Discussion in 'Domestic Abuse' started by Cutting_the_pain_Away, May 27, 2008.
My ex-husband had a PhD in this! Every single point applied - thank you for this posting.
Yeah i agree with most but not points 11 and 12. Parents not to blame
It's like you've looked at my bio-dad and step-dad and written a formative list detailing their more "interesting" traits. I also noticed some things that I've found myself doing in relationships and passing it off as part of my personality.
I'm glad I read it now :huh:
Thank you for posting this.
I'm going to print off two copies. One for my journal and the other to be posted on my bedroom wall next to this homemade manual I made with one of the nurses when I was in the psych ward.
I just want to say that it seemed a little heterosexist, meaning that it sounded like you're talking about a heterosexual couple... maybe I'm being oversensitive, Idk.
My ex boyfriend (but is trying to say there isn't anything wrong with him and it's me and my family so I'll go back with him again) is ALL of these... Is it possible?
my daughters partner
I see what your describing in allot of people. Some acts more in others. l feel everyone may identify with one or more of these acts in people however, to what degree do you base a potential molester on? All? Some? You neglected some important acts. l would keep this information in the back of your mind but, lf you see an aggressive driver, don't start thinking he may be a molester....
my mom and dad are like this to me
This is my boyfriend in almost a nutshell... He acts this way to a t plus more..how does this happen
That is pretty much me.
I have had feelings of wanting to hit past partners, but I don't think I ever would. But, it scares me terribly when I feel like that.
Shit, never saw this thread before, and i dont like it one bit.
Toned down i did many of the things listed here, i cringe and carry a deep shame.
But that man is not me now.
wow!I think that would be very very useful!I'm really happy reading it!
I see my Whole love life like this including my seventh or so boyfriend:i'm sorry:
Ouch again, while surfing i found this.
Tell you something too, how many abused have been abusers too.
Its a cycle that goes round and round.
Im glad i got off.
Nice post... A lot of well... My exes. All of them. >.<
But it's only three so maybe not that bad?
Greatest list I've seen though anyway.
Some of these could describe anyone with an anxiety disorder.
I guess everyone wants a perfect partner and yeah, you shouldn't let people push you around or make you feel unsafe, but if someone is uncomfortable around your friends it doesn't mean they're abusive it might just mean that they don't know what to say. And who isn't more comfortable around their own friends than someone else's? It's especially ironic since later in the list apparently if YOU are uncomfortable around THEIR friends it also means that they're an abuser-- I guess that anyone with SAD is an abuser.
A lot of it seemed really generic besides the obvious points. Some of the points I would say are related to a stubborn person not an abuser. Sometimes tough love is what the other needs. Tough love being towards me. If they like the muppets its a sign of abuse...Lol
yeah some of these things are kind of general, but i think the point is having many of them coexist.
from my own experience, my dad has almost all of the listed things, yet he only has very rare outbreaks now. used to be worse but kind of for a reason [not saying that'd function as an excuse].