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Borderline Personality Disorder | What is BPD? | Signs of BPD

Innocent Forever

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i used to be sure i have BPD. now i am not so sure. i don’t think my symptoms have changed but i think i am more aware of qualities of other diagnoses that i have that may actually point to Asperger’s and maybe even schizoaffective but the schizo diagnosis i only received, i believe, because the providers who gave it do not really understand me and have not taken enough time to get to know me on a first hand basis. i feel i can make this claim because i have been described as “a hard nut to crack” by one psychologist and few psychiatrists have described me as being hard to diagnose and treat.

further, i actually believe i have a dissociative disorder that may be closer to Dissociative Identity Disorder which i am ok suggesting even though there are many people who i have spoken to (and read about as well) who believe that such a diagnosis is dubious at best. i also consider Ego State Disorder which is similar to DID however without alters that come out. the description i read is frighteningly similar to me as i see it.

just the same i do recognize BPD qualities that i do think i have. but since i have had myself included in this thread i just felt i should mention the above.
You're welcome to any thread....

I don't think I'd any longer be diagnosed with BPD although I live with a lot of the traits I don't live with all any longer at all like I used to.
 

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You're welcome to any thread....

I don't think I'd any longer be diagnosed with BPD although I live with a lot of the traits I don't live with all any longer at all like I used to.
i wonder, do you think its gone away, or you are changing? or do you now have a different outlook? for me, i feel a bit as if i have been enlightened by things my newer therapist explained to me. on the other hand i always considered that i could possibly have had multiple personalities that just had not come out. but to me, this is something everyone has at least at times. i also suspected autism since i was a teen.
 

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i wonder, do you think its gone away, or you are changing? or do you now have a different outlook? for me, i feel a bit as if i have been enlightened by things my newer therapist explained to me. on the other hand i always considered that i could possibly have had multiple personalities that just had not come out. but to me, this is something everyone has at least at times. i also suspected autism since i was a teen.
I used to fit almost all the criteria (the anger one not, but really yes, it was directed at myself, never at others). I don't fit them all and it's not as extreme as it was.
 
For me I should have been diagnosed with it so long ago and received help. It wasn't identified so I spent practically my whole life having these symptoms and getting in trouble and all that time I thought it was just me. I knew something wasn't right but didn't know what. There was not help no therapy or anything at that time. I did reach out and never saw them again. After over twenty years of this I found some forms on Internet to self diagnose with my symptoms on various things and the same results came back on what I had 100% BDP and also acute anxiety. First one I psychiatrist I saw couldn't recognise it as not a specialist, second I paid for did and allowed me discuss my symptoms. My GP hasn't been informed yet no services unless an emergency so I'm going to be given some therapy that may not relate, but got a letter ages ago saying due to the virus at moment no face to face that they will continue to contact by phone. They haven't rang me once though or offered any support so far. I have yet to find anybody I can talk to about it that understands or support and that itself can trigger the worst symptoms, because the abandonment issues get highlighted again. Also reckless spending that I don't have. I feel its a vicious circle because for me it is bad enough having it but then acting on those feelings causes worse consquences so I end up worrying more. Any pressure sets me of like Government departments I've told them I can do their forms and to just close my account this is needed that money but I'd rather recieve nothing than deal with them that and our tax people any authority where they have power over me I get paranoid I've filled in something wrong and will go to prison. So as soon as they ask for things I end up sending loads of messages and even use swear words then I log out and think what have I done? I find it very painful living with this.
 

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For me I should have been diagnosed with it so long ago and received help. It wasn't identified so I spent practically my whole life having these symptoms and getting in trouble and all that time I thought it was just me. I knew something wasn't right but didn't know what. There was not help no therapy or anything at that time. I did reach out and never saw them again. After over twenty years of this I found some forms on Internet to self diagnose with my symptoms on various things and the same results came back on what I had 100% BDP and also acute anxiety. First one I psychiatrist I saw couldn't recognise it as not a specialist, second I paid for did and allowed me discuss my symptoms. My GP hasn't been informed yet no services unless an emergency so I'm going to be given some therapy that may not relate, but got a letter ages ago saying due to the virus at moment no face to face that they will continue to contact by phone. They haven't rang me once though or offered any support so far. I have yet to find anybody I can talk to about it that understands or support and that itself can trigger the worst symptoms, because the abandonment issues get highlighted again. Also reckless spending that I don't have. I feel its a vicious circle because for me it is bad enough having it but then acting on those feelings causes worse consquences so I end up worrying more. Any pressure sets me of like Government departments I've told them I can do their forms and to just close my account this is needed that money but I'd rather recieve nothing than deal with them that and our tax people any authority where they have power over me I get paranoid I've filled in something wrong and will go to prison. So as soon as they ask for things I end up sending loads of messages and even use swear words then I log out and think what have I done? I find it very painful living with this.
That really irritates me that doctors are so bad at diagnosing this disorder. I had to self-diagnose at first too because I was given the wrong diagnosis. Did you end up getting an official diagnosis eventually?
 
