How Are You Feeling Right Now?

[AvidFan]

I'm not sure if I've got the same thing, but I'm fighting a bug too.

Sometimes I'll just have allergies, and the test is if I exercise and feel better (or at least don't feel worse), it's an allergy.

The day after going for a bike ride, I came down with a sore throat, fever, as well as some coughing and sweating. So not an allergy.

Hope you get well soon! 🤞

 

[LumberJack]

stressed. I just noticed my unemployment coverage runs out in 3 weeks. I thought I had 8 more. I haven't had any bites for jobs yet after 6 months and it's nobody's fault but my own. Avoided job searching by doing more important things, but I will need to allocate pretty much all of my waking hours to building something I can use as a portfolio. FML

 

[JanisSPK]

How is he feeling about his predicament? You don't need to be in a hurry to reach acceptance. It's a verb, not a destination. Either that or I'm full of crap; I'm a lot worse than most when it comes to accepting things I don't like.

Thank you LJ....For every dear word here. He is a fighter for sure even at 75. And he is one of the most courageous sob's (said with highest level of love) that I have ever met. If I had my way, he'd be staying here in my home but it seems it will not be, even though he has a standing invitation....thank you again

 

[JanisSPK]

It is so hard watching someone we care about suffer and die. I wish your friend could get into hospice and received better care during his final days. There are just entirely too many times when we are helpless to do anything.

I was a hospice nurse Barb and I am proud to be able to say that I was. Especially a few years ago when we had the freedom as practitioners to do so so much. I hope he can get into a hospice situation at some point, the sooner the better. He has a fu**ed up family that is at the controls and nothing can be done to alter that at this time. I very much appreciate your caring wishes and thoughts, It means alot to me.

 

[JanisSPK]

Sad news about the upcoming loss of your close friend. Even worse to hear how his family is reacting to his situation.

Thanks so much KM

 

[JanisSPK]

I'm praying for your precious friend JanisSPK.

Thank you Mid Night, your prayers are so appreciated and I told him this afternoon in a phone chat that there was a prayer circle for him forming....
HIs name is Louis ( Louie)

 

[JanisSPK]

My friend has just been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. I don’t know what is going to happen next. She is very holistic and rejects the idea of chemotherapy and radiation. the little bit I have read about her cancer is not very encouraging. I will be able to spend time with her this weekend as we live faily close. The doctors have not discussed anything with her. I’m going to try to be there for her Through this time of her endurance. I’m going to struggle with it just like you. Back when I joined this forum I would have gladly accepted cancer as a means to die. Now I am comfortable my friends are starting to die off. I am just babbling. I will be going through the same experience as you.

Oh Cymbele, my heart goes out to you and I will add her to my prayer list. And you also dear one. Message me anytime and we can talk or cry or babble together......

 

[JanisSPK]

I feel lonely. Not for lack of people so much as lack of skills for locating safe people to open up with. Being a gay man, hookup apps can get me in (intimate) physical contact at the drop of a ... keystroke (?)
But you never know who you'll get. Maybe I'm making it too hard on myself. So many people come to the apps with these specific expectations, kind of like the relational equivalent of being on the road and thinking everyone going faster than me is a maniac, but anyone driving slower is a moron. I'm having the thought as I write this that I might be able to have some fun with making myself as silly as possible to filter out anyone who wouldn't be able to handle me anyway. It is difficult though - I don't even know what I want. I only know what I don't want. Story of my f- ing life right now.

and this includes a smile in regard to your descriptive equivalent remark...I have the same mindset

 

[JanisSPK]

That's awful news, I'm sorry. It probably means the world to him that you're there to support him, so I'm glad you are.

Thank you very much May for what you've said here.

 

[Inastorm]

I need to control the anxiety, and refuse to do it with any drugs.

I had a bit of a breakdown 7/8 years ago and the anxiety was scary where I thought i was dying. Really weird experience, I wasnt able to sleep for 2 to 3 weeks, every time I closed my eyes and just about to fall asleep Id gasp for air. The doctor said it was adjustment disorder and yes, medication. I still take them but I've managed to cut down. Hope your feeling better soon.

 

[JanisSPK]

I had a bit of a breakdown 7/8 years ago and the anxiety was scary where I thought i was dying. Really weird experience, I wasnt able to sleep for 2 to 3 weeks, every time I closed my eyes and just about to fall asleep Id gasp for air. The doctor said it was adjustment disorder and yes, medication. I still take them but I've managed to cut down. Hope your feeling better soon.

I went through 11 straight days of no sleep 2 years ago September on top of the depression and thought I was going to lose my mind. It took 4 months to find a doctor to prescribe a sleeping assist med. I am so glad you got through it and I am also glad to hear you say you are cutting down and I hope that continues to go very well for you.

