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Windhover

meandering home
SF Supporter
I feel scared, eventually had to go up to £2100 because I need a new gutter as well, the existing one is cracked, might as well get it sorted while someone's got scaffolding up. At least it's payment on completion, they offer a 5 year guarantee in writing, no dodgy cash payments but bank transfer like a proper business. I'm now waiting for a start date for the works. I'm still anxious about it but at least I've got rid of the total anxiety spiral about making a decision. I've made one and now have to see how it all pans out. Maybe now I can at least concentrate on work and earning enough money to pay for this bullshit and pay my friend back one day. So grateful to have a friend offer that help. I might actually eat something now.
It's always such an enormous a relief to get past the decision-making process. Best to you and your house, AvidFan.
 

KM76710

Kangaroo Manager
SF Pro
SF Supporter
I am 47, and I still have a teddy bear. A big one. There’s a story behind it, but it’s complicated. I heard my therapist mention object bonding at one point. It’s where a certain item becomes a symbol of safety or similar, and so it’s calming to have the item around. It’s generally observed in children, but I think there are more adults with object bonds than are willing to admit.
I believe that also about the number of adults unwilling to admit to having a favorite stuffy, teddy or cuddly or whatever they call their item. Almost like they are afraid others may consider them less of a grown up. I just say it brings you comfort then yes, bring back a bit of the kid at heart in your life and embrace things that make you smile regardless of what anybody else believes.
 

SillyOldBear

Teddy Bears Rule! 🐻
Staff Alumni
I am 47, and I still have a teddy bear. A big one. There’s a story behind it, but it’s complicated. I heard my therapist mention object bonding at one point. It’s where a certain item becomes a symbol of safety or similar, and so it’s calming to have the item around. It’s generally observed in children, but I think there are more adults with object bonds than are willing to admit.
I am a cuddly fanatic. My avatar is my favorite cuddly. His name is Rudi. But I have a large collection of teddy bears. They are a comfort. And, yes, I sleep with one.
 

KM76710

Kangaroo Manager
SF Pro
SF Supporter
I am a cuddly fanatic. My avatar is my favorite cuddly. His name is Rudi. But I have a large collection of teddy bears. They are a comfort. And, yes, I sleep with one.
Sounds as fine as can be. Humans like other primates have that cling to soft reaction as almost an instinct. Think of how many adults will grasp their pillow up like a stuffy when they are sleeping. I know I do that as a course.
 

LumberJack

Huggy Bear 🐻 u r warned!
SF Supporter
I believe that also about the number of adults unwilling to admit to having a favorite stuffy, teddy or cuddly or whatever they call their item. Almost like they are afraid others may consider them less of a grown up...
I think it’s toxic masculinity in the US. Can’t speak for other countries, but the whole thing about being strong and invulnerable, dominant, and basically an a-hole, makes us afraid to admit that we do have a softer side. I get a pass ‘cause gay, lol. It also results in generations of man-children who can’t navigate their emotions. I’m sort of happy that I am old enough to stop fucking caring about that.
 
I am a cuddly fanatic. My avatar is my favorite cuddly. His name is Rudi. But I have a large collection of teddy bears. They are a comfort. And, yes, I sleep with one.
I would share my cuddlys name but I want to protect his anonymity! I sleep with him, talk to him through out the day. It helps having him around but I feel so alone, I just wish a certain person hadn't left my life.

I had dreadful nightmares again last night, all night about the situation. I am not coping at all and I cant remember the last time I managed a smile. Basically im not feeling good right now.
 

Windhover

meandering home
SF Supporter
I am a cuddly fanatic. My avatar is my favorite cuddly. His name is Rudi. But I have a large collection of teddy bears. They are a comfort. And, yes, I sleep with one.
There's a special spot in my heart and at the foot of my bed for several adorable stuffed toys. They theoretically help protect me from bad dreams, and are a comfort when nightmares wake me up in the middle of the night.
 

