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How Are You Feeling Right Now?
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My last cat - I had two but one died in November - has symptoms of either a parasite or cancer, not that she can tell me what's wrong. We did bloodwork last week because she wasn't eating and once spit up blood. I can't emotionally go through another grieving process of losing another animal so soon but I will do it. First is a de-wormer. Of course i go away to Italy in March when everything will come to head. maybe I won't need a cat sitter then but I am hoping that I will. I always have said that when the cats go it will be awhile before I get another pet. But not so soon.
it is posible hat the judge will believe the cop but that all depends on other cases the judge has seen from this cop. i once got a ticket for squeeling tires from a rookie cop. since i represented myself i had the right to cross examine the cop. i tore him to shreds and embarrased him completely. my defence was i spun my tires but they did not squeel because the roads were wet and i had an empty truck. i almost won until my wife said something innocently lol. long story short the judge said he hadn't been this entertained in years, he found me guilty but only half fine , i actually had the whole courtroom erupting in laughter every time i cross examined the cop, when we left the courtroom the rookie cop was red as a lobster from both anger and embrrasment.
if possible it may be good idea to request to see the chief of police. you can start by saying you knew what you did is wrong ( if you are guilty) but you are upset how the cop acted to you. explain in every detail. explain that you aren't filing an official complaint but maybe someone should talk to the cop. unfortunately cops are humans so i believe most are good but there are bad apples in the bunch and it's our job to expose the bad apples. most cops don't want those bad apples because it makes them look bad. one time i was cresting a hill in a place i just moved to and was doing 67 mph in a 50 mph zone. i got pulled over and explained i was moving so was in hurry, i was honest. he then told me of all the speed trps in town lol
mike....
if possible it may be good idea to request to see the chief of police. you can start by saying you knew what you did is wrong ( if you are guilty) but you are upset how the cop acted to you. explain in every detail. explain that you aren't filing an official complaint but maybe someone should talk to the cop. unfortunately cops are humans so i believe most are good but there are bad apples in the bunch and it's our job to expose the bad apples. most cops don't want those bad apples because it makes them look bad. one time i was cresting a hill in a place i just moved to and was doing 67 mph in a 50 mph zone. i got pulled over and explained i was moving so was in hurry, i was honest. he then told me of all the speed trps in town lol
mike....
The cop that told you the speed traps, lol that's really a rare cop. I might do what you suggested. It cant hurt to mention how the officer was to me to his superior. I'm going to be honest, it just made me angry he fabricated some things.
My younger son refused to go look at the apartment with me. He said he wants privacy, well he could have had the bedroom I said. 2 days later, sorry he said maybe i should have got the apartment with you. Realistically though, paying hydro on top for heat etc, I'd be more than scraping by and my son is always broke soon after he gets his cheque. Many people have tried to knock some sense in me, stop helping him with money. I'm going to have to. Something has to motivate him to either get help with depression or get a job. I always feel guilty because I don't own a home. If I did there would always be a place for him to stay, or even my older if he needed. So that's how I reason heping him with food etc.
As I said in another post I vacuumed a part of the house (I do sections so it is not so overwhelming to have to do the whole thing in one day). While I had done this area before I vacuumed enough fur from the dead cat I wondered if he was alive. No he's really dead. Vacuumed enough fur from the dead cat to make me wonder if he was really gone (he is of course). I'm told it will take several times to pull his fur out of the carpet. But now it is evening and I'm feeling good about life. Sorry about multiple posts today.
Another suicide in the distant family. I didn’t know him (cousin’s cousin), but he was 19… I wish he could’ve been shown that things can be better. 
mike....
i'm not saying to do this but this is what i did with my kids. i tried to help up to a point and it took a lot of helping before we got to that point. then it's tough love time. it's a good idea to transition them not just cut them off at the knees. start by complaing you aren't sure if you can help, a day or two later give them exactly what they need and no more. tell a little white lie and say the money came from rent , or light bill etc. and let them know you can't help for a while. then do the unthinkable, no more money for a year or so. of course you can do non financial things like leaving a box of food or offering rides etc.
if you guys get an apartment together agree on a price he can pay and take it out of his check as soon as it comes in. this will teach him the responsibility for when he lives on his own. if he suffers from untreated depression then that would be top priority. just my 2 cents from my experience, you should do what you feel is best
mike....
if you guys get an apartment together agree on a price he can pay and take it out of his check as soon as it comes in. this will teach him the responsibility for when he lives on his own. if he suffers from untreated depression then that would be top priority. just my 2 cents from my experience, you should do what you feel is best
mike....
Another suicide in the distant family. I didn’t know him (cousin’s cousin), but he was 19… I wish he could’ve been shown that things can be better.
Yes, it is a process, and you are started on that path. Just keep taking it one-step at a time. And don't think too far ahead, or get too ahead of yourself (it that ends up exacerbating these feelings of uncertainty). Before you know it, you'll be in front of the person who does the initial diagnostics, and then they can set you up (with whomever you need) & you can go from there. Take what you can control, and leave the rest until it is time to take care of, and address it. Can't do step 4 or 5, before 1 or 2, are complete(d). Keep going!
And as far as the "fear of the unkown" goes, . . . Well, taht's just always going to be there & be something you're just going to have to deal with and everybody likewise, adn in the same way, is faced with this very same thing. What will happen is, that it's much worse, the sitting beforehadn & worrying about it. When you're in the mix & the flow of the action taking place, and you're started to get the ball rolling on an individual given step in the process, I bet it'll be a little bit like arriving at the gym for your workout, adn that settling/or comforting & relaxing feeling that you can get (once you're there, and you're doing your thing). In that, the hardest part, of the whole process, was just in getting there (in the first place). Which often involves, the simple taking; o fthat 'first, inital step!' So good luck...
And as far as the "fear of the unkown" goes, . . . Well, taht's just always going to be there & be something you're just going to have to deal with and everybody likewise, adn in the same way, is faced with this very same thing. What will happen is, that it's much worse, the sitting beforehadn & worrying about it. When you're in the mix & the flow of the action taking place, and you're started to get the ball rolling on an individual given step in the process, I bet it'll be a little bit like arriving at the gym for your workout, adn that settling/or comforting & relaxing feeling that you can get (once you're there, and you're doing your thing). In that, the hardest part, of the whole process, was just in getting there (in the first place). Which often involves, the simple taking; o fthat 'first, inital step!' So good luck...
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