. Even though living at my house was horrible enough, at least it didn't really affect other people. Right now, I am basically a really bad roommate. 
I can't be a happy and friendly person. I know that my roommate wishes that she had anyone else living with her besides me. She is just one of those people who seems to be an expert at socializing and I am the opposite. I wish I could be a normal and happy person like the rest of the people living at my dorm but I just can't do it. It is really stressful and I think that they all assume I hate them all but I don't. I wish I could be better at socializing so I could talk to them more but I am no good at it so I don't even bother. Most of them are nice people but they don't know what it feels like to have this anxiety.
I can't be a happy and friendly person. I know that my roommate wishes that she had anyone else living with her besides me. She is just one of those people who seems to be an expert at socializing and I am the opposite. I wish I could be a normal and happy person like the rest of the people living at my dorm but I just can't do it. It is really stressful and I think that they all assume I hate them all but I don't. I wish I could be better at socializing so I could talk to them more but I am no good at it so I don't even bother. Most of them are nice people but they don't know what it feels like to have this anxiety.
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i can totally relate to that. ive got pritty serious social anixiety. i quit my job and collage because of it.
i went to my gp and he said i should wear dark glasses and act like clint eastwood :dry:
i havent tryed to get help since
i blush all the time too it started when i was 15. it made my sa so much worse
i went to my gp and he said i should wear dark glasses and act like clint eastwood :dry:
i havent tryed to get help since
i blush all the time too it started when i was 15. it made my sa so much worse
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I unfortunately have this horrible thing call social anxiety. I am in college right now and it is really affecting me negatively. My living situation is really screwed up right now and I know it is my fault. Sometimes I wonder if I should have just continued to live at home and commute to college. Even though living at my house was horrible enough, at least it didn't really affect other people. Right now, I am basically a really bad roommate. I can't be a happy and friendly person. I know that my roommate wishes that she had anyone else living with her besides me. She is just one of those people who seems to be an expert at socializing and I am the opposite. I wish I could be a normal and happy person like the rest of the people living at my dorm but I just can't do it. It is really stressful and I think that they all assume I hate them all but I don't. I wish I could be better at socializing so I could talk to them more but I am no good at it so I don't even bother. Most of them are nice people but they don't know what it feels like to have this anxiety.
I can't be a happy and friendly person. I know that my roommate wishes that she had anyone else living with her besides me. She is just one of those people who seems to be an expert at socializing and I am the opposite. I wish I could be a normal and happy person like the rest of the people living at my dorm but I just can't do it. It is really stressful and I think that they all assume I hate them all but I don't. I wish I could be better at socializing so I could talk to them more but I am no good at it so I don't even bother. Most of them are nice people but they don't know what it feels like to have this anxiety.
My older sister is generally more outgoing than I am, has a lot more friends etc.. I've talked to her about the same issues you're discussing here. I told her I feel like others dislike me for being shy, and she says I'm thinking about it the wrong way.
She's met all types of different people, and says that it's most fun (and that most would agree with her) when there are many types of personalities together in social circles. It's the differences between us that make us all interesting to one another.. kind of like opposites attract, in some cases. For example, shy people tend to actually draw interest at times, as people are interested in their mysteriousness and curious to find out what the person is like. Finding the more introverted friends can also be considered a kind of challenge that is fun for some people. Just from my own perspective.. I find super outgoing and 'artifically happy' girls to be annoying. I'm sure there are other guys who would also prefer a smarter, quieter girl who is harder to figure out than the super-easy girls. Quiet, calm people just have a certain style to them that is attractive and sophisticated.
Be happy with who you are. If you don't feel like talking, then don't. Just be yourself and try to find ways to get along with the other personality types ou there. (Okay, easier said than done!) I'm about as anti-social as they come, but I'm truly fine with it. When I was younger, it caused me a lot of stress, but I've come to realize it's perfectly acceptable.
I mentioned another site earlier in this thread...which is specifically for S.A. I messaged Mal a few days ago to see if we could get a S.A sub forum going but he never got back to me on it..and is now away for a while.
If there are any admins reading this. Please consider this request, it seems to be a common problem for many members of SF
If there are any admins reading this. Please consider this request, it seems to be a common problem for many members of SF
I agree. I can't stand super outgoing girls. The loud, bubbly, obnoxious ones, ugh. Unfortunately they're everywhere. I need to be with a quiet girl, I couldn't live with an extremely extroverted one.
Check this place out http://socialanxietysupport.com/
Over 10000 members last time I checked.
Check this place out http://socialanxietysupport.com/
Over 10000 members last time I checked.
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