AvidFan

Retired Cat Staff
SF Supporter
Fucking terrified now, I was looking forward to finishing work at 5.30, getting home, having pizza for supper, then having 3 days to regroup. Except no sooner had I finished work than the roofer called and said they're starting the work at 8am tomorrow. Jesus Christ, I thought it was several weeks off, I'm not in a fit state, I'm shaking and dizzy, it's just all been too much this week and am not sure how I can manage this colossal thing happening on my doorstep when I'm already spent. I'm not mentally fit to judge their work or have any conflict if something isn't right, I could be throwing £2100 down the drain if it turns out I've been conned or something. Just did not expect this kind of turnaround - I thought they were very booked up. White fucking knuckle time then.
 

TragicReality

I wish I could turn back time
SF Supporter
I'm feeling sore and lazy. I could have my apartment cleaned up in an hour if i had some ambition. Have a slight headache so that's my excuse. I want it nice in case a long distance friend comes this way sometime. A girlfriend. The only one left.

The other ''friend'' I had a meal with was a male. One coffee date, one dinner and a lunch, and now he's talking about sex. uggh. men. I know why I didn't bother for almost 5 years now with them. I'm too old for there silly crap, like really, don't they know what a long term realtionship is when they put that on their profile?

That's about all I met before. They are like little boys, just want to be fed, have sex and leave them alone. I want someone who's interested in talking about things, getting to know each other. Someone who can be funny and also have some intelligent conversations with. So think I'm better off alone.

I don't expect to find someone anymore. I'm getting old and I'd like time with a man who wants to know my insides, who I am, what I like etc. and the other way around. I've have men as friends, and I mean just friends, and that's about enough for me. I think the last fling I had is it. It's not worth baring your soul to someone and then they leave you.
 

TragicReality

I wish I could turn back time
SF Supporter
Fucking terrified now, I was looking forward to finishing work at 5.30, getting home, having pizza for supper, then having 3 days to regroup. Except no sooner had I finished work than the roofer called and said they're starting the work at 8am tomorrow. Jesus Christ, I thought it was several weeks off, I'm not in a fit state, I'm shaking and dizzy, it's just all been too much this week and am not sure how I can manage this colossal thing happening on my doorstep when I'm already spent. I'm not mentally fit to judge their work or have any conflict if something isn't right, I could be throwing £2100 down the drain if it turns out I've been conned or something. Just did not expect this kind of turnaround - I thought they were very booked up. White fucking knuckle time then.
I don't know anything, but if you're paying them, can you not ask for it to be started after this weekend? Either way, I hope the stress of all this eases off soon.
 

TragicReality

I wish I could turn back time
SF Supporter
I miss the ocean, eucalypts, birds, clouds and sky
I know my experience isn't like yours, you actually lived somewhere else for a while. I had 2 long vacations in Belize. The last one I flew to a small island called Ambergris Caye. It was so beautiful, both times I loved how it felt there, like our summers and a bit warmer, different birds, mountains of palm trees. People are nice and always say good morning. I did snorkeling, took a boat to caye caulker, it was amazing. My darn phone keeps popping up memories of there, and I know if i can, I'm going one more time next winter. This winter was brutal here this year.
 

AvidFan

Retired Cat Staff
SF Supporter
I don't know anything, but if you're paying them, can you not ask for it to be started after this weekend? Either way, I hope the stress of all this eases off soon.
Thank you. At this rate I just want to get it over with - knowing my luck if I delayed it, they'd disappear for a month and the ceiling would cave in, if there's an issue probably better to get it done ASAP, just wasn't expecting to find out it was tomorrow with about 14 hours' notice 🤯 I really hope the stress ends soon.
 

Windhover

meandering home
SF Supporter
I know my experience isn't like yours, you actually lived somewhere else for a while. I had 2 long vacations in Belize. The last one I flew to a small island called Ambergris Caye. It was so beautiful, both times I loved how it felt there, like our summers and a bit warmer, different birds, mountains of palm trees. People are nice and always say good morning. I did snorkeling, took a boat to caye caulker, it was amazing. My darn phone keeps popping up memories of there, and I know if i can, I'm going one more time next winter. This winter was brutal here this year.
I'm so glad you have a place which calls to you. It is now for me a lot of bittersweet memories, but I guess I'd rather take the bitter with the sweet. I don't know if I'll be able to go back to Oz. I'm researching what might be done as far as my permanent resident status goes. There we some folks who offered to help me, so that is a distant possibility. I dunno. It sounds like you become more yourself when you're at your amzing place. : )
 

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