I'm trying to understand alcoholism, my 'ex' is a wonderful person, but also a heavy drinker, sometimes a pain in the arse, sometimes not. Always in the pub after work saying he missed me,(we lived together) always there till closing on a Friday. Hes not going to give up booze for me, so why do I still hope?
I love the non drinker. But the drunk sets off my anxiety, self doubt, blah blah boring....
Why do I blame myself for the relationship not working? Hes moved out, I couldn't deal with the drama.
I didn't make him a drunk.
I feel like I wasn't enough.
He isn't a bad person, he has even asked for help but the drunk sees no wrong in spending all his money and time in the pub.
As a friend it doesn't bother me, I can choose to stay away from that trigger. As a friend we can hang out when no booze or pubs are involved.
But how do I not feel like one day he will change. I need to stop thinking that I reckon or I'll always be thinking it's me.
Just wanted to rant, thanks. But if anyone else has had a toxic relationship and has tips feel free to share.
I love the non drinker. But the drunk sets off my anxiety, self doubt, blah blah boring....
Why do I blame myself for the relationship not working? Hes moved out, I couldn't deal with the drama.
I didn't make him a drunk.
I feel like I wasn't enough.
He isn't a bad person, he has even asked for help but the drunk sees no wrong in spending all his money and time in the pub.
As a friend it doesn't bother me, I can choose to stay away from that trigger. As a friend we can hang out when no booze or pubs are involved.
But how do I not feel like one day he will change. I need to stop thinking that I reckon or I'll always be thinking it's me.
Just wanted to rant, thanks. But if anyone else has had a toxic relationship and has tips feel free to share.