Productive. I'm using a new strategy of trying to do x amount of hours of work. life admin, housework etc a week, and break it up into small chunks as otherwise it feels like a mountain and I do less than I need to. So today I've done half an hour of paid work and 38 minutes of tidying and now I'm on a break before a video meeting. So far so good!
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Intrigued. I've just added a new category target - doing nothing! I set my timer and gain time for every minute I spend doing one thing and one thing only (eg not "watching TV" AND browsing aimlessly on my phone or laptop - I'm basically getting points for not checking devices). I will see if this gamifying of my life leads to improved outcomes and less stress😄
Hi Thanks for your kind words. Although people are telling that I am doing fine, when I can see the light of the tunnel something stops and I cannot move on. It has been almost 2 years since I was assaulted by my husband. I helped him a lot and I find extremely difficult to do things on my own this is the only time in my life that I need help. Nobody can believe me. I have been in similar scenarios. Back in 1989 things were going extremely bad and I neglected my health then I finally could move to Canada and I looked after my health and when I came over 33 years ago I feel welcomed and accepted than my old country also it took me long to be assertive enough and let many people do things their way. The more you live you see new perspective in life. Also back in 1999 I was having difficult securing full time job and one day I decided I have to take a month and a half holidays before I can committ and it worked the employment agency called me earlier than expected and then found me a job that was long term contract and it turned later to be full time and l lasted 19 years. There is a quote that says something bad has to come first so good things will follow it has been almost 5 years and I cannot see any light in tunnel. That's what I am getting so exhausted. How come with lot of experience nobody can offer me a job or at least some leads. There is a lot I can do and I am a lot more flexible than 30 years ago for types of jobs even less pay than my older job and nobody cares. Only because I am old. which is crap what they do not realize is that I will last in the job. But again thanks for your support
Wow, that is an amazing run--& stretch, for you: in my opinion... that you could last 19 years like that is an exceptional accomplishment. One in which you ought to be proud of. I understand that "Age-ism," is a 'REAL-THING,' when it comes to getting hired by certain employers. So I hope you can find a way to work yourself around that, and then to just get somebody to give you a shot, so that you can show them how & why you would be such a good worker, to & for them. Prove your worth, as you say! I think you have remarkable, profound & exemplary experience, then. And that was in part, where some blanks were not quite filled in (without tying some previous posts to-gether, from last night, or the other / previous day), when you'd said, that last two-years, in particular, have been the problem; or where the true struggle has come in. So, now it all makes sense, and while I'm no psyhcologist, I bet it - or, "some," of it - can be traced back to this very traumatic incident & event with your Husband then. Goodness~ / that's such grief! (you've had to go through, and to endure, and it must be very challenging & trying to try & resolve all of this on your own and independently and everything--for that is a lot to try & work through, or process, for anybody: with, or without help). This is why I was suggesting reconsidering treatment of some kind, on your own terms, of course; & that would indeed be preferrable then (a way to do it). But so that, you could be fit enough to be the best version that you are capable of being, of yourself, at this point & time, in order to make yourself the most attractive hire possible, from a pool of candidates and that standpoint. I think it's wonderful that you were able to come here to this country, and to make such a great life for yourself. To be so giving & caring, and sharing to or with, others. It really speaks to the volume, and the depths with which your heart provides, and is capable of gifting others. Do you know if it might make any difference, if you were to accept a position for which you may be "over-qualified?" Just to gain some traction, and then some confidence, which can in & of itself, yield some competence for you & yourself overall? That would then perhaps give you some more opportunities, to go out & secure the position that you would really be more wanting to desire right now. But so a sacrifice, of sorts, just for the start of things, and to help regain some of your old form back. To what extent that is possible, if you're going to forgo any outside professional level of help, that is... (which is well within your right~ but I do believe it is "swimming upstream,") / You do seem, and sound like a Survivor to me. And one who is willing to adapt, and evolve. In order to persist. So I wish you all the best with all of this, @zuzu ! : )
Thanks again, I am willing to accept position that I am over qualified, but at the same time I need some help due to ageism someone that can connect with prospective employers. If at least I can get a job interview even if I do not get the job, I am very confident to ask why not, and I tell you that it does not feel bad as you have a chance to grow and learn. This is the only time in my life that I need help. I helped people with their taxes and they were extremely ignorant and they are doing better than me. Back in 2020 I was offered a job . The only reason I did not took it was because I had to open the place on my own and a very isolated area and I did feel comfortable. a couple of days later the club was closed due to COVID 19, but I am sure someone recommended me to the job. Why now nobody can offer me something or at least give me leads specially the way I talk and where I want to work. I am a lot more flexible than 30 years ago and that the pay will be a lot less than my old job and jobs will be contract, short term, part time and nobody get its. It is a weakness how to market myself, but there is a lot to offer and I do not need a resume my master resume can do it all.
