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Down a path

dandelion s

dandelion s

me
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#4
#4
seabird said:
I've chosen & acted on a path that might be a sort of sell out. I'm not better. Things aren't easier, but at least things are different.
Is it worth trying something different, even if you don't believe in it?
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i think so, yes! but idk your different path so my yes might not apply to it. i’m not so sure that “sell out” is always sell out and a bad thing. sometimes that may just be a case of doing a necessary thing to help out something.
 
seabird

seabird

meandering home
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#8
#8
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It is a known thing: I like to give the birds a little chopped up apple in the morning. New behaviour on partner's part is to leave the curtains closed so the birds can't see anyone moving in here.
And, he telling me not once but 3 times this morning that since no birds showed up so they must not be interested in getting apple anymore.

My sense is that this is a deliberate but difficult to assess or discuss.
 
1964dodge

1964dodge

Has a monkey as a friend
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#9
#9
seabird said:
:(
It is a known thing: I like to give the birds a little chopped up apple in the morning. New behaviour on partner's part is to leave the curtains closed so the birds can't see anyone moving in here.
And, he telling me not once but 3 times this morning that since no birds showed up so they must not be interested in getting apple anymore.

My sense is that this is a deliberate but difficult to assess or discuss.
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is there any way you and your partner can go onto a patio or someplace close to the birds without upsetting them? tell your partner there may be a good chance he is right (i know deceptive ) and say just to be sure why don't i feed them the apples and we watch what they do. be sweet and thank him for bringing it to your attention. this way you can prove to him that the birds want the apples. of course sugar coat it if you can, maybe say the apples you got before may not have been ripe enough or some bs and thank him for helping you feed the birds. he comes out the hero and saves face at the same time. men hate to be wrong lol

mike...*hug*shake
 
seabird

seabird

meandering home
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#10
#10
At least a couple of months now I've tried to feel and act kindly. I'm not good for much else, though I have done chores like making good food, cleaning & being companionable as I can. I also did the mural wall which looks good I think but it's hard to assess since I'm the one who created it. Being so far away and unable to see any of my family is a strange and sad feeling. I aslo very much miss having a cat & wish I had him back. I've asked about it but pets aren't allowed.
If I go back I wonder if I will have the strength to find work and fix my old junky house. It is in a nice place. It is the only bad looking house there and I know the neighbors hate me becauae I am too poor. So the social situation there is bad because of that. I'm not able to sell it because I wouldn't get enough money to get another place. So I'd end up homeless basically. My daughter can't let me live there becauae her boyfriend has the spare room for his things. & I don't have anyone who'd let me rent a room. My stuff is all at my house crammed into the garden shed. I guess my path has come to a dead end.
 
1964dodge

1964dodge

Has a monkey as a friend
Safety & Support
SF Supporter
#11
#11
seabird said:
At least a couple of months now I've tried to feel and act kindly. I'm not good for much else, though I have done chores like making good food, cleaning & being companionable as I can. I also did the mural wall which looks good I think but it's hard to assess since I'm the one who created it. Being so far away and unable to see any of my family is a strange and sad feeling. I aslo very much miss having a cat & wish I had him back. I've asked about it but pets aren't allowed.
If I go back I wonder if I will have the strength to find work and fix my old junky house. It is in a nice place. It is the only bad looking house there and I know the neighbors hate me becauae I am too poor. So the social situation there is bad because of that. I'm not able to sell it because I wouldn't get enough money to get another place. So I'd end up homeless basically. My daughter can't let me live there becauae her boyfriend has the spare room for his things. & I don't have anyone who'd let me rent a room. My stuff is all at my house crammed into the garden shed. I guess my path has come to a dead end.
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could you go back home and get a roommate? this way you could have a little extra money to fix the place up. between that and maybe finding work you can get a bit ahead on the repairs. if you can save a little this way maybe try talking to your neighbors and ask if they can help a little as you get money. it would be good for you and your neighbors

mike....*hug*shake
 
seabird

seabird

meandering home
SF Supporter
#14
#14
If I can keep from spiraling down when I get back I guess that's a short term goal to focus on. I have to do all this by myself. In a way it's good because there's the kind of alone-ness that feels right. However I can't physically carry heavy furniture or handle cleaning up the overgrown yard.
 
1964dodge

1964dodge

Has a monkey as a friend
Safety & Support
SF Supporter
#15
#15
seabird said:
If I can keep from spiraling down when I get back I guess that's a short term goal to focus on. I have to do all this by myself. In a way it's good because there's the kind of alone-ness that feels right. However I can't physically carry heavy furniture or handle cleaning up the overgrown yard.
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if it's overwhelming ask family and friends for help if possible. either way just do a little at a time

mike...*hug*shake
 
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