 

[JanisSPK]

stressed. I just noticed my unemployment coverage runs out in 3 weeks. I thought I had 8 more. I haven't had any bites for jobs yet after 6 months and it's nobody's fault but my own. Avoided job searching by doing more important things, but I will need to allocate pretty much all of my waking hours to building something I can use as a portfolio. FML

Im sorry you got taken by surprise with this and I hope you can build that portfolio in short order.

 

[Inastorm]

stressed. I just noticed my unemployment coverage runs out in 3 weeks. I thought I had 8 more. I haven't had any bites for jobs yet after 6 months and it's nobody's fault but my own. Avoided job searching by doing more important things, but I will need to allocate pretty much all of my waking hours to building something I can use as a portfolio. FML

I'd be interested to hear how it works with unemployment in the states. In the UK if your on unemployment benefit and they find you fit for work, you will probably end up being made to work in a supermarket or as a carer, if you refuse the Government will take away your benefits.

Does the job need to be in your job field?, are you able to take anything the now, like working in a shop, just to get into the job market again? I'm sure there will be other jobs but it's just a suggestion, of which youve probably thought of, so sorry if Im not being helpful.

 

[JanisSPK]

still fighting this damned bug and it's pissing me off lol. i get a lot of theese bugs in thee last few years. i couldn't sleep at all last night due to pain. besides my normal leg pain my kidney stone is killing me. it IS my own fault though. since i had the bug i've been drinking a lot less water " i know i should drink more " and when i don't drink water my kidney stone hurts. i drank 3 bottles of water in a few hours and the pain is going down. life sucks but so far despite some thoughts lately i'm still pleased to be here

mike

get well soon mike

 

[Windhover]

I had a bit of a breakdown 7/8 years ago and the anxiety was scary where I thought i was dying. Really weird experience, I wasnt able to sleep for 2 to 3 weeks, every time I closed my eyes and just about to fall asleep Id gasp for air. The doctor said it was adjustment disorder and yes, medication. I still take them but I've managed to cut down. Hope your feeling better soon.

Thank you inastorm. I'm sorry your anxiety got that bad. I'd not heard of adjustment disorder. For me it's likely just a few issues all of which are temporary, well, most of them. Come to think of it, the thunder and lightning did wake me several times last night. So maybe I have some sleep disturbance today too!

 

[LumberJack]

I need to control the anxiety, and refuse to do it with any drugs.

I have done this. My anxiety comes and goes but I manage it now with basic coping tools. I could offer some suggestions if you'd like.

 

[Windhover]

I could offer some suggestions if you'd like.

Yes please. Back when I had an acupuncturist, my homework was to find ways to self-regulate. He's in Australia and so I don't have access to him anymore.

 

[AvidFan]

Too tired. Today was the opposite of some days - started off pretty good, deteriorated, rallied, then just fell in a heap by the end of it. Sometimes the day starts off awful and I feel a lot better by the end - today I just feel sapped and drained, so am going to crawl to my bed and hope I sleep and feel better tomorrow.

 

[JanisSPK]

Too tired. Today was the opposite of some days - started off pretty good, deteriorated, rallied, then just fell in a heap by the end of it. Sometimes the day starts off awful and I feel a lot better by the end - today I just feel sapped and drained, so am going to crawl to my bed and hope I sleep and feel better tomorrow.

I hope you have a really good rest and sleep then. And wake up revived.
I get it, usually my days start in an energetic way most times and then fade off by afternoon sometimes.

 

[LumberJack]

I'd be interested to hear how it works with unemployment in the states. In the UK if your on unemployment benefit and they find you fit for work, you will probably end up being made to work in a supermarket or as a carer, if you refuse the Government will take away your benefits.

Does the job need to be in your job field?, are you able to take anything the now, like working in a shop, just to get into the job market again? I'm sure there will be other jobs but it's just a suggestion, of which youve probably thought of, so sorry if Im not being helpful.

In the USA it's a state-by-state thing. We pay into an unemployment insurance (UI) fund via mandatory withholding from our paychecks. Then when we lose a job through no fault of our own and not our own timing (layoff) - we can make a claim. The payout is about 50% of your pre-tax income monthly averaged over the past 12 months before the layoff. However, it only runs for 26 weeks and then you're on your own. I also have to pay normal income taxes on the UI so it comes out to half what I took home as well. I have to do at least 3 job-search activities each week to make a claim for that week. Mainly looking for positions, applying, and interviewing if you get one, and then you can also count classes taken to advance your skills.

So today was the 4th to last payout after which I'm on my butt. I still have some savings to rely on but that won't last another 6 months, since I have been drawing that down as it is with only getting half my income.
If I get a job pushing a broom or picking up carts (I think you call them as "trolleys" which I prefer) from a parking lot - that has 2 disadvantages. It will make me look like a clown to recruiters in my field, and the starting wage for unskilled jobs is less than half what I made before, so even more of a shortfall than UI payments.