I'm grateful for several reasons -
My sister's support and encouragement through my surgery
The great care team, nursing staff and everyone at the hospital
After a few days of intense pain and discomfort, I think I'm on the other side
The thoughts and prayers of those here and elsewhere.
I'm a day or more ahead of where I was expected to be in my recovery,
I can't think of a better explanation than the power of prayer
peace
My sister's support and encouragement through my surgery
The great care team, nursing staff and everyone at the hospital
After a few days of intense pain and discomfort, I think I'm on the other side
The thoughts and prayers of those here and elsewhere.
I'm a day or more ahead of where I was expected to be in my recovery,
I can't think of a better explanation than the power of prayer
peace
I'm grateful for several reasons -
My sister's support and encouragement through my surgery
The great care team, nursing staff and everyone at the hospital
After a few days of intense pain and discomfort, I think I'm on the other side
The thoughts and prayers of those here and elsewhere.
I'm a day or more ahead of where I was expected to be in my recovery,
I can't think of a better explanation than the power of prayer
peace
My sister's support and encouragement through my surgery
The great care team, nursing staff and everyone at the hospital
After a few days of intense pain and discomfort, I think I'm on the other side
The thoughts and prayers of those here and elsewhere.
I'm a day or more ahead of where I was expected to be in my recovery,
I can't think of a better explanation than the power of prayer
peace
mike....
I'm grateful for several reasons -
My sister's support and encouragement through my surgery
The great care team, nursing staff and everyone at the hospital
After a few days of intense pain and discomfort, I think I'm on the other side
The thoughts and prayers of those here and elsewhere.
I'm a day or more ahead of where I was expected to be in my recovery,
I can't think of a better explanation than the power of prayer
peace
My sister's support and encouragement through my surgery
The great care team, nursing staff and everyone at the hospital
After a few days of intense pain and discomfort, I think I'm on the other side
The thoughts and prayers of those here and elsewhere.
I'm a day or more ahead of where I was expected to be in my recovery,
I can't think of a better explanation than the power of prayer
peace
I would keep that personal trainer. They are giving you a straight answer without sugar coating, and IMHO if I am paying for training, then I don’t want them to dilute their feedback out of concern for my ego. It’s okay to be physically weak, i.e., out of shape. You haven’t been in the gym for 2 years. This trainer sounds like they are going to help you improve, and then not only your trainer, but people who know you will be able to see your progress.
Im not out of shape, actually naturally pretty slim but have very little muscle.
The guy said he wants to show me benefits of lifting and working on your upper body because I wasnt into the idea and only wanted to train my legs and abs, so he showed me a 42 year old woman who was supposedly looking very young. And I said that she was looking too muscular and I didnt wanna look like that. Later the woman turned out to be his wife lol. But in the end i accepted to work on my upper body too, for once a week. I only hope to gain minimal muscle and no more than that tho.
The guy said he wants to show me benefits of lifting and working on your upper body because I wasnt into the idea and only wanted to train my legs and abs, so he showed me a 42 year old woman who was supposedly looking very young. And I said that she was looking too muscular and I didnt wanna look like that. Later the woman turned out to be his wife lol. But in the end i accepted to work on my upper body too, for once a week. I only hope to gain minimal muscle and no more than that tho.