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How Are You Feeling Right Now?
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Brother, you always blame everyone except yourself. Even your own mother. Our mother. What gives you the right to sit there and yell at her and make her feel guilty? You told me once that you follow the ten commandments. If that were so, you'd know to respect and honor your mother. The question is what are you following when you yell at her, because I know it's not God.
I’m wondering if the feeling of being in pain is a return of feeling where you have been numb for so long that it is uncomfortable to feel in that area of your heart/soul.
This happened to me after I quit drinking. It took place after a year + of sobriety (or at least not taking any chemicals I didn’t have to), but it was like blood returning to my feet after they fell asleep; it was painful for a while but eventually it became my ability to feel joy or any other emotion without drugs.
This happened to me after I quit drinking. It took place after a year + of sobriety (or at least not taking any chemicals I didn’t have to), but it was like blood returning to my feet after they fell asleep; it was painful for a while but eventually it became my ability to feel joy or any other emotion without drugs.
Yeah @LumberJack I believe it is akin to that. It's the same timing as well. So what you're saying, or musing about is coming off and out of a toxic/abusive relationship might not be too different from ending alcohol abuse. I've looked for a support group but failed to finything like that at least not around this city.
Regretful. I wish I wasn't such a prisoner of my own nervous system. I can feel very good and capable, I can also feel completely useless and unhappy - all in the space of a day, depending on conditions and triggers. There were a lot of triggers today and some of them got pulled and unloaded buckshot into my proceedings.
I’m sad to say that yes, the pleasat emotions took longer to return.
But to clarify, I’m not suggesting that an abusive relationship ending is necessarily like drug w/d - what I was thinking is that you might have gotten into a habit of suppressing your emotions when you didn’t feel safe or validated.
So it’s a different mechanism than recovery from substance abuse, but I think in both situations, the ability to feel seems to gradually show back up and it’s more painful at first.
Which is not to say that addiction is all that dissimilar from an abusive relationship, at least in my experience recovering from both. In both cases we are being lied to, told that we have only them as a friend, and isolates us from activities and relationships that would otherwise be enjoyable and healing.
But to clarify, I’m not suggesting that an abusive relationship ending is necessarily like drug w/d - what I was thinking is that you might have gotten into a habit of suppressing your emotions when you didn’t feel safe or validated.
So it’s a different mechanism than recovery from substance abuse, but I think in both situations, the ability to feel seems to gradually show back up and it’s more painful at first.
Which is not to say that addiction is all that dissimilar from an abusive relationship, at least in my experience recovering from both. In both cases we are being lied to, told that we have only them as a friend, and isolates us from activities and relationships that would otherwise be enjoyable and healing.
Really pretty terrible actually. After being awake from 7.30am yesterday, and pretty much hammering out a 14 hour day on work and life admin, went to bed only to lie awake feeling totally crap. Took every herbal shit under the sun and also double dose of Benadryl to try to get some sleep. Bought myself maybe 3 hours max and now up again to go through another day of shit.
I slept okay last night but woke up feeling restless. I’m going to use it to my advantage and get a cardio workout in (well, what is a workout to me, given my poor fitness level). I feel less worthless and hopeless than I did when I went to bed last night , but I still have a terrible sense that my life is a mistake.
Vulnerable. I've got a meeting in 40 minutes and have just been in tears over something. I'm ending a long term relationship with my accountant because forced to by costs - but still feels very sad. I hate even small endings. Burst into tears sending my email and still a bit teary eyed. It's a video meeting hopefully the red eyes won't show up too much.
