How Are You Feeling Right Now?

[LumberJack]

What the FUCKING HELL is wrong with people. The person I share my office with has been going on for ages about the carpet being dirty. So I'd arranged for it to be cleaned. Then today the building manager offered to re-carpet the room for the same price as the cleaning contractors would charge. I told the person I share with and they've gone crazy at me, suggesting I get in an external carpet cleaner and saying the building management are lying to me about it costing the same to re-carpet. I thought she'd be happy to get a brand new carpet seeing as she's been going on about the dirty old one so much. WHAT THE ABSOLUTE FUCK?

Hate to say this, but honestly there is a pattern of behavior in some people that they love to complain about something for different reasons than the things they’re directly complaining about. Managing to solve the problem in question is often met with rage because you are essentially denying them something that makes them “special,” or assuages some other insecurity. I think I could find source if you’re interested, but it would be some digging. Otherwise I would just plop a link here, however I would be happy to go find it if it would valuable

 

[1964dodge]

Sad as always. I don't know if I'll ever get over this sadness.

 

[1964dodge]

Lousy. Tired of pain, fatigue, irritated eyes, financial issues. Just plain tired of life. Old age totally sucks! I should have died years ago.

i feel the same way. but we have to wait until we are called home

mike,....

 

[1964dodge]

Not overly great tonight. Sh urges. Trying to use the self soothe techniques I was taught on the course I did, but when I feel like this I’m not particularly open to trying to make myself feel better. It’s more the self destruct option my brain goes for. Hoping that sleep will reset my brain.

i hope you are feeling better today

mike....

 

[LumberJack]

Worried and a bit stressed because of the worry. The reasons for those feelings are a few things:

1. A dumb thing I did at Walmart yesterday. Ugh, I really should not have given them that info, and now I am terrified that it could seriously bite me in the butt.

I don’t know if it’s helpful to you, but I have some recent experiences with my credit score going up and down each month. As a result I have learned a lot about how credit scores work in the USA if that’s where you are. Feel free to start a direct conversation (inbox) if you’re interested. Disclaimer- I’m not a professional advisor. I’m just a consumer who was forced to learn this stuff.

I just remembered, I think you might have mentioned being from outside the USA in chat. I remember the locale, but I don’t want to repeat it without permission. If so, please disregard the above. The reference to walmart made me think you were in the USA.

btw I hate to refer to my country as “America,” because that is two-three entire continents depending on how you divide it up. I feel like it’s rather pompous of us to refer to ourselves as Americans without including citizens of Canada, Latin American, and so on.

 

[1964dodge]

So tired of being alone and sad.

 

[1964dodge]

Neutral, I guess?

neutral is better than sad

mike....

 

[LumberJack]

Woke up at 12:30 am after 4 hours sleep.

Its 2:30 am and I feel... idk lost maybe

Sometimes the past comes up in waves in the wee hours.

I’m sorry. I’m only too familiar with that feeling. Sending you wishes for your well being.

 

[1964dodge]

A lot of pain today. At least an 8.

i hope your pain is better today

mike....

 

[1964dodge]

Nervous. A second tropical storm/hurricane headed this way right now. Unusual in one season to hit the same place.
A serious storm for my birthday.....My birthday wish is for me and the dogs to stay safe, keep the electric and tv, and not flood. That would be for all who will be impacted as well.

i hope you and your dogs stay safe and don't get too affected by the hurricane.

happy birthday

mike....

 

[1964dodge]

considering everything going on i'm still ok. worried , feel old and useless etc. but trying to stay positive

mike

 

[AvidFan]

Hate to say this, but honestly there is a pattern of behavior in some people that they love to complain about something for different reasons than the things they’re directly complaining about. Managing to solve the problem in question is often met with rage because you are essentially denying them something that makes them “special,” or assuages some other insecurity. I think I could find source if you’re interested, but it would be some digging. Otherwise I would just plop a link here, however I would be happy to go find it if it would valuable

Lol, save yourself the time. I think they are appeased now. 🤫 But yes I have come across this. I have a friend who does nothing but write complaint letters all the time looking to cause chaos and for other reasons I expect!

 

[SillyOldBear]

considering everything going on i'm still ok. worried , feel old and useless etc. but trying to stay positive

mike

Old-maybe? Useless-never!

 

[LumberJack]

. …Probably highly inappropriate to think that

I don’t think it’s inappropriate at all… I often feel that way about my partner, I mean he was taking care of himself, he was good at real estate development and investment, and he was an optimist. So why should he die at 41 and I am still alive despite an attempt early in adulthood that really should have ended me?

The important thing is what we do with our thoughts. I have actually brought this up with my therapist, and she said that I might be thinking in black and white, or something. So I thought about it, and I did come to the conclusion that I don’t get to impose my will on what happens to my loved ones no matter how “good” they or I behave. It’s more random chance than anything else.

 

[Inanimate]

Sad. I have so much work to do on myself and so little patience to see it through. I just know that I will continue to be sad for a very long time until I finally manage to change my life. Either way, I’m better off just not dwelling on the future at all. The present is enough of a shitstorm on its own.

 

[mosaic hearts]

I don’t know if it’s helpful to you, but I have some recent experiences with my credit score going up and down each month. As a result I have learned a lot about how credit scores work in the USA if that’s where you are. Feel free to start a direct conversation (inbox) if you’re interested. Disclaimer- I’m not a professional advisor. I’m just a consumer who was forced to learn this stuff.

I just remembered, I think you might have mentioned being from outside the USA in chat. I remember the locale, but I don’t want to repeat it without permission. If so, please disregard the above. The reference to walmart made me think you were in the USA.

btw I hate to refer to my country as “America,” because that is two-three entire continents depending on how you divide it up. I feel like it’s rather pompous of us to refer to ourselves as Americans without including citizens of Canada, Latin American, and so on.

I agree. We Canadians are "American" too!

 

[mosaic hearts]

Nervous. A second tropical storm/hurricane headed this way right now. Unusual in one season to hit the same place.
A serious storm for my birthday.....My birthday wish is for me and the dogs to stay safe, keep the electric and tv, and not flood. That would be for all who will be impacted as well.

Oh, @Livelife, what a horrible way to spend your birthday. I hope you & your furbabies are safe through this storm & that today is your best birthday yet! Sending hugs & birthday wished!

 

[mosaic hearts]

I agree. We Canadians are "American" too!

As are all nations in North, Middle, Central, & South America.

 

[total eclipse]

Empty

 

[Bergerac]

I just want out of this life