I'm sorry you were diagnosed wrongly. That is really bad practice when you need clarity and treatment. Yes I got an official one with letter, but I felt I had to do the groundwork like you to know what was wrong with me and with the second one I pretty much told him straight up what I felt the diagnosis should be, I was too worried they wouldn't be able to spot BPD either and after years of not knowing I didn't want any mistakes like with the first psychiatrist he replied "well you seem to know what is up" so then let me then explain my symptoms. I realised he was aware of one thing and that is those that have BPD and have lived with it for so long tend to be able to spot the symptoms just online reading most of them and can usually identify several of them or all of them, which is just as well, because they don't always know themselves, like with your situation.
 
I was diagnosed in 2008, prior to that it was depression and possibly a mood disorder. The diagnosis was made as soon as I mentioned childhood trauma a one off incident that occurred when I was 6. I can see how I once met the traits of it but the diagnosis was also made after several years of antisocial behaviour where I lived and when my mother was dying. I've disagreed with the diagnosis as I've always felt I fitted the criteria of Bipolar more and a private psychiatrist diagnosed me with this in 2009, along with PTSD.

For years I've argued about my diagnosis, I did have 18-months of therapy for BPD between 2011 - 2013 which helped fix a difficult relationship with my dad and the only traits remaining are ones that are seen in Bipolar.

Getting UK mental health services to listen has become a joke.
 

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I was diagnosed in 2008, prior to that it was depression and possibly a mood disorder. The diagnosis was made as soon as I mentioned childhood trauma a one off incident that occurred when I was 6. I can see how I once met the traits of it but the diagnosis was also made after several years of antisocial behaviour where I lived and when my mother was dying. I've disagreed with the diagnosis as I've always felt I fitted the criteria of Bipolar more and a private psychiatrist diagnosed me with this in 2009, along with PTSD.

For years I've argued about my diagnosis, I did have 18-months of therapy for BPD between 2011 - 2013 which helped fix a difficult relationship with my dad and the only traits remaining are ones that are seen in Bipolar.

Getting UK mental health services to listen has become a joke.
The UK can be a joke. Sending hugs your way
 

Stephanie4

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I just recently got diagnosed with emotionally unstable personality disorder and I was wondering if anyone would feel like helping me out with coming to terms with what it actually is ! I’ve struggled my whole life from change in moods and relationships and the more I read about this the more I start to understand myself. But I was wondering if there’s anyone out there that wouldn’t mind pm me for support for eupd just as a friend.
 

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I was diagnosed in 2008, prior to that it was depression and possibly a mood disorder. The diagnosis was made as soon as I mentioned childhood trauma a one off incident that occurred when I was 6. I can see how I once met the traits of it but the diagnosis was also made after several years of antisocial behaviour where I lived and when my mother was dying. I've disagreed with the diagnosis as I've always felt I fitted the criteria of Bipolar more and a private psychiatrist diagnosed me with this in 2009, along with PTSD.

For years I've argued about my diagnosis, I did have 18-months of therapy for BPD between 2011 - 2013 which helped fix a difficult relationship with my dad and the only traits remaining are ones that are seen in Bipolar.

Getting UK mental health services to listen has become a joke.

What makes you think you have bipolar?
 
Hi there!!

This thread is all about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and provides information on what the disorder is, signs and symptoms, treatments and provides a list of links and resources that you may find useful. We also welcome you to discuss your experiences with BPD in this thread with other members.


What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline Personality Disorder is a disorder that can cause unstable and unpredictable mood swings, behaviour and relationships. Many people with BPD will normally have experienced some sort of traumatic event in their lives and will usually have a co-morbid illness such as depression, addiction, anxiety etc. It was once thought that BPD was the borderline between neurosis and psychosis, however this is not how the illness is defined in the present day. Some doctors now refer to BPD as Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder (EUPD) as they believe it defines the illness more accurately. It is believed that people with BPD develop traits from an early age as they inherit behaviours and traits from those around them and learned behaviours from the environment. Researchers also believe that the illness can be inherited and that genetics play a role in inheriting the illness. People with BPD tend to have a strong fear of abandonment which usually plays a role in their unstable moods, behaviour and relationships. BPD is usually more common in women but can affect men too.


Signs and Symptoms

BPD has a large array of signs and symptoms and can affect each individual differently:

-Intense emotions that can last from anywhere between a few hours and a few days but can change very quickly e.g. feeling happy in the morning but feel depressed or angry in the afternoon.
-Fear of abandonment.
-Extreme reactions. This can include panic, depression or rage usually from feelings of abandonment or perceived feelings.
-Unstable relationships. One moment you may feel close to and love somebody but the next you may feel very angry towards them or dislike them.
-Impulsive, reckless and dangerous behaviour e.g. engaging in unsafe sex, spending sprees, taking illegal drugs, drinking excessively, binge eating, making yourself sick etc.
-Unstable self-image or sense of worth that can result in sudden changes of mood, opinions, values and plans.
-Recurrent thoughts of self-harm and suicide. You may also self-harm in reaction to an event or change of mood.
-Feelings of loneliness and emptiness.
-Have trouble with controlling anger and rage.
-When you are under stress you may also feel numb and detached from the world, or you may begin to have paranoid thoughts and experience psychosis.
-Black and white thinking. Something either is or it isn’t, there is no reasoning in between.


Treatment

If you suspect that you may have BPD then you should first see your GP or family doctor. They will take a history and may refer you to an appropriate mental health professional such a CPN (community psychiatric nurse) or a psychiatrist, however, only a psychiatrist can diagnosis BPD. They will take an in depth history and may ask you about life events, your childhood and if you have any family history of mental illness. You may have an assessment over a few sessions for your doctor to diagnose you accurately.

There is no specific medication that can treat BPD but it may help relieve symptoms caused by BPD such as depression, anxiety and psychosis. Therapy is usually the recommended choice of treatment for BPD as it can tackle the underlying issues and thought processes behind the illness that can help you manage your thoughts, emotions and behaviour in a more productive and helpful manner. The recommended therapies for BPD are:

-Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) – This helps you understand how your thoughts affect your feelings and behaviour. It can help you identify and change your core beliefs and behaviours that are causing you to have inaccurate perceptions of yourself and others. It can also help you manage suicidal feelings and lessen feelings of depression and anxiety.

-Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT) – This type of therapy has been designed specifically to treat BPD. It focuses on mindfulness and being aware of the current time and situation. It teaches people how to control their intense emotions, improves relationships and reduces destructive behaviour.

-Schema Therapy – This combines CBT and psychotherapy that focusses on reforming schema’s and the ways that people view themselves. This is to help build upon self-esteem and issues surrounding self-image and the way people react to their environment and cope with problems and stress and can improve relationships with others.

There are other types of therapies such as Cognitive Analytical Therapy (CAT) and Mentalised Based Therapy (MBT). Therapy sessions can be undertaken as both individual sessions or group therapy sessions, but both types have good rates of success.

There is also good evidence to suggest that developing your own self-management and relapse plans can reduce symptoms and prevent relapses.

BPD is a complex illness to treat however it is treatable and manageable and many people with the illness lead stable and successful lives.


Links and Resources
Here a few links and resources that may help you when dealing with BPD:

http://www.mind.org.uk/information-...sonality-disorder-bpd/about-bpd/#.VgAn1-RRHIU
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/borderline-personality-disorder/index.shtml#part_145386
http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Borderline-personality-disorder/Pages/Introduction.aspx
http://www.time-to-change.org.uk/category/blog/personality-disorders
http://www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com/what-is-bpd/bpd-overview/
http://www.bpdworld.org/
https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/cg78


Self-Management

Here are some links to aid you in developing strong self-management plans:

http://www.mind.org.uk/information-...-disorder-bpd/self-care-for-bpd/#.VgApAORRHIU
http://bpd.about.com/od/livingwithbpd/a/mindfulness.htm
http://bpd.about.com/od/livingwithbpd/tp/tenwaystocope.htm
http://ptsd.about.com/od/selfhelp/ht/breathing2.htm
http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/borderline_personality_disorde.html
http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/borderline_personality_disorde.html

If you have any other useful links and resources then please share with us!


Share Your Experiences!

Please use this thread to share your experiences of BPD with other members. Sharing experiences and hints and tips are useful to other members, and be sure to post if are you are looking for support, help and advice.
Hi everyone Liz here...borderline yup! Hard to take in but I have to accept it and face myself finally and accept that it comes with the dark sides and the good ones too. Anyway cheers from MTL Canada. Much love to yall xox